I am pregnant and I told my bf, but after about 2 months he left me. But now he is wanting me back, I am not for sure what to do, I am pregnant with a boy of about 8 months and am not for sure if I should let him back in my life or around my soon to be born son.
2006-12-14 08:52:42 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
And plus if you could give me a name you like for a little boy. I was thinking Leon James.
2006-12-14 08:53:50 · update #1
OK. My ex left me when I was 3 months along and I haven't heard from him since. If I happened to see him and he wanted to even TRY to talk to me, I'd tell him where he could go. But my thing is, he is a big-time drug addict (Lord knows how I got involved in the first place and NEVER did drugs even while with him) and he's an alcoholic. He also deals drugs, etc. He's pretty much the stereotypical low-life. So if you're ex is like that, no, don't let him get involved. It's not good for you baby. As with my ex, he already had a daughter (at least he said the girl "claimed" it was his...probably what he says about me) yet he'd see her.....and he even admitted to me that sometimes they'd sit around when he brought his baby over and smoke pot. Uhhh.....we won't go into what I'd do if ANYONE ever tried to do that around my daughter.
Now, if he's not such a bad guy, he deserves to see his child. And honestly, it can be in the best interest of your child. I believe, if possible, children should have both parents...now, if he's a cheater, you may not want him to have anything to do with him (which I'd not trust him) but he's still his dad. And cheating on you can't really hurt him (typically). I would give him another chance if it's in the best interest of your son...but that doesn't mean dating him. Just letting him in your son's life. If he leaves again, then you have some rethinking to do.
Good luck with everything!!!! I bet you're excited!
And about the name Leon...it's not my favorite pick in the world because I think of Leon from Roseanne (I still watch reruns) but it's not a hideous name or anything. And they go well together! :)
2006-12-14 09:02:41 · answer #1 · answered by Hootie562 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if he wasn't man enough to stick around, I would personally be MAD that he was trying to come back now. But that's me ... it's up to you, really.
He would have to do some serious make-up work! Go to birthing classes, help decorate the nursery, come to the shower (if you haven't had one yet) ... I would expect him to do *everything*. If he's really sorry he left and wanting to be part of your lives, that's the least he can do! If he's really learned a lesson he should be feeling very guilty. Make sure he's willing to do all those things.
Of course, he has a right to know his son! And it's good that he changed his mind and wants to raise him with you. But he's been AWOL for the past 6 months and now you're just supposed to forgive him? Make sure he's serious and ready to be a REAL father before you do much forgiving.
If has passes testing, and you still love him, let him come back. If he just passes testing, well, he'll be a good dad and everything. But you still shouldn't be with a man you don't love. Even if you DO have kids with him. That's the worst example a parent can set ... teach your son that love and responsibility are the most important things in your world.
Good luck.
Oh, and Leon James is a cute name. I like it fine. But if you're not sure about it, pick out a couple others, and choose the one that fits him best when he's born. : )
2006-12-14 09:01:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He came back! Maybe he was just scared at first. I'm guessing your both young. You have to decide and with limited info specific advise is hard. Is he good to you? Does he show real interest in his son being born? Is he a good guy? Do you love him? Can he provide? It's always better if a child has two GOOD parents, key word good. Can't tell you for sure, but those are things to consider.
I like Lucas over Leon, but naming a child is real personal and that is a nice name combination
God Bless!
2006-12-14 09:03:54 · answer #3 · answered by rumbler_12 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leon James is an intresting name. As to the bf I wouldn't let him back around you both in case he leaves you two again later when the baby is born. Good luck.
2006-12-14 09:14:13 · answer #4 · answered by baddrose268 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he truley loves you and i really going to take care of your baby. Then yes i think you should let him back in your life. But for the fact that he left after you told him you were preganat might mean he's not ready to be a father. But the fact that he is coming back means he needed time to think about it.I mean be coming a father is a big thing. But it sounds like he is ready for the responibility and that he really loves you and the baby. I'm not you but if i were. I think i would talk to him and make sure he is as ready for this as you are. And make up your mind after that. Oh and i'm not to big on picking out names but personly my favorite names in the world for a boy are: Pete, Ryan, and Brendon. Daniel is also a good name along with Nate.
2006-12-14 09:04:40 · answer #5 · answered by Lily 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know your bf more than anyone. He most likely left due to the shock of the pregnancy and the over whelming amount of responsibility required from him. he might have needed time to get himself used to the idea. However if it we me, I'd say if he left when the presure was on once, he might be likely to do it again. It is a tough choice to make, butif you let him back and he takes responibility for his son, and for what ever reason it doesn't work out between you two, you will still have financial support--hopefully.
2006-12-14 09:02:06 · answer #6 · answered by Jenni 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course you should take him back because if you don't the baby will not have a daddy. I really think that Leon James is a good name. Good luck in Labor!!
2006-12-14 09:14:29 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't just jump back into a relationship with him. I would let him come around,maybe hang out with him buy baby stuff and then build a relationship again and see how it goes. I do think you should give him that chance, for your son. I love the name you picked out! keep it! Good Luck and Congrats!!
2006-12-14 08:59:44 · answer #8 · answered by Shampaine 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should try to work things out with him. Maybe when you first told him, he freaked out and didn't know how to react properly. But if wants to be a part of your life now, let him. Not only for your sanity but for the baby as well. If he's willing to work things out with you than by all means let him. I wish you guys lots of love and happiness for your new family.
2006-12-14 08:58:29 · answer #9 · answered by Esther 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I don't know all the details behind him taking off. Sounds like he got really freaked out and has finally come to his senses. I would highly suggest counceling for te two of you to figure out whether or not you will b together or how the two of yo can raise your son together even if your not living together. Hugs i wish you the best
2006-12-14 08:57:14 · answer #10 · answered by shannon 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋