ok she is not a bad person and she loves me but she is a control freak everything has to be according to her and wen she is angry she can be very nasty and is mostly impossible she says hurtfull things and is at times very mean how do i make her realise that i am an individual and will do things the way i want to and i have a mind of my own i dont like fighting with her but i cant take it now and there is no way i can move out
2006-12-14 06:35:07 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
she is not a single parent this is preety much her nature she gets angry at a drop of a hat
2006-12-14 06:49:49 · update #1
COMPLAINING AGAINST MOTHER I THINK IT IS NOT FEAR. FIRST OF ALL YOU HAVE WRITTEN THAT SHE IS GOOD BY HEART AND LOVE YOU. THIS IS MOTHER NOW YOU SAY THAT SHE IS DOMINATING TO WHOM TO HIS SON OR DAUGHTER WHAT IS THE WRONG SHE HAS GIVEN YOU BIRTH SHE IS CARING FOR YOU AND IF SHE WANT DOMINATE TO YOU THEN YOU SURRENDER. YOU WRITTEN SHE SAY HURTFUL THINGS. USE TO MY MOTHER SAID ME WHEN I GO AGAINST HER WISHES " MAR JAA"(GO AND DIE) THESE ARE ONLY WORDS WHICH HAVE NO MEANS. IT WAS HER FIGHTING WORDS. YOU KNOW THAT HOW MY MOTHER LOVED ME. IF I WAS HAVING HEADACHE SHE NEVER SLEPT WHOLE NIGHT AND KEEPING HER HAND ON MY HEAD ONLY.
2006-12-14 14:21:40 · answer #1 · answered by RAMAN IOBIAN 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Almost everyone has had a time where they felt their mom was mean or out of line. I'm sure she is well aware that you are your own individual. Its funny because its the kids that think the parents are the demanding ones when really its the other way around.
Anyways, when you get angry just go somewhere and calm down because really its not the end of the world and you are not the only one out there with a 'mean mom'.
2006-12-14 14:43:40 · answer #2 · answered by Kris W 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I can so relate to your situition. My mom is the exact same way. I couldn't go out at all. I was not allow to be just a kid...nothing. It had to be her way and like you mentioned, when she gets mad...it gets pretty ugly. My mom does love me and I can see that too. I just did what she expected me to do. I never questioned it. I got out of it when i got married at 16 in my culture. She was so controlling that she gladly gave my hand in marriage to a guy many miles away. I was dating my current husband (2 years). I realized that she went too far and I really wanted to married MY BOYFRIEND then so we both ran off and got married. It's been 7 years and we haven't looked back. My mom cried a lot when I left. I'm glad that I married my husband then (boyfriend) but yet I wish my mom didn't do what she did. Girl, just speak your mind to your mother in a respectful way. Sooner or later, she will realize what type of a person you are inside.
2006-12-14 15:08:46 · answer #3 · answered by pangfvlx 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well how old are you first. If your under the age of 18 then you have to respect and deal with it until your old enough to move out of her house. But if your 18 or older and still living under her roof then you still have to listen to what she says no matter your age as long as you live in her house. You should tell her you respect her rules and will abide by them but you r now an adult and will make decisions on your own and live your life your way. But respectful to her as you say this. I have a mother the same exact way i am 23 and have kids of my own but at the moment i live with my mom and she knows where i stand. I did and do exactly what i told you to do and so far it has worked we still argue at times but she knows i am not going to do what she tells me to do,but what she asks me to do!! Good luck!!!
2006-12-14 14:56:22 · answer #4 · answered by noramom4life101 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my mom is the same way mostly stressed out because she is a single parent and when she is mad she wants to make everybody mad! I stopped fighting with her and I was so nice to her that it hurt her more than it hurt me when she decided to get mad. in reality there is nothing you can do because she is the parent but try making her feel bad. when she is in a good mood tell her how you feel but you have to be nice to her so she won't have a counter attack make her completely wrong and she will see trust me I do it all the time
2006-12-14 14:44:09 · answer #5 · answered by spoken 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe your Mother has problems of her own and needs someone to talk to, why dont you let that person be you. Sit with her,give her a hug, tell her you love her and ask her to share her problems with you. Everyone, no matter what age, needs a hug and someone to talk to
2006-12-14 20:23:15 · answer #6 · answered by rockandrollrev 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well remember she is ur mom and she s always gonne b short tempered. so u stay calm. Avoid rows with her. Ask her everytime Y r u getting mad at me mom? i m trying my best but u never grow up all of a sudden. pl dont blame me for things u think i did wrong. say u love her. show u care for her openions and she might calm down a little
2006-12-14 15:00:21 · answer #7 · answered by sayesha 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Try to keep calm, I am in the same situation now...what I do is I leave the situation until I am calm and then talk about it. Try not to talk to her when you are angry, this will only lead to a bad situation for you.
2006-12-14 14:40:17 · answer #8 · answered by saraikyon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do whatever you can to avoid confrontation until you can move out. If you're tired of arguing, just don't do it. Your mom is your mom. Like it or not, you're probably not going to be able to change her, so change your own habits. Just don't get into it with her.
2006-12-14 14:42:34 · answer #9 · answered by KD 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to avoid all thoes thing which she never likes because there may be some reason behind ever clause why dominate u for not doing
2006-12-16 11:29:14 · answer #10 · answered by SG 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋