My husband works out of town about 4 months out of the year. When he is gone I get lonely and spend alot of time with friends and family. He gets very upset and says that I need to be at home. How can I get him to see just how lonley it is to come home to a empty house day after day????
2006-12-14 08:53:32 · 24 answers · asked by DEBBY'S BABY 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Do you trust him? Maybe since he's wanting you to stay at home all the time and not have a social life, then maybe he doesn't trust himself! He's the one away from home all the time. I know when my man leaves for trips/work, which isn't that long, but I really don't want to go out and party at all. I did spend time with my parents, but the important thing is that we talked all the time, knew what each other was doing and put total trust in believing each other....no questions or doubts. Except 1 time, he didn't call all night and I was HIGHLY PO'd at him the next day for hurting me so badly!!!!! Oh, I never want to feel like that again! Just make sure you call each other several times a day. In the morning when you wake, a couple times during the work day and ALWAYS before you sleep........never not talk before you sleep!
2006-12-14 09:01:49 · answer #1 · answered by inlovewow 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is having this problem it is probably because he is not so sure it is friends and family that you are with.
If he knows it is then you need to set him straight. Tell him that if he wants you to be home all the time to get a job that will let him be close to you and with you.
If his problem is that he can't get hold of you when he wants ask him for a cell phone. Your never more that a call away then.
I would assume he does some kind of contract work. He has to be more reasonable and not expect you to do this. He may be lonely for you too but he has his work.
One way to wake him up is sometime when he is home plan to go out shopping with a family member. Stay out most of the day. If he doesn't get the picture then he never will.
2006-12-14 09:25:30 · answer #2 · answered by John B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband sounds really insecure. Ask him why he feels that you "should" be sitting home alone in a house day after day. Maybe he feels that if you're having too much fun without him there, that you'll feel that you don't need him anymore. Reassure him that you love him, and still miss him, but that it is unreasonable of him to ask you to become a hermit when he's not around. If anything, being alone will be a lot more dangerous than spending time with family and friends.
2006-12-14 09:08:58 · answer #3 · answered by Jess H 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just have to talk to him. How does he feel to not be able to come home to someone after work everyday? It is like with me and the wife on different shifts at work and only the spaniel in bed at night. You just need some real people to talk to.
2006-12-14 08:59:06 · answer #4 · answered by ronnny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont tell him and he will never realize how bored and lonely it is home alone you need to find a girlfriend try adult friend finder,com to help you on does lonely cold night you will have fun girl talk shopping etc it's ok to be lasbian
2006-12-14 09:00:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A good offensive is a good defense. What's he doing the 4 months that's he's out of town?
2006-12-14 08:59:13 · answer #6 · answered by Debra D 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is rough. You need to be able to have time to spend with friends. I mean, what does he do when he's out of town? I am sure he's not sitting in a hotel room.
2006-12-14 08:57:49 · answer #7 · answered by bigfree_2005 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know but he should be feeling the same if he's really working while he's gone so he should understand, another thing could be since he is lonely he wants you to be too
2006-12-14 08:57:25 · answer #8 · answered by Great one 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When hes at home you go away for a few days and let him get the sense of how you feeling and if not go see a marriage councilor.
2006-12-14 09:00:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He gets upset because he can't trust you.
Getting him to see how lonely you are isn't going to fix the issue.
Building his trust in you will fix the issue.
Do whatever you can to build his trust. Be good to him and he should put trust in you.
If he doesn't trust you after that...I don't know what would help.
2006-12-14 09:21:49 · answer #10 · answered by neyoneyon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋