Im 14 years old and I have always had sexual fantasies about girls but now I'm having them about guys too. Is there anything I should know?
2006-12-14 07:57:11 · 16 answers · asked by nukeYOU 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
You are who you are.
2006-12-14 08:40:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
First of all, know that having fantasies about the same sex does not make you gay, the same as having fantasies about the opposite sex does not make you straight. Without going into all kinds of statistics just know that it is absolutely normal.
The best advice that I can give is to trust how you feel. Only you will know whether or not you are gay or bi. You may not know right now and that's okay. There's no need to rush into a label. As confusing as it can be try to just learn about yourself and be open-minded and honest about how you feel. Too many times people try to fight how they feel and all it ends up doing is hurting you.
Take good care. :)
2006-12-14 16:04:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That you aren't gay, most likely. There is no way to give you a legitimate answer based on the limited facts provided. Either way, you are too young to be engaging in any sexual behavior anyway, so I wouldn't worry about it. Try and figure out who you are first, in a non-sexual way. Experience the life of a child, which you are. Don't get involved with adult things this young, you will regret it later.
2006-12-14 16:57:18 · answer #3 · answered by straightup 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems to be a big secret, but feeling some attraction to others of your sex is completely normal and happens to pretty much everyone, especially during the teen years. I'd say don't sweat it -- you're young and have plenty of time to figure everything out.
I also suggest not acting too early on any urge, hetero- or homosexual. Give yourself time to work everything out. If you find, eventually, that homosexual feelings are stronger for you, that's okay.
2006-12-14 16:13:51 · answer #4 · answered by Theo D 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you are probably bi and/or confused, but you are only 14, so who knows? add to that your serious hatred for christians and you have a whole quagmire of unrealized thoughts. at 14, almost everyone questions 'religion' (I can't stand that word) or God/Jesus and especially question their sexuality. your body changes so fast and your thoughts cannot keep up with it, so naturally, you will have questions... and this OKAY. in spite of what other christians have said here, you CAN indeed be bi AND a christian. Jesus does not care WHAT or WHO you are... just how you act and if you KNOW and ACCEPT him. once you really KNOW him, the rest will take care of itself. don't let other christians scare you... you have the freedom to accept or deny Christ in your life... no one can ever make that decision for you. however, as a result, respect others for their decisio TO accept himas you would have them respect your decision NOT to do so. God gives us freewill, thankfully.
2006-12-17 17:10:53 · answer #5 · answered by azcuriousm4u 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds normal to me. It's pretty natural to have fantasies at that age about either sex. It's partly curiosity, and I think "danger" factor. I've had straight guy friends that have told me that they had "gay" thoughts at about your age. And, it's not unusual to act on some of those thoughts--touching, mutual masterbation. So, relax, and enjoy being 14.
2006-12-14 16:23:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Jeez I just love "homophobes" (those are the people that told you to seek help!). You are who you are. You're too young to worry about your sexuality. In time you will figure it out. If every man alive were honest they'd admit that at one time or another they thought about sex with men too. Of course most won't admit it out loud. Even if you succumbed to trying sex with males it's no big deal. What you are feeling is a normal part of growing up. Don't worry about it. If it turns out you just happen to be gay...so what? Don't allow the narrow mindedness of society dictate to you who you should be. Just be yourself....you'll do fine.
2006-12-14 16:18:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Fantasies are fantasies only you make them come true.
2006-12-15 09:24:46 · answer #8 · answered by Melody M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not too much...you're still pretty young and I can't say for sure if you are bi or gay or straight...you'll know for sure in a few years.
2006-12-14 16:20:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
just wait it might b a fase or u are gay ull find out sooner or later
2006-12-14 20:00:05 · answer #10 · answered by wray0x0wray 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Like the others said, it is very normal.Also, you could be bi. Just wait and see what sex you are drawn to the most!!!
2006-12-14 19:20:18 · answer #11 · answered by §~You can't judge me!~§ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋