I have been trying for 2 years to get a specific job where my husband works. 2 months ago my friend who has the same education exactly asked me whom she should contact. I helped her as much as I could and told her what i know. I knew then she was going to apply to the same job but thought it is only fair to tell her where to go and leave things to fate. I also was quite sure I had a priority so she is no threat to me.I was shocked when she called me to say she got the job. I congratulated her but my husband wanted to know why her. He asked the human resources manager and he told him these were superior orders to stop my papers even though I was almost on the edge of getting employed. I accused her and her husband in front of our freinds of stealing my place and my husband resigned from the same place because he thinks everybody petrayed him. she denied of course. I am worried she has nothing to do with it and my papers were refused for other reasons. If so how should i clear the mess?
2006-12-14 08:25:09 · 6 answers · asked by molley 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Go straight to the source.
Do not assume anything or you are going to keep hurting people (including yourself).
You can call the Human Resource department and find out the reason why (you as an applicant) have the right to know why you were not accepted.
If that doesn't work, then send a written petition, make a copy and mail it out (request a proof of delivery).
If that still doesn't work, then take legal action, but now you have proof that you have been trying to get that information peacefully.
Hopefully you don't have to go through all that just to get that info, but if you must know, then go ahead.
I always think, that if something is meant for you, you are going to get it no matter what; so think this way........
If you didn't get that opportunity, is maybe cause there's something better to you on it's way.
2006-12-14 08:35:06 · answer #1 · answered by Feisty B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you husband's co-workers are telling him that human resources received superior order not to employ you then what business do you have accusing your friend that she was behind this.....this sound like you were clearly not thinking before you spoke and clearly exercised poor judgment .... maybe that's why they didn't hire you!!
p.s. i say you not bother trying to befrind this other lady again, sounds like she's too good for you!
2006-12-14 16:34:12 · answer #2 · answered by sa-da-tay 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you can clear the entire mess. Your husband quit and he feels betrayed. I would forget about your friend and help him deal with things. I find that the more you help others in life the more you get screwed.
2006-12-14 16:30:39 · answer #3 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simply appologize. You had a momentary lapse of judgement and acted irrationally, tell her. You are only human, and let her know that you are genuinely upset by your own actions. Ask if you can take her to lunch and make it up to her.
2006-12-14 16:29:19 · answer #4 · answered by sassinya 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to the human resources manager yourself.
2006-12-14 16:28:25 · answer #5 · answered by smeezleme 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hire a lawyer.
2006-12-14 16:26:41 · answer #6 · answered by S K 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋