I mean people start this of as a form of insincere complements because it is usually followed with ".. but you don't have the (something here) for the (place/thing) here. I heard once that it is just insulting to people to say this from a talk show host, but what do you all think?
2006-12-14 08:25:16 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
I don't know what is the reason for others when they say it, but I will tell you why I did say it to someone in this site few days ago.
The reason is to explain a point. A person who is intelligent doesn't mean that person is right all the time, nor does it mean they know what they are saying. Many good people who are intelligent can be wrong and not so nice.
It does not have to mean they want to insult you. It may only means to clarify things that may not be clear to other readers.
Don't over react. Not everyone is trying to get you, or get to you. It could be simply a misunderstanding. People respond in their way, and it doen't mean they want to insult you, it may only means that is their point of view and nothing more.
2006-12-17 09:08:30 · answer #1 · answered by Sierra Leone 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
It's possible that it is a way to soften an impending insult.
It is also possible that the person is incredulous that someone who is intelligent could have whatever flaws they are about to enumerate.
Or, as a talk show host, you have to appeal to everyone in an audience, so saying a little nice AND then a little mean covers both people who like the person and people who don't.
2006-12-14 08:30:30 · answer #2 · answered by ladygirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most of the time you sandwich a 'but' into a comment you are making about someone, it's a put down to some degree. This would not be the case, of course, if you were to say "You're freakin' awesome but I know I'll never be good enough for you." In that case, you're putting down yourself. So the message is don't be so general when you're asking questions like this. You'll likely just get a stereotypical response!
2006-12-14 08:29:21 · answer #3 · answered by stevijan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People that are insecure and have low self esteem they will take it as an insult. It just depedns on whats said afterwards. What if someone says "You know your very intelligent, but you didnt put much effort into working on your project"? Thats not an insult and shouldnt be taken as one.
Hope that helps
2006-12-14 08:41:59 · answer #4 · answered by Z 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes. never say but after a complipent or a nice thing. its just a so-called "nice" way to get something mean out. think of it-if someone say " you're really pretty, but you're always getting zits" its not a nice thing and you probably won't take it as a compliment eiher. all you would hear is the you're always getting zits part which is mean.
so yes, saying but after a compliment or nice thing is rude/insulting/mean
2006-12-14 08:29:51 · answer #5 · answered by london.paris17 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
insulting people is a fine art...which contains a very simple model....
compliment followed by an insult, then an explaination...
so yes, total insult!
2006-12-14 08:28:49 · answer #6 · answered by bunny foo foo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
people who say things like this are ignorant. u just can compliment some one then say someting bad. people should just be honest. thats like saying no offense but u r ugly!! they think they r helping u out but in reality they just want the worst for u
2006-12-14 08:28:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes
2006-12-14 08:27:34 · answer #8 · answered by snfcricket 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You do great work for a fat guy! Compliment? Never qualify a compliment, it's insulting.
2006-12-14 08:28:18 · answer #9 · answered by chipster_45 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes its the way some people think that if they compliment you then let you down easily things wont be taken so harshly.
2006-12-14 08:28:15 · answer #10 · answered by Ms. Q 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋