i just came out about a week ago and now im finnaly catching the grief... will it go away? i was just wondering? umm, i am catching people saying diffrent things like what doris says, im nt really bothered by it but it is kind of buggy and insignificant just like doris and kkkjewsucker or whatever or like kkkgirllover and yeah so what should i do about those ppl that r starting to gossip about me and i am kind of scared of getting beat up and suff like that i mean i am constantly hearing things like, "alex you f.@g" and things like that and it kind of hurts my feelings and i really, really need your help or any other advice you have to give, thanx to u
xoxo~alex
2006-12-14 08:42:43 · 8 answers · asked by I Smoke Cigarettes 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
First of all, Amen BuckFush!!! Great post! Now, I know exactly what you are going through. I live in Mississippi, one of the most AGAINST-GAY states of all, and in a school full of big, bulky guys that hate me and aren't afraid of fighting!!! It is a proven fact that you fear 1.what you don't understand, and 2.what you can't exept about yourself. So, it always helps me to remember that the ones that do the most gossiping about me are either gay themselves, like the girl in my school that talks about me the most, or are afraid of me, like the boy that talks about me the most!!! And, about the getting beat up thing, I am right there with you!!!
2006-12-14 11:14:44 · answer #1 · answered by §~You can't judge me!~§ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Now that you are "out", so are the prejudices of the people around you. remember that the people who are not voicing epitaths and slurs at you are not agreeing with the people who are. They may not feel strong enough to stand up as you have done against the societal grain. Those who are verbally attacking you are probably frustrated because you are showing greater strength than they ever will, so they pull the "bully" routine, thinking if they denounce you loud enough, you will change. You will have to show the same kind of fortitude through out life, but you have a better shot at it than the people who can't tolerate anything but themselves.
2006-12-14 18:20:56 · answer #2 · answered by sapphire 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they are talking about you now then they weren't your friends in the first place. You haven't changed a bit, they just now know what you like to do in the bedroom....So what. The friends that don't care and are supportive were truly your friends from the start. Good luck.
2006-12-14 17:39:10 · answer #3 · answered by Jake 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Always remember two things when dealing with what people say.
1. If they don't feed you and clothe you and pay your bills and give you a home to live in then their opinion means nothing.
2. When you allow someone to hurt you by what they say then you're giving them power.Take their power away by not allowing their words to matter.Nothing infuriates them more then when you are not bothered by them.
2006-12-14 17:04:47 · answer #4 · answered by BuckFush 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just try to have a lot of gay friends or just friends in general and hang aroung good vibe.... just be careful when your alone and brush negativity off your shoulder.
2006-12-14 17:03:08 · answer #5 · answered by Noclue 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't be offended. Other gays like myself know how you feel, and just believe you have us to rely on ;)
I also sent a really b*tchy email to yahoo saying they need to rethink their users, questions, and answers.
2006-12-14 16:46:27 · answer #6 · answered by Greg H 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
let it go like water on a duck's back, they don't know you, and they're just not confident enough in themselves! don't let it bother you!
2006-12-14 16:51:34 · answer #7 · answered by heaven-sin-t 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about it....Homosexuality is not your problem..it's their problem. If they can't deal with it like adults...then who cares?
2006-12-14 17:10:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋