Two of my flatmates have recently started ignoring me for no apparent reason. We were fine up until Tuesday night, then one of them stopped talking to me and now the other one isnt talking to me either. I haven't done or said anything to piss them off, but a couple of their friends have been arguing over where to live next year and we all seem to have become caught up in it. Should I confront them or write a letter, or just leave it? I should mention that I can't stand confrontation, but the tension is really bad now, and I dont want to go away for 3 weeks without sorting it out somehow.
Please help! I have to decide today as I'm going on holiday tommorrow!
2006-12-14 08:09:15 · 28 answers · asked by @>-- Dee --<@ 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Just ask them if you've done something to offend them. What's wrong with establishing a little communication?
2006-12-14 08:12:56 · answer #1 · answered by Reo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suggest you confront them! Just ask them whats up? By the sounds of it, you could come back and discover that the friends who are arguing over where to live next year, could be moving in!!! Just ask an open question and see where it goes. Good luck I hope you sort it out. And have a great holiday!!
2006-12-14 08:54:36 · answer #2 · answered by lynne 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must have done something wrong. Ordinary people, i.e. those without sociopathic problems, do not start ignoring someone without a reason. Maybe you have stopped being as clean as you used to be. It could be an issue with the noises you make at night. Or maybe it is the stains you leave on the sofa.
I found it was a combination of those things that led to my flatmates moving out.
Hope this helps!
2006-12-14 08:14:36 · answer #3 · answered by may_contain_nuts 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
They are probably trying to freeze you out so you will get piss ed off and move out, and they can move their other friend in. It's up to you what you want to do. Stay and put up with the childish behaviour and be very lonely at home for a while or move in with some decent folk and leave macbeth's witches to cackle around their cauldron. It might seem a defeat to leave but is it really worth the hassle? If you are at uni and this is a student share you really don't need this stress and atmostphere to come home to everyday it is not good for your studies. I say give up the ghost and ditch these little girls/boys.
2006-12-14 12:41:19 · answer #4 · answered by Smoochy Poochy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on what you are like. If they are ignoring you why bother trying with people like that. If you are sure they are deliberately ignoring you ignore them, they will expect you to get upset and start asking why they are. Pretend you never noticed they are ignoring you. Talk to them normally when you come across them but don't reach out.
Also it depends if you are really good friends, if they were would they be ignoring you. Remember women stink! They always let trivial things come between them. Whenever I have had female friends they either stop talking to you once they are talking to their boyfriends, ignore you around boys or try and covertly criticise you. Obviously not all are like that, I am sure some girl on Yahoo Answers will point that out!!
2006-12-14 08:16:21 · answer #5 · answered by The Face 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can either ask them to their faces what is wrong
or since your going away tomorrow how about you write them a letter now and post it so they get it while your away. Say in your letter that if youve done something without realising it your sorry but you would like them to be honest with you and tell you what it is. Put in your letter you would like them to contact you before you get back as your not sure if they still want to be friends with you.
Good luck. I wouldnt myself just leave it
2006-12-16 08:17:42 · answer #6 · answered by Mystic Magic 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems like you flat mates are giving you the cold shoulder with the hope you leave the flat to make way for there mates,well it must be working your ready to go all ready,don't be a mug tough it out,they will soon see there coldness had little or no affect,then maybe life could get back to normal
2006-12-14 09:50:08 · answer #7 · answered by barnowl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They obviously have an issue that they feel is to do with you. You need to discuss it tonight so that you can clear up any misunderstandings or apologise if you have upset anyone unintentionally. Try not to be too confrontational, just say that it is clear that there is something on their minds. It will fester if left like this. If they don't want to be honest with you then maybe it's time to go your separate ways.
2006-12-14 08:17:04 · answer #8 · answered by annie 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't confront them but just ask if you have done something to offend them. There is a difference. Confronting someone gives the impression of a potential arguement. If you go at it with a have I done something casual attitude, you will have a better response.
2006-12-14 08:20:41 · answer #9 · answered by eharrah1 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Talk to them quick smart. Don't dwell on it just say what you have to and await the reply. They may be worried about their friends and are hoping by sending you to Conventry that you will want to move voluntarily. It's just a thought but the same thing (similar) happened to me once. Good luck and Merry Christmas.xx
2006-12-14 08:19:30 · answer #10 · answered by maria bartoninfrance 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why waste your breath with more talking, what are you going to achieve anyway they already decided, just go on holiday and when back just move out and don't get too attached to any more flatmates, find a man and start a family.
2006-12-14 11:54:22 · answer #11 · answered by b94897p8 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋