How would you rate these qualities in a husband?

Question

How would rate the following qualities when you choose your husband: 1. Education 2. Job, 3. financial status. 4. Looks 5. Sex - Quality and quantity. 6. His ability to be a good and responsible friend and companion to you.

List them in order and say why

Answer 1

Without a doubt, his ability to be a good and responsible friend to me is #1. You can build a foundation on that. #2 Education. Being well educated doesn't necessarily mean you hold a degree in anything. It means you have the ability to communicate and learn, and that is incredibly important in a marriage. #3 Looks. It's nice to look at something you can appreciate. #4 Financial Status. A good man will have goals and not mooch off you. #5 Sex Quality and Quantity. It's gotta be good, however I have no doubt this would rate higher for men. :) and last, #6 Job. Who cares what they do for a living as long as they are happy.

Answer 2

6,3,1,2,5,4
I think six is the most important because if you can't be good friends and companions how can you expect to be husband and wife. Now the other 5 are interchangeable. I think financial status is next only because of how much it cost just to live today. You have to marry someone with good financial status or someone who can get a good financial status. That's where education and job comes in. If they have a good education then they can get a good job which will lead to a good financial status. So 1-3 can be switched around. Now I put 5 and 4 at the end in no particular order. I think they are important but no where near the first 3 and number 6. I mean if #6 is the most important then looks won't really matter and if they do, you can always improve upon them. and #5,haha well I've never done #5 so that's why it's at the end with #4. I don't really know how important that is yet.

Answer 3

I would sum some of these up...
1. Financial status/job/education (in order to have one he needs the other)
2. Looks/sex-quality and quantity (if you have good sex is because you find him attractive, without good sex the looks really don't matter)
3. Ability to be a good, responsible friend and companion.

The reason I put it in this order is because, when we first met my husband I first knew what he did for a living, learned he had a very stable financial status and promising future. Then, sex…which of course was great because I was completely attracted to him (still am). Learning to be a good, responsible friend and companion is something that comes with time. With time you learn about each other and what you both need. I believe that we continue to learn how to be better friends and companions because as we get older, as humans, we change and adjust. Having a loving committed relationship will make this bond grow stronger and tighter.

Answer 4

6 - This has to be first. Without this all the others could be absolutely perfect and we still wouldn't be happy.

2 - Maybe I'm a little old fashioned but having a job means he can provide for the family. This doesn't mean that I don't have to work, but I would feel so much better for my husband to have a steady, stable job that makes him happy. (My husband does have a terrific job)

1 - By education I assume you mean intelligence - not so much in the way of a formal education. I want to be able to have conversations with my husband about more things than just whats for dinner and how much the electric bill is this month. To be able to connect is to be able to communicate. (My husband only completed high school and is still among the smartest men I know)

3 - Financial status doesn't mean he has to be rich. He can be dirt poor for all care - as long as he knows how to handle what money he has. I don't want someone who is irresponsible with money. (My husband can't add to save his life, but he is thrifty as anything - except when it comes to getting me gifts. He tends to overspend - but I never complain....hehehe)

5 - A physical connection between man and wife is a very important thing. Just because it's down here at the bottom, doesn't mean I don't think sex is an important thing in a marriage. That is the time when we get to really be close physically and emotionally. It keeps us going together and gives us something to look forward to after a long day...even cuddles are important.

4 - If he has met all these other qualities, then he is handsome already. He could have a face like a pizza, but he sounds like the perfect husband to me. (My husband is freakin hott btw - I have no idea why he chose a girl so plain as me...but I am totally not complaining)

Answer 5

6. companionship: A #1. This is a must for any relationship.
5. sex: Quality and quantity a must. I've been married twice, I've learned since that there are men out there who enjoy my orgasm as much as their own. Thats a very nice quality.
2. Job: he must have a job...don't need a bum in my life.
1. Education: I don't care if he didn't go to college, so long as he has common sense and isn't afraid to admit when he's wrong
3. Financial status: so long as he can pay his bills, I'm good. Never again will I combine my income w/ someone else. We can go halfsy, but we won't combine our income.
4. Looks: Thats a hard one...I must be attracted to him...but other girls may think he's ugly...so how do you rate that?

Answer 6

I'd rate a quality you didn't even list as #1:

1. Respect: for himself and respect he has for his wife. And ditto for her. I put respect #1 because I have never known a lasting marriage that didn't have it, and I have never seen a marriage where respect was absent succeed. (And I know several couples who have been married for 50+ years and loving every day of it.)
2. His ability to be a good and responsible friend and companion to you.--This is very important. If you don't LIKE each other as friends and companions, how can your love for each other last?
3. Education--I think that you have to have sufficient education to be somewhat knowledgeable about the world in general, just to be happy and respect yourself.
4. Job--You have to have a job to give you a feeling of self-respect and being valued outside the relationship. It doesn't have to be a paid job. Homemaker or volunteer could do.
5. Financial status--You have to have enough money to get by, but I believe that if someone really wants money, they should work for it themselves, not try to marry it.
6. Sex-- The need and desire for this ebbs and flows in the relationship. There will be times when you go without, and times when you'll be jumping on each other like a couple of rabbits. Also, good sex is something you can learn. And enjoy in the learning!
7. Looks-- I rate this last because as you age, your looks change. If looks are all you have going for a relationship, I'd say you're in trouble from the get-go because looks don't last.

I say this from the perspective of someone who has been happily married for 29 years.

Answer 7

On a scale of 1-10, 10 being the highest.

1= 8.. Lots of people can be a good person without a hugh education.
2= 10...A job is probably the most important in order to survive.
3= 8 ...Finances are important of course, but he doesn't have to be a Millionaire!
4= 3...Everyone seems to worry about looks but it shouldn't matter.
5= 7...Quality not quantity.
6= 10++++++...This is the most important of them all.

Answer 8

6, 2, 5, 1, 4, 3

My husband has to be my best friend (and is). I don't make much so he has to be able to have and hold a job...though if medical stuff arose I would totally understand and made do. If there is no sex then the marriage has all kinds of issues (proven fact).

The last 3 don't mean a lot to me but I tried to just stick them in order somehow. I don't want a totally uneducated guy because he would be bored with me and vice versa since I am educated. Looks don't mean squat to me and neither does financial status so I just tossed them in.

Answer 9

#1 friendship
#2 job
#3 sex
#4 financial status
#5 education
#6 looks

Answer 10

1. Ability to be a good and responsible friend and companion
2. Education
3. Job
4. Financial Status
5. Sex
6. Looks