I had a best friend(a girl-kandis) for four year,& in the past we have been more,we broke up & Said that we would just stay friendsThen I met my b-f Quentin,We have been dating for a while,in june kandis came over.We all Got high, & My old feelings for her came back,we started hanging on each other.he sai he didnt care what we did,If he didnt see it then it didnt happen.He went to onther room.her & I started having sex for the first time.he walked in & walked right back out,then left & came back.After Mine & her buzz was over & we realized what we just did,I went & talked to him.He was pissed. after she went home He never wanted me to talk to her again.Just the other day I seen Kandis Walking IN a highway,I stop to see if she was ok,& we ended up talking for 1hr then I went to see Quentin & told him I needed to be honest.He got pissed & mad the statment that we must have been f-ing.I havent talked 2 him in a week.he hasnt called or anything.what do i do.Is it over?
2006-12-14 08:05:36 · 30 answers · asked by Elizabeth1616 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
He probably saw potential for a long term relationship. A lot of guys say that they would be cool if their girlfriend was bisexual, but the reality of it is a lot of them wouldn't be as cool with it as they think. The bottom line is that you are going somewhere other than him for sexual gratification, and he resents that and it makes him furious - and with good reason. Whether or not you meant to, or how innocent you thought it was, your actions have damaged a very important part of him, and it's not one most guys are prone to talk about. He most likely feels inadequate and betrayed by your actions. If you have ANY chance of making this work, then both you and him have to make a lot of choices...and changes. You can't see this other girl, you can't even be friends with her. You have to quit her cold turkey. He has to be patient with you, as you have to be with him. If you can agree to work this out, and be patient throughout the rough times - your relationship has a good chance of being stronger than ever. But if you're not willing to work at it, and he isn't either - then don't waste any more time of either of your lives by you making one-sided efforts to repair the damage done. And don't be surprised if this relationship has already gone down in flames. But don't be too hard on yourself. You made a choice...and they all have their consequences. If it really is over, learn what you can from it and move on. And next time try talking to your boyfriends more about what they are and aren't cool with.
2006-12-14 08:16:22 · answer #1 · answered by Grant W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is over. You hurt him by sleeping with someone while he was in the house. How would you feel if he did you that way. That is a lot to swallow. Think about it. What if the tables were turned. How would you feel? And you are actually blamin it on being high. Regardless if you are high or sober, everybody know what they are doing when he/she get in a situation like that. If your man was in the other room, why you didn't go to him and have sex instead of with that girl? You act irresponsibly and he has every right to be angry with you. And he probably felt that he had someone special NOT someone who would sleep around on him. I feel sorry for your boyfriend. I feel it is a lil too late for you want to repair something that can't be repaired. You should've slept with someone else. I hate to tell ya but you can pretty much f*** her as much as possible now b/c he has probably moved on. Good luck on your choices next time b/c I"m sure you probably has hurt a good guy!!!
2006-12-14 16:14:58 · answer #2 · answered by jetta 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, I'd say its over. The weird thing about this is that even though you had sex with someone other than him, its not like he didn't know what you were going to do. So, in a way, his getting mad is a bit of hypocrisy. I'm just curious, would you have had a threesome if he asked? I wonder if that is what he is pissed about.
2006-12-14 16:14:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can only hope that it isn't. But not all guys are alike- so he MAY forgive you, he may not. If he doesn't, I'll be a friend you can talk to about it- if you want one. I am not trying to ask for anything, actually, I am wanting to help. If you ever need or want a friend to talk to, then feel free to give me a call- H918-335-2955 C918-914-9725 Ask for Kevin. I hope everything works out well for you. Merry Christmas, and have a Happy New Year.
2006-12-14 16:14:23 · answer #4 · answered by Kevin B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't! You cheated and betrayed him. You do not get a second chance because you already blew the first. Learn from this experience and move on. Do not drag him into your messed up antics b/c he deserves better. Plus, if he does accept your apologizes... it will never never ever work out in the end. In the back of his mind, he will spite you and your actions. Just grow up and be better to yourself! You do not want to be like this. Be a better person.
2006-12-14 16:10:58 · answer #5 · answered by EmTay21 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not your fault that you cheated on your boyfriend, you probably had too much fun at some or somehing. I would write a letter to him and tell him how much I'm sorry for cheating, or take him out to dinner. Write a poem to express how you feel about him, and if that does not work, then I don't know what else to tell you except move on with your life.
2006-12-14 16:13:45 · answer #6 · answered by Ebone N 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First things first. Lay off the bong water for a bit. It seems to me you are bi. And if you can't find a guy who is ok with that then you are going to have problems. He is strait, Of coarse he is going to have problems with it. It is cheating no matter how you cut it. If you want to keep this guy, you have to accept what he says. If not, that's ok too, just let him go, and move on. There is nothing wrong with exploring, but if you want to have a relationship, its kinda hard to have your cake and eat it too, excuse the pun.
2006-12-14 16:12:54 · answer #7 · answered by Tyler C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have no idea what you have written but I'll response based on your heading. Be sincere and apologise to your boyfriend. Be remorseful. Everybody deserves a second chance. Take care not to blow the 2nd chance away!
2006-12-14 16:09:40 · answer #8 · answered by SingGirl 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all you have no loyalty. Second, you're a reefer head. Third, you have no respect for a relationship. Go find Kandis. It's over.
2006-12-14 16:18:25 · answer #9 · answered by cold runner 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First off, (assuming you're female) make up your mind which gender you want!!!
Secondly, adding to the concensus, if you're serious about someone, you DON'T cheat on them...with either gender!!
Thirdly, some people can forgive, some can't...some forgive one thing but not another. Yes, we should forgive ALL, but that, quite frankly, is too saintly and quite out of reach for most people...I've forgiven a GREAT deal in my life, but that is one thing I will NOT forgive in my marriage!! So if he can't forgive you for it, suck it up! You made the mistake, you pay for it.
WOULD YOU FORGIVE HIM IF YOU CAUGHT HIM WITH SOMEONE ELSE???????
2006-12-14 16:17:09 · answer #10 · answered by SweetPandemonium 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋