Well im 18 (19 in june) and my fiance is 22.We have been together 2 years, lived together for 3months (in a kinda apartment under his mom, didnt have to pay rent, just some bills) and he had to go to basic training. Im back with my parents and in college, hes in the air force. We want to get married soon, and Hes going to be stationed in Japan, so after my next semester here is over i would go with him and start at the college out there on base. I dont have a job and dont really plan to if my college course stay the 21 to 23 hrs they have been. if im not a real full time student I would get a part time job, might even just because may need to or just want to.
are we too young to get married and go live over seas?
2006-12-14 06:39:41 · 10 answers · asked by corrick_1 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
When I was in the Navy there were plenty of young married people. Marriage is truly dependent on the people involved. Marriage is hard, Military marriage is even harder. If your willing to put in the time, effort and dedication that marriage will DEMAND then you should be okay. Communication and honesty is the key.
Get some self-help books now and read up. I suggest: "The Five Love Languages", "Today's Military Wife", "His Needs, Her Needs."
2006-12-14 07:08:12 · answer #1 · answered by Poppet 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
only you can say. it sounds like you are two mature people. before you make any wedding plans i suggest you figure this one out first. at least the doubting part. you seem doubtful of the entire thing, not just moving to another country. you will face the same obstacles pretty much everywhere you go. our country is so diverse. no matter where you go in life you will face challenges and obstacles. that is how you learn life's lessons. i suggest you concentrate on your school work for now, move if that is where your husbands job sends him, and love him. when you are done with school, your marriage has some "equity" then you can start worrying about if you want to take your career further. if you get to japan and find you need to work part time to supplement your income, you could find something there on the base, like the commissary or library or something like that. as for are you too young to get married? who knows? follow your heart. marry him if you love him and you can vision him being the father of your children. if you can't vision this, don't marry him, and for goodness sakes, don't leave the country with him, military or not.
2006-12-14 06:54:29 · answer #2 · answered by iwondersoiask 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no your not too young to get married . if you think this is what you want, go for it. if u dont u will be regreting it later. But think about it before making any decision. Remember u are going 2 b in a totally different enviroment, i recomend you go to japan for a few weeks and get a feel of the enviroment there before you move in.
2006-12-14 06:47:20 · answer #3 · answered by jenny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes you are too young to get married you need to live life first before you jump up and get married. it sound like you really don't wont to get married as you say because you want to know what we think. you mean are you too young to get married and move over sea with a guy. that's along way to have someone to try to come and get you if it don't work out. think about it. good luck
2006-12-14 06:45:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are TOO young to get married and no way should you go to another country. If you must get married, at least stay near family and friends. All of us who are older and more experienced than you, know what we are talking about.
2006-12-14 06:43:41 · answer #5 · answered by nowhere 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow....sounds like a plan. if you feel you can do anything you want as a married person that everyone insist on only doing if you are single, you sure are on the right path.
good luck to the both of you.
2006-12-14 06:43:32 · answer #6 · answered by Bella 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope...if that's what you want to do then do it. Plus the overseas living will provide you with learning experiences and help make you mature. Go for it!
2006-12-14 06:42:14 · answer #7 · answered by IGH3Rat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I don't think so. You are an adult. Living in another country could be a great experience for you. Do it!!
2006-12-14 06:44:02 · answer #8 · answered by bewitching_green_fairy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no. you both are adults, aren't you? adults make adult decisions without parents or friends permission or approval. not even the approvals of yahoo! posters.
2006-12-14 06:44:58 · answer #9 · answered by bettyjoe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to grow up a little bit, this is to much for your system to handle.
2006-12-14 11:37:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋