One of my friends got out of a bad marriage about a year and a half ago and she is pregnant with her fiance's baby. She just found out that she is having a girl. She is afraid that she's not going to be happy about having a baby girl because she had such a bad experience with her ex-husbands daughter. She's not superficial. She is just nervous about having a girl. I am trying to cheer her up. Can you help me out by naming some good things about having a girl? Thanks in advance. Serious answers only, please.
2006-12-14 08:35:22 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
carebearsrsweet930-I didn't say that she is pissed about having a girl. I said that she was nervous. BIG difference. She's happy that she's having a baby, but she just found out TODAY that she's having a girl and she has all of these doubts. There is absolutely NOTHING wrong with having doubts. It's normal.
2006-12-14 08:58:52 · update #1
As a father, I can think of nothing better than having a daughter. She's my partner in crime. We always gang up on mom when either of us wants something. I loved just holding her and looking at her when she was a baby (She's five now). I didn't care when people gave me strange looks for going into the baby dept. and picking out pink clothes, clothes with Minnie Mouse on them, or buying toys in the girl section of the toy dept.
Having a daughter (or son) is wonderful. Your friends ex's daughter might have been a terror, but perhaps that's due to the fact that your friend wasn't her mother. Or maybe her biological parents were just bad.
Tell your friend to do her best with this new child and good luck.
2006-12-14 08:47:05 · answer #1 · answered by kenrayf 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
90% genetics and 10% invironment. Just depends which genetics she inherits! I say this because I am adopted. I never saw my birth mother for my whole life (except for the first 3 days in the hospital). I met her a year ago and we are so alike in dress, style, personality, sense of humor and interests. True that I inherited most of her genetics, but it will work out. She can get an idea of her babies personality by looking at her personality and her fiances. I'm sure everything will be great! Kids get rebellious especially if there is a divorce. She can't blame herself. Her daughter probably had a rough go too.
2006-12-14 08:47:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
1.Pack a picnic. Head to your local park with a blanket and lunch. Let your baby feel the grass tickle his feet, and have him lie on your lap and watch the leaves rustle in the wind. Even if he's too young to roll a ball, he'll love watching other people play. Frisbee games, bikes, dogs, birds, and squirrels are all five-star entertainment.
2.Consider a class. Because of unpredictable naps and moods, babies who are younger than 6 months don't always get a huge amount out of classes. Moms probably benefit more from them -- and that's okay as long as you choose an activity you actually enjoy! Some examples: Mommy and Me yoga (check your local yoga studio), a music class like Music Together or Kindermusik, a group exercise class such as Stroller Strides or Strollercize, or infant massage (hospitals often offer classes).
3.Tune in, rock out. When was the last time you gave your dusty CDs a second look? Plant yourselves in front of your collection, and listen to favorites from your college years or your best-loved soundtracks.
4.Make a net flick. As soon as you manage to send one batch of baby photos to loved ones, you're hounded for new pictures. Thankfully, today's technology can make sharing milestones a creative project.
5.Talk to the animals. Go to the pet store, and watch your baby laugh with glee when she sees the puppies and kittens jumping around. Identify the animals, and then help her wave hello to each of them. Exotic-bird stores can be entertaining, too, especially if the bird gives your baby a shout-out.
6.Say hola, bambino. Always wanted to polish up your Spanish or learn the basics of French? Do it! Borrow language tapes from the library, or buy them from a bookstore. Then practice them around your child. You can also find storybooks in Spanish or other language to read aloud. Your baby may not actually pick up any words, but research has shown that a baby's exposure to another language can help improve her mastery of foreign languages down the road.
7.Share a soak. Relaxing in a tub can be a reality! Listen to classical music or sing a lullaby as you soak together in warm water. If your baby is feeling more playful, add in some bath toys and plastic cups, and sing Ernie's "Rubber Duckie." Either way, it's a great bonding experience. For safety reasons, be sure not to fill the tub too high, and always have a firm hold on your child.
2006-12-14 08:51:01 · answer #3 · answered by ♥♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's all in the upbringing! With her own child, she will be able to raise her the way she sees fit. I have a 2 year old daughter and she is the light of my life! Little girls are generally more affectionate. Not to mention all the beautiful clothes to dress her in. Even at 2, my daughter loves to try on clothes and play dress up. Also, potty training little girls is easier. Not as much "poor aim" messes to clean up!
But really, if she raises the baby to be respectful and teaches her how to treat people, she won't have any issues. (beyond the usual stuff parents go through with their children)
Good Luck to your friend and to you!
2006-12-14 08:49:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow... what a question! I'm sorry, but if you have children, you should love those children no matter what- boy or girl! I mean, YOU are that child's parent! So however they end up, it's all based on YOU as the parent. I'm sorry, but if she is pissed she is having a girl for those reasons, that's terrible. I have always felt deep down that my mom did not want me- she didn't even want to go to the hospital when she was in labor with me! She treated me very badly growing up-not like my younger brothers. She even called me "cinderella" when she gave me LONG chore lists... anyways, we do not have a great relationship-never have... and for some reason I feel it's because she resented having me.... so here you go- this is what is gonna happen to this poor girl if her mother doesn't give a sh*t or isn't happy about having her. I long for the day my mom and I will be close. I now have a child (son) of my own- in a way, I do hope I get a girl someday too because any child I have, I want them to feel loved. And to have what I didn't and don't.... a BOND with my mother!
2006-12-14 08:46:43 · answer #5 · answered by m930 5 · 2⤊ 2⤋
I have 2 boys and my youngest is a girl. I was terribly nervous about a girl. I was worlingin day care at the time I was pregnant and surrounded by all of these obnoxious, self absorbed girls. I was hysterical. I finally came to terms with the fact there wasno changing her into a boy. And the our children turn out how we raise them. My daughter is the best thing that has every happened to me. She is so much easier then my boys.
ONe thing to remember is that we raise our kids based on our beliefs and our standards. If she was havig trouble with her ex-husband's daughter, then it was probably because she wasn't there for the adolesence of his daughter. All she needs to remember is her daughter is her's and her fiance's and no one elses. She will have no problem loving and caring for her once she gets her.
I know I was nervous about my daughter until the day she was placed in my arms, and all of my anxious, nervous feelings disappeared. If is good that she has such a concerned friend.
2006-12-14 08:44:48 · answer #6 · answered by Jenni 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
First of all she just needs to get over the bad experience with her ex-husband's daughter. This will be her child and that does make a difference. It is an unconditional love like no other.
2006-12-14 08:47:50 · answer #7 · answered by MRS. JRW 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cute clothes for one! As a mother, I never liked kids until I had my own. When you have your little bundle of joy all of those instincts start to kick in, and you love the baby no matter what. I think it's easier to relate to girls, and plus they are easier to clean up during diaper changes. They also don't leak as much as boys! Tell her not to worry, some kids are just plain brats and the reason her ex's daughter was a brat was probably because of the way the mother raised her. Kids are like our own little mirror images.
2006-12-14 08:40:21 · answer #8 · answered by dolly 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
its good to have a baby girl is because you can teach the way u want here to be. u can act like girlfriend and go to the mall with her. Also u can tell her advice u needed when u was going throw with . And having a baby girl is good cause u can gave the respectfulness ur mom gave to u when u were a child.
2006-12-14 08:46:51 · answer #9 · answered by Foxy13 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Baby girls are so cute when they carry around their little baby dolls .. and they always want to be just like mommy!! Just because her ex's girl was bad, doesn't mean her daughter will be .. she needs to remember it is how the child is raised is how she will act .. so she can mold that baby to be the best person ever!
2006-12-14 08:40:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋