Ok at school two days ago my friend Chris was walking with me alone on the track, and I said i was really cold, and he offered to give me his coat. I felt weird, so I said no thank you, i'm fine. Well my best friend Christina was absent that day, and she really likes Chris, but I also like him......A LOT!!! So I called her right away when I got home. She was really mad and at the same time sad about what had happened earylier that day. But she said whatever and tried to ignore it. At school he flirts with me and says hi to me (and Christina) in the hallways between classes. I'm afraid to talk to him infront of her because she makes me feel like an idiot in front of him when she says stuff about me. So I try to talk to him when she's not around. Which is never......but i'm afraid that he's gonna ask me out infront of her....if he does, Christina would cry her eyes out and probably never talk to me again. I seriously need some advice, and fast!!!!! PLEASE answer this quetion for me!!!!!!
2006-12-14 08:20:21 · 14 answers · asked by spartamonkey14 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
sweetie,don't worry about your friend she will be ok.my question to u is,r u ok?honey is all about u not your friend,if u like something n u don't go for it,u will realize dat is too late.your friend will go for it n u will be sad n say to yourself,had i know is always at last.
2006-12-14 08:28:29 · answer #1 · answered by diana b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You and your friend both like the same guy, and like him a lot. And it sounds like he prefers you. So you have a tough decision before you - do you pursue the relationship and hurt your friend's feelings, or do you put your friend first?
Nobody wins here. Even if you tell her how much you like him and she gives you her blessing, she'll still be upset about her loss. But if you give him up to spare her feelings, you will suffer a loss and might resent her.
Talk honestly with your friend and let her know that while you really really like him, you value her friendship and don't want to hurt or disrespect her. Maybe together you can find a way to make it okay (maybe find another guy for her?). She needs to respect the fact that you & the boy have mutual feelings for each other, and she shouldn't try to sabotage it, but you also have to remember how hard it is for her to see enjoying what she can't have.
2006-12-14 08:29:45 · answer #2 · answered by teresathegreat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your friend - if she is truly your friend should open her eyes and comprehend the fact that Chris flirts with you also...Not just her...he has not singled her out solely to make her feel special...he flirts with the both of you. Her down playing you and talking about you in a manner that makes you look bad and her look better to him should show you right off that she is not your true friend. The choice is up to Chris. If he happens to choose you or ask you out in front of her...it's his decision and just means that he likes you more...If she is pathetic enough to get upset with you about a choice he makes (most likely based on the fact that she disrespects you to boost her own ego in front of him) ...then you'll need to stop being her friend, with a friend who puts her wants and needs above respecting and honoring your friendship---you don't need enemies.
2006-12-14 08:50:03 · answer #3 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a hard one. You just have to figure out if the boy is worth losing your friend over. He almost never is. The only thing I could suggest is that you talk to Christina about it. Let her know how you feel, see how she responds, and go from there. Good Luck :)
2006-12-14 08:27:34 · answer #4 · answered by Tracy G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes we have to make a choice between Friends and it;s hard. One thing is for sure, boys come and go, but your girl pals can last a life time. I think you should talk and maybe both of you say no to Chris.
2006-12-14 08:26:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should talk to her and see how she would feel if you and chris went out. If she is truly okay with it then go for it. If not, I think you both should stay away from because it could end up hurting your friendship.
2006-12-14 08:32:16 · answer #6 · answered by angelicasongs 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I think you need to talk to her. Tell her how you feel and maybe you guys can work something out. If he does asks you out infront of her then I'd say 'I need some time to think about it' and then talk to her.
2006-12-14 08:37:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he asks you out, then its you he asked,, since he has made no commitment to either of you. If he does and she cries, well then she needs to mature. If she is really your friend she will eventually be happy for you.
Offering you his coat was a gentleman gesture and doesn't point to anything more than that.
2006-12-14 08:32:12 · answer #8 · answered by yeller 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her...if you both like him, maybe you should agree that neither of you will go out with him. If he does ask one of you out, be direct and adult with him...tell him that no, you won't go out with him even though you like him because your friend also likes him and you don't want a guy to come between you and your friendship.
2006-12-14 08:47:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Friends are forever, boy friends hardly never last.
Just tell your friend that she means more to you than any guy, and let her know that he has been flirting with you. That way she knows he's a jerk and maybe won't go after him either.
2006-12-14 08:35:48 · answer #10 · answered by Powerplay 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋