I hate my job, what should I do? (Please read all of it!) Thanks!?

Question

Okay, I HATE my job! I dread going in the morning, I worry about it so much that I have trouble sleeping at night. I cannot stand my co-workers; I put off doing things so that I don't have to talk to them. I feel like I am constantly being harrased for small things, or things that are not even my fault. They pay $4 UNDER what other companies pay to START, so I can barely aford to pay my bills, and I have NO money left over for savings or doing anything fun, much less an emergency fund. I live with my fiancee. He does not work right now (he is in school) but he has enough money to support us (although if I quit my job it would be extremely tight). We are moving in a few months, so I would not feel right getting a new job, and most temporary jobs are part time, so I would make less money than I do now. He has told me that I can quit if I want to, but I don't want to be a burden on him. However, I am not sure how much longer I can stay at my current job before I go crazy!

I may sound like I am overreacting, but I honestly don't know if I can handle this. One other thing, I work for family, and I know that they need me (they are in a tough spot, and could not find someone else to do it.) One of them could do it, but it would be a hardship on them. That makes me feel like I should stay, but on the other hand if they want me to stay they should make sure that I am getting fair wages and working conditions, right? I am so confused! I feel like I can't make a right decision! Please give me your opinion. Thanks!

Oops...sorry...I wanted to say also that I have been working here for about a year and a half, I have gotten one .50 cent raise and they keep promising me more money, but do not deliver. (I have talked to them about how I feel and it doesn't seem to do any good). Thanks again!

Answer 1

If you need better pay, and they can't give it to you, you shouldn't feel obligated to stay there, family or not. Everyone has the right to secure employment that suits their financial needs. As to you putting them in a bind if you quit, aren't they putting YOU in a bind if you stay? Something else I'm wondering: Do you know for sure that they wouldn't understand if you just gave them all the reasons you've presented here? Perhaps once they see the whole picture, it might not be as serious as you think it will be.

Regardless, they should understand that you need to find something that pays better; it's your livelihood, not theirs.

Answer 2

After considering your situation I decided the only way to answer was to put myself in your place. So, here's what I'd do. Your mental health and happiness are being affected negatively by your job. Since you only plan to continue in the present location for a brief time I agree that finding a new position would be difficult for a number of reasons. That said, you are not doing yourself or your sweetheart a favor enduring the stress your job creates. If I were you I would go to my employer (who needs you) and tell them that if the promised raise is not retroactive to the pay period in which you are now working you are offering your two-week notice. The worst thing to happen is that your suffering at this workplace will end, and the best thing would be you would have a bit more income to balance the stress of the job. That might be enough to get you through to your move. If they take you up on the resignation then apply immediately to an agency to find a temporary (not part-time) position for the next weeks. You might have luck since it is inventory time if you're not picky about what work you do in the near future. Good luck. Don't sit and suffer - it may have long-range negative consequences.

Answer 3

What do you do that is so stressful? This is kind of a hard question to answer. I've always been the type of person who would just go and get a different job if I didn't like where I was working. It doesn't make sense to me to put yourself in a situation that causes so much stress. You said you're moving in a few months, so either suck it up and drive on or just quit. **** the bills, you can always pay them later once you get established at your new resident and new job. Life's too short for all that drama.

Answer 4

I have been in that exact same situation, I worked at a company for three years that made me physically ill to walk in the door. I could not quit, so what I did is I made up my mind that it wasn't worth it, and I would rather work two jobs somewhere else than that one. So I just started applying anywhere and everywhere, I got applications online, through friends, walked around my neighborhood, and now I have a great job that I love, just get your resume out there, something better will come along.

Answer 5

you deserve to be paid more even though they are family. they are taking advantage of you.

i think you get another part-time job. try waving that in their faces to get some attention. say you have another job you can go to if they cannot pay you more.

i say this because i was in a really bad job that i hated. it is not good to be stressed. you will feel a lot better if you take a break. the money might be tight for a while but it will be better in the long run. i think (i kind of already did this, but i don't completely know your situation) i was sooo sick becuase i was stressing. it was not good. i snapped on everyone and was just not happy. my friends didn't want to hang out anymore because of it.

if they really need you to stay they will raise the pay, right?

sorry i couldn't help more. good luck with whatever you choose.

Answer 6

Find a new job right now. When you do, tell your current job people that you will be making $X there (more than where you are now) and see if they'll match it.

Now, if it is just the job itself driving you crazy, you must leave. I used to work for a place that had a minimum of 3-5 ambulance calls a week due to stress. once I took a trip in one of them, I decided I definitely had more than enough.

Answer 7

Wow, that doesnt sound very nice at all. I know what its like to work for family and it is hard to make certain descisions because you have that family relationship you would like to keep in-tact. However,you should be looking out for your own well being because it seems like this job is hurting you financially as well as mentally. I would like to extend to you a great opportunity, too much to explain on here but if you are interested I PROMISE I can help you. I would love to get you involved with my company, after a bit of time and dedication I guarantee you could be earning enought o support yourself and your fiancee. I do not make broken promises, I simply love to help people. Please email me for more info, what do you have to lose??

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Answer 8

What is the financial situation of the company? Can they afford to pay you more or is this the most that they can pay? Secondly, are you there for a paycheck or is this a means to an end where there is something more to benefit and gain from once the company grows?

Answer 9

You are not the only one. I've been at this job for 9 months and more like a receptionist, I've been their slave. Today I just did not wanted to do something that is not my job and it looks like I will be fired. I then realized that your happiness worth more than anything and you should find something that fullfills you.

Answer 10

You are always going to have some guilt feelings working for family. It will nevere change, because there are expectations an dthings you just feel you have to put up with simply because "it's family'

easy solution, change the playing field, change jobs and get back your sanity.....go on..do it....stop saying yeah but.......