we were good friend, from more than one year, used to speak to each other everyday and meet and tell things to each other (or atleast i thought so). We also used to hang out with each other many times.
He used to treat me in a way that u think- he cares about me, i had started getting involved in him a little bit.
suddenly i heard that he is in a relationship with a girl.
I felt very bad that he couldnt even tell me about it. whenever such topic used to come while talking between us, he has always contradicted his relation, denying that he does not have any girl in his life. why did he lie? i am feeling sick, betrayed...
i know everyone has right to decide what things to share, but atleast friends share everything. I havent told him yet that i know. How should i apprach him now?
2006-12-14 06:43:57 · 10 answers · asked by sayesha 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
its better you don't broach the subject yourself. if he thinks u don't know then so be it.
or perhaps he knows that u know, but didn't tell u bcoz he didnt want u to feel bad 'coz he realized you have a soft corner for him.
its good you realize that it depends on the person what he / she wants to share. it is imperative that you understand that sometimes people feel that even between frenz certain things are to be witheld so that it doesn't mess up things in an essentially healthy relationship.
just be normal. if he opens up the subject himself then accept it as if its OK with you. if he doesn't you must realize that he has kept the information from you so that things dont get complicated between u two, or, he just doesn't want to share.
don't expect things, it only causes more pain.
2006-12-18 04:30:28 · answer #1 · answered by raindrops 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would wait it out and see what happens, if you two have been friends for that long then it's just that the other girl is knew she will miss you and want to hang out with you again soon. I think you need to broaden your friends and not call her every single day! Make new friends you can always use another, not a replacement but another!! Just don't do anything you'll regret, maybe you could even try becoming friends with your friends new friend.
2016-05-24 04:07:12 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Friends may share every thing. Even some thing are not shared by Husband and wife for lots of reasons, some call that betrayal, I call common sense and good judgement.
By gone is by gone sometimes it best be left alone. It is sometime very painful to talk, about such things.
It is the Q? of, circumstances, situations and individuality.
2006-12-14 07:26:57 · answer #3 · answered by minootoo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi
i know i can not console u bcoz it's not easy 2 get out of such situations. but u need 2 relax, strengthen urself and believe in god.
i think lack of communication is a big problem which can worsen ur relationship. go and tell him u know abt his girl friend, how u came 2 know and wht u feel 4 him
if he has a gf dont worry, may b god has a better person 4 u 2 colour ur life.
all the best! and enjoy life 2 d fullest.
2006-12-14 07:02:26 · answer #4 · answered by anika 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he always thought of you as a sister and would confide in you. But, he may then have seen you wanting more than a Brother and sister relationship and did not wish to be involved with youin that way. If you had not got involved with him, then yes, he may well have told you about this girl, but I think he did not because he wanted to protect your feelings, did not want you to be hurt.
Go to him, say you are happy for him, encourage him to talk about his girl and get back the wonderful friendship you had, because friendship was all it was and nothing else.You too will find someone special and would'nt it be nice if you could introduce them to a very special friend.
2006-12-14 12:12:43 · answer #5 · answered by rockandrollrev 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its a good idea that you approach him as soon as possible. Just be collective and calm about it and dont accuse him of anything.Maybe he was just trying to protect your feelings from getting hurt but that still doesnt give him the right to lie to you.
2006-12-14 06:48:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should not feel betrayed. Ask him why he did so and do it at earliest chance. But be liberal to give your partner some space of his own
2006-12-14 12:03:02 · answer #7 · answered by rjbendre 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He knew he liked him. He probably didn't want to mess things up with you guys.
2006-12-14 06:46:37 · answer #8 · answered by P&B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Straight forward. Give him this question and ask him to answer it.
2006-12-14 06:46:54 · answer #9 · answered by vmmhg 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HE WAS JUST SPENDING TIME WITH U.
WHILE U FELL IN LOVE WITH HIM.
DECIDE WHAT U WANT AND GO FOR IT.
2006-12-14 23:33:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋