Juxtaposition: How can you give the impression of a leader without leaving the impression of a snob?

Question

You want to be humble in the Christian sense and help when others need help but you don't want to be a doormat. You want to to take charge of a situation but you don't want to be seen as agressive. You want to change things that you don't like in your job but you don't want to be seen as a snob. How do you change the impression of being a snob into one of a trusted leader who can tackle any challenge? Your answers will help a philisohpical discussion we are having-- What advice would you give someone who is agressive, leading, take charge personality that gives off the air of a snob if all you wanted to change was the snob but not the can-do attitude?

Answer 1

I don't think this is the answer you are looking for, but the skills that a leader has are often innate for the very reasons you have listed. A natural leader has the ability to empathsize, support and guide without seeming rude, pushy, aggressive or snobish. Without that natural ability to temper what you say or do, it is impossible to truly lead. You may have people follow you, but it would be out of fear or lack of options rather and a true trust or support of the idea. I know this isn't the answer you wanted, but then again, I don't think the answer is an easy one to come across.

Answer 2

If your naturally a leader and always lead others, but are constantly worried about acting like a snob, there are a number of things to remember. One of which, don't boss around, just advise a lot, when making a decision, look at every ones view points of the people your taking charge of. Don't discard any thoughts just because you don't like that person, and decide fairly. Don't act rudely because someone is wrong or something went wrong because of someone in your team of some sort. Be kind, but firm. Try to help people understand decisions you make if they object. There are other things to remember too, but most importantly remember to stay calm, cool, and collective. Pleasant. I hope that helped your discussion.

Answer 3

Leaders and snobs, should really be the opposite of each other. A TRUE leader does not have to put on airs or have to command authority in a room because their actions and how they treat people will do that for them.

What you are really describing to me is a person who "manages" a situation, but not a leader. Managers on power trips is more of the better description and they will never be leaders because they have already revealed their weakness...fear of not being able to persuade people to do things their way so they degrade and bark at them to make themselves feel important.

A leader is willing to bring about change because he or she is willing to get down in the trenches right along side of the people they want to help bring out change. They know how to treat people and talk to them as the important people they are in the leader's master plan for success. Those people respect the leader because they dont just hide behind a suit and tie and their title. They dont bark orders and then expect people to do it just because of who they think are or what title they hold. The only person with that kind of pull is God.

The only way to change those people is to reveal to them what they are really portraying as opposed to what they think they are.

Answer 4

i'm vulnerable to take your tale with a huge, vast pinch of salt. Been to many places in Glasgow and not in any respect been bothered in any way, shape or style, besides which your 'pal' looks ok versed in 'Glasgow talk' and did okay to undergo in ideas precisely what became mentioned. Dont be attentive to why they had be doing a investment exercising in city deprivation re using public transport - all and sundry is conscious those so observed as 'disadvantaged' areas get each thing thats going - they had be extra vulnerable to show screen using public transport in 'properly to do' areas - in basic terms until now they close the path down through loss of use!!!!!

Answer 5

I would give suggestions, not orders. For example, if you feel your husband is taking the wrong route on a highway, don't say, " you're doing it wrong." Say "would it be better if. . .?" That softens it, so he doesn't feel ordered around, and you have a better chance of getting what you want done. Then you get credit for having a good idea, and he can give himself credit for taking you up on it.