I had a friend who was a next door neighbor of ours.. When I first met her she seemed completely normal. Little by little I found out details about her such as that she was taking prozac ammoung other anti depressants (which I know nothing about) Anyway, she became a "stressful" friend, I'd cringe when the phone would ring or there was knock on door. She'd pop over anytime even late at night or during dinner and just come right in and taste or even sit down and start eating!! SHe lost her job and it got worse even still! We have since moved, and I don't take her calls or if she pops over I do not answer the door. I have TOLD her to please leave us alone, at first nicely but have HAD to tell her she causes me stress in my own home. I have not spoken to her in about 1 1/2 yr. but she called back in Aug 06 and again the other night saying she had some pics of my kids and wants to get them back to me and catch up with each other! ..cont..
2006-12-14 07:31:00 · 5 answers · asked by Just me 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
her own family also contacted social services about 2 yrs ago to have her declared insane... but she talked her way out of it. Now I know she does have some pics of my kids... but as I did back in Aug I figured just to cut my losses rather than have her wiggle back in our lives. She not only takes up way too much of our time, but I now am the mother of 3 kids... well 2 but being induced on Saturday.. am over due. She knows NOTHING of the pregnancy, and I just don't know what else to do to let things go. I feel like a am being stalked slightly. I do NOT think she'd ever hurt myself or my family, we are just fed up and irritated. What should I do? Any Advice? Anyone with similar problem?
2006-12-14 07:34:32 · update #1
She is one of those people who yes do drain you, take all the fun out of everything ect. Everything is a drama and she is constantly crying about everything!!
2006-12-14 07:38:24 · update #2
I had a friend in grad school who was bi-polar, and she was so incredibly high maintenance. The thing is, she took so much but gave NOTHING in return. It's like she sucked the happiness out of everything. I know it might sound mean, but it's true. If you cannot handle it (I know I couldn't) then just tell her to keep the pics. It's not worth it to have her back in your life just because she has some pics.
2006-12-14 07:34:57 · answer #1 · answered by danika1066 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You never know what people are going through she may seem annoying or she may cause you stress. Just imagine if you were in her shoes. Needing someone to talk to and to share life with. You may have been the only person in a while to even pay attention to her. And because you did that made her feel good and now she clings to you. Yes that is annoying, yes that is stressful, but be understanding. Give her guidelines. Tell her you can talk her maybe once a week or once every two weeks. She seems as though she is desperate and will take anything that she can get. Just please be nice to her, you really never know. What if you recieve word that she has passed away, would you not feel sad, would you not have regret and think to yourself..."I should have talked to her." Please, please,please just do not talk to her at all.
2006-12-14 07:44:18 · answer #2 · answered by Danielle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm really sad to hear this.
At this point in time I would have your husband take care of it, don't answer the phone let him answer it & tell her that you don't want her to be part of your life’s anymore. You have told her repeatedly & she has yet to truly listen, allow someone she might find more intimidating to take over the reins, your husband would be the perfect choice.
After that if she keeps calling call the police & tell them what's going on have a restraining order put on her. It sounds harsh, but if she is ill one of the best things you can do is have healthy boundaries with her, she doesn't want to have those & invades the boundaries that you put up, so now you have to protect your family that's your number one priority.
I had to have a restraining order put on someone who wouldn't leave me alone, it wasn't easy but it kept him away & made my life much more peaceful. You are about to give Birth you deserve a little peace.
2006-12-14 07:40:07 · answer #3 · answered by Little Nell 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have never been in a situation like this but i'd forget the pictures and don't contact her again. you'll make new memories on a better camera with your new baby,
2006-12-14 07:37:35 · answer #4 · answered by m&m 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
they only way to really get her out of your life. Is to just keep ignoring her. if you give in she think its okay to keep trying to contact you. and if some how you have to confront her. just say nicely i would like you to leave me alone. please don't make me get a restaining order against you. if she keeps calling change your number.
2006-12-14 07:37:07 · answer #5 · answered by spazzitazzi 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
get a restraining order.
2006-12-14 07:37:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋