My wife said she needs my help tonight because she has had a rough day with the kids. I feel like this isn't my problem - I mean she is the woman and that is her job to take care of the kids right? The guys invited me to go bowling tonight. Should I go bowling or help the wife?
2006-12-14 08:02:33 · 44 answers · asked by Lucky L 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Why are you on here, provoking people?!?
2006-12-14 08:47:21 · answer #1 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart, that is just not the woman's job to take care of kids by herself....Didn't you help make them?It is not fair that you don't want to help with the kids....If you feel like that's a woman's job, what do you do....Its amazing how men expect women to do everything...Why can't you get off your lazy behind and help your wife....
Think about this...Women, work, cook, clean, bathe the kids, if they're small, iron, grocery shop and pay bills....You need to do what you think a woman should do for a week and ask yourself if you would not need help...
Women are pulled in many directions and you men are so selfish and don't feel the need to help...I don't think you could fill one day in her shoes...Try juggling working, coming home and cooking at the same time helping kids with homework, getting kids ready for bed...cleaning up behind the mess of kids....preparing dinner on the table...washing dishes, possibly clothes and can't take a break because once everyone is home, everyone needs you and you don't get a break...
Stop being a selfish man and just sit back one day and see all your wife does and then you ask that stupid question again.
2006-12-14 10:28:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you like in your 60's? This is the old way of thinking!!! Maybe in the 1950's and before, this attitude was accepted but now it is considered "VERY OLD FASHIONED AND CLOSED MINDED"!!!
These are your 2 kids too!!! Just because you work does not mean you can sit on you lazy butt when you come home!!! Taking of kids is the toughest job that there is!!! You need to give your wife a break and take care of YOUR children!!! I hope she leaves you with the kids for the entire day so you can see how difficult it is to manage the kids...you would not make it!!!
You need to mature a little and help your wife!!!!
2006-12-14 08:10:41 · answer #3 · answered by September Sweetie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You feel like this "isn't your problem"??? Was it your problem each time you had sex with her and conceived the kids you are unwilling to take responsibility for?
I take from your post that your wife is a stay at home mom, and trust me, I know from experience that that can be just as, if not more trying than working a "real" job. She deserves a break, especially if, as she told you, she has had a particularly rough day with the kids.
Responsibilities should be equally shared between spouses, not divided by gender.
Who is your life committed to, "the guys", or your wife? Answer that question, and you'lll know who to please tonight. Your friends will survive not having you go bowling with them--however, your wife needs a break.
2006-12-14 08:09:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ummm..It probably would be in your best interest to stay home and help with the kids. It took the both of you to make them, and now it takes the both of you to raise them and take care of them. It is called RESPONSIBILITY..no matter how much you hate it. If you didn't want the responsibility then you should of kept your pants zipped. Tell your buddies that you appreciate the invite, but you need to be at home with the wife and kids and you will have to take a raincheck. I can almost asure you that if you go bowling it won't be pretty when you return home. The choice is yours but if you truley love your wife and respect her then you should respect how she feels.
2006-12-14 08:08:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are we living in the 1950's again?? Come on now!
I appreciate that you want to go out and have a good time, but playing the "woman takes care of the kids" card is no longer acceptable. The best way to get your wife to let you go out is to make sure you treat her right. Take her out with you if need be. Get a babysitter. If you can't do that compromise. Set a date for her to go out and you stay home and then give her your credit cards. You catch more fly with honey than vinegar!
2006-12-14 08:07:55 · answer #6 · answered by Sanalota 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should put your wife and kids before your friends. If she needs help than you should do as your told because this is the 21st century and a question like that could result in a bunch of women tearing you apart. A man should have as much responsibility of taking care of the kids as the woman does.
2006-12-14 08:07:55 · answer #7 · answered by Lorrane 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello, you should help your wife! I mean you married her because you love her, now show her and help her. Also it takes TWO people to raise kids; a mother and a FATHER. Friends will come and go, but your wife should always be there for you and you need to be there for her. Oh, and it is NOT a womens job to take care of the kids. Like I said before it takes TWO!!!!!!
2006-12-14 08:14:37 · answer #8 · answered by Jessie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, for one it is not the wife's job to always take care of the kids. If you don't go out that often then I say help your wife w/ the kids and try to get them to bed early and then go out. Or you could do all the baths for her to give her a break then hit the road. Help her w/ something tonight. It's hard to be home all day w/ the kids.
2006-12-14 08:15:51 · answer #9 · answered by truebeing3030 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Depends, are you bowling on my b/f team tonight? lol So funny cause my b/f bowls tonight and I was missing him sooo much today that I wanted to ask him to stay home! Have kinky sex or just snuggle or whatever he would want...but I know what he WANTS and that is bowling with his buddies! lol So I asked if I could hang out (I usually do as practice sense we first met almost 4 yrs ago). I work in my home and have 3 kids living with us (8 kids total b/w the two of us). I get tired too. I like to hang out with him just to get OUT of this house. Sometimes I meet up with his cousin and we go sit somewhere else. Did you ever think to invite her and call in a babysitter? The guys my b/f hangs out with LOVE my attention and enjoy my company. Good luck!
2006-12-14 08:10:31 · answer #10 · answered by luv2bake 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm going to go with help her out. You're thinking in a patriarchal manner where the guy is the head of the house and the wife takes care of the kids. But sooner or later she's going to need a break, but taking care of anyone's kids can be tiring. She may be hurt that you'd hang out with your friends when she really needed your help. Does she ask you to do this a lot? Either way you should help her, because she may be reluctant to help you one day when you really need her to.
2006-12-14 08:16:10 · answer #11 · answered by angelicasongs 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋