My husband and I separated because of many reasons (none to do with cheating, abuse or loss of trust). Once he was on his own for a while he says he realized how he took advantage of me and claims he is a changed man. He promises he can treat me differently and misses me a lot. Do you really think that a man can realize what they have once it is gone and become a better husband? Serious answers only please :)
2006-12-14 08:06:09 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think yes they can. Sometimes people get caught up in life and forget what's important to them and often take things for granted. I learned this valuable lesson the same way. When my husband and I were dating we split up because we were not treating each other like we felt we should. After being apart and being friends for 1 year we realized that we couldnt live without each other and both made a change for the best!!! We have been back together for 3 years and married for 2 months! I say, give him one more chance!
2006-12-14 08:12:31 · answer #1 · answered by ashleyod 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
In most of the more common expressions, there is often a grain of truth. Upon reading your question, the expression that pops into my mind is, "You don't know what you have until it's gone." Your separation may have put into perspective for him how important his relationship with you is. You did marry the man, so I believe you should give him another chance. Be sure to state your expectations clearly up front, preferrably in writing, and get his agreement to your stipulations (and signature) before getting back together with him. And if he has changed, if he clearly is trying, forgive and forget.
2006-12-14 08:15:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anyone can change. As you say that he was not abusive or unfaithful, I would definitely give him another chance. Ask him if he would be willing to attend marital counseling with you. If he is, he probably has changed and is willing to continue working at it. If not, then he still needs work, and may even be just trying ot manipulate you. But yes, anyone has the capability to change, they just have to make the decision, and then the harder part--the effort.
Hope things work out for you.
2006-12-14 08:21:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can only apply it to both genders and not just husbands.
Normally people tell people what they want to hear because they want something and may change for a while, but they normally fall back into the same grind without a thought. Sometimes they do realize what they lost and do make the effort, but normally not.
2006-12-14 08:13:02 · answer #4 · answered by Rickard 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really dont think so...been there done that...He will only be the great husband you want for a short period of time but then he will go right back to the same thing he was going when you seperated. If he has been acting like this for years he will definatley not change for very long.
2006-12-14 08:11:08 · answer #5 · answered by isis_nicole 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely! My husband and I had a similiar rough patch for a few months and we seperated. He went to counseling and swore he changed. It's been 2 & 1/2 years since we got back together and I could never dream of a better husband! Everyone can change...they just have to want it bad enough. Me leaving made him want it bad enough to be together again...so he did what he had to do to make that happen. Good luck!!
2006-12-14 08:13:16 · answer #6 · answered by MACmommy 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes. I did it just recently. We we're about to divorce and had already been to court once. 5 months. I'm back now with the wife and kids. I changed for the better. But, the difference is, (the mother-in-law is not involved with OUR marriage anymore). So, in a way, we both changed.
2006-12-14 08:13:21 · answer #7 · answered by Gasman 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
People can definitely change. You say no cheating, abuse, etc. I'd give it a shot if you still love him. No one stays the same throughout their entire life. It's absolutely possible for people to change.
2006-12-14 09:40:40 · answer #8 · answered by Lotus 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anyone can change if they really want to. However, I wouldn't completely trust him. Just try some casual outings together if you want. If you see instances of change, that's good. If not, back off. Either way, don't get your hopes too high until you see evidence of his claims.
2006-12-14 08:11:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly? It is not impossible, but maybe just to make sure you guys should try marriage counseling together. That does not say you guys cant form a happy marriage - but councilors can see what you two cannot. And that would help you both. And it would prove his sincerity to you.
Good Luck.. I really hope he has changed!
2006-12-14 08:11:01 · answer #10 · answered by Chrissie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋