I'm going to cut the chase. We have been married 1 year. I clean,pay bills,cook sometimes,watch the kids, and wake with the puppy all hours of the night. She still not happy. Nag nag nag
2006-12-14 08:55:42 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Nice! You sound like a good man with all that you do. Maybe you just picked the wrong woman. I know I'd appreciate it if my husband did all of those things!
2006-12-14 09:00:00 · answer #1 · answered by Royalhinney 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Honey, that's what women are like. She may not even realize that she IS nagging you. No one WANTS to be a nag. It's all about perception. In her mind she might think she's reminding you of something, not nagging. But you see it as nagging. It sounds like she definitely takes you for granted. Sit and talk with her. Don't accuse her of being a nag but let her know that her little reminders come across as nagging.
If need be set up a schedule. You pay the bills, keep that just to keep finances straight. One night a week she has to cook (or provide) dinner. If this means that you get pizza on her nights then you get pizza. But it will have to come out of her money. (If she doesn't get an allowance now or has no income you might consider giving her one. Obviously you don't want to call it an allowance...just slip her some cash every week.) Schedule one night a week that is just for you. She'll have to watch the kids and you'll have time to unwind. Make sure you stick to this schedule. It'll make your life easier. But watch yourself. You don't want to become a nag either.
2006-12-14 09:29:14 · answer #2 · answered by bubb1e_gir1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Communicate. There's obviously something she isn't getting out on the table, or perhaps she simply takes you for granted. Some people do that. These are the types that "don't know what they've got 'til it's gone". What's her mom like? If she's a nag too, you can guess this is just the way she is and she learned it honestly. Will she go to counselling? It might take a third party to tell her she's nagging too much to make her listen... and nagging will make a huge dent on every part of your love life. Better to catch it now and take care of it.
2006-12-14 09:20:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've been married one year and there are "kids"? Whose kids are they?
If they are your kids, then that's a big burden to ask a woman to take on. Kids can be really nasty and difficult to a stepmom, because somehow they blame her for the fact that their mom's not around. That could be putting a lot of stress on her.
You need to TALK to her. If you have a good marriage, it shouldn't be necessary to come on Yahoo and ask other people why she's unhappy - you should be able to ask her. If you can't talk to her, go see a marriage counsellor, either alone or together, to learn how. A marriage can't survive without communication.
If they're her kids, then you have to face the possibility that she only married you to put a roof over their heads, and she is using you - in which case, she will keep demanding you do more and more, just to see how much she can get away with.
2006-12-14 09:13:07 · answer #4 · answered by Kylie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nags don't change, but sometimes they will if you are serious about dumping her. I mean serious, ready to move out. Once they see you mean business they MAY want to work on the issue.
Not all women are like this. There are many women who would appreciate the things you do.
2006-12-14 09:48:36 · answer #5 · answered by B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people are like that, my wife was the same way, the more I did for her, the more she expected me to do for her. If she is not happy it has nothing to do with you. You need to get to the root of her problem, something is definetly bothering her, more likely she had a child hood problem and refuses to tell anyone about it. Dont pry, just keep asking why she is unhappy, just tell her....I know something is bothering you because you are always moody....good luck....
2006-12-14 09:09:08 · answer #6 · answered by Bert 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she is depressed. Seriously, that could be the reason. Does she have hobbies? Or is she in school? I guess what I'm asking is what does she do all day? My husband sounds like you. He does lots of stuff around the house and he gets up in the night with our puppy, but I am careful to tell him that I appreciate these things. Sometimes, though, it's easy to take things like this for granted. What you need to do is talk to her. Tell her instead of the Yahoo community. Maybe she doesn't realize what she is doing.
2006-12-14 09:02:00 · answer #7 · answered by danika1066 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Sometimes it has nothing to do with you. Maybe she has issued with herself or her situation. Just keep being the best man you can be, and if she still doesn't appreciate you, then find someone who will. You deserve to be with someone that makes you happy, and is just as happy with you. That's what human relationships are all about.
2006-12-14 09:00:01 · answer #8 · answered by katie4882 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you emotionally attached?????? Are you there bcuz its comfortable??? or do you really love her???? Do you show her LOVE???? You do alot of things but do you show her LOVE and make her feel it???There are lot of reasons why she complains. Maybe that's just her nature and you will have to decide if you can deal with it or not! Actions speak louder than words. Maybe give her more attention and do little special things for her. Talk to her about it and ask her for help to make you understand and maybe you can help.
2006-12-14 09:13:27 · answer #9 · answered by just me 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're a good man, but there is probably some underlying problem. And that's why she's never happy, you should set her down and have a good talk, I'll bet something will surface that has been bothering her.
2006-12-14 09:21:34 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋