I have been dating this girl for almost a year and a half. She is 20 I am 22. She had dated a lot of bad guys prior to me, so she was so happy when we first started our relationship. Everything was going great until about two weeks ago when she thought my feelings for her had changed (which they hadn't). She said that she was confused and she wasn't sure if she saw herself in the future with me. So she wants to take a break. She said we can still talk, and see each other occasionally, but she wants to hang out with friends. I really want to get back together with her, but because she wants to talk to me less and see me less I get the feeling that she doesn't want to be with me. Is there any chance that we can turn our relationship around? What are some things I can do in order for this relationship to be great again?
2006-12-14 06:31:51 · 11 answers · asked by helpabrothaout 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
She continues to say she loves me and it seemed we were extremely comfortable in our relationship up until she thought a break was necessary.
2006-12-14 06:44:50 · update #1
I am in somewhat the same situation,I'll spare you the details.What you need to do my man is just play it cool.Don't pressure her and don't attempt to contact her too much.You don't want to come off as needy and clingy,so just be yourself when you do talk to her.Don't mention the relationship just talk about everyday stuff.Don't be too eager to be at her beck and call if you know what i mean.Try this first and if you don't get results you can always confess your love to her and beg her to come back,though i would advise against it.
2006-12-14 06:40:50 · answer #1 · answered by The Wanderer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand your frustration. Unfortunately when you are dating, sometimes both people don't feel the same about each other. Let's face facts, she just isn't that into you, and we all know that you can't change the way someone feels; however you can accept it and move on. I suggest you leave this relationship in the past, and concentrate on moving on and finding happiness elsewhere. Remember, dating is so you can find out what qualities you are looking for in a longterm partner, so take note on some of her good qualities and her bad ones so you can make a better choice next time. I know this may not be what you were asking for, but it is the best advice I can offer. Sometimes the truth is not what we want to hear...
2006-12-14 14:39:42 · answer #2 · answered by Cynthia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Babe, you two need to talk...really talk about your feelings amoung eachother and the reason why she all of a sudden thought your feelings changed towards her. My opinion is, I think she does not want to be tied down anymore with just one guy. Friends are not always going to be there , and obvisously she feels as though she needs to give them time. I don't understand why she cannot be with you and still be with her friends, taking a break entitles her to cheat, and yes it does. Communication is not strong right now, and I don't know if it was in the past. But it seems as though her feelings changed and if I were you, i would get yourself together and prepare your heart for pain. Trust in yourself and I know you can get through this relationship. god Bless and i hope everything works out.
2006-12-14 14:39:55 · answer #3 · answered by old 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I talk to a man like that I want to break it off but dont want to hurt his feelings because he is a nice person but I dont want to marry him. All of what both of you need is not there, she moved on and so should you. Good luck in finding the right person. She is not the right one. If they leave once they will leave again even if you get back together. She is keeping you hanging on incase she don't find a better replacement. Do you really want to be second best to nothing.?
2006-12-14 14:48:45 · answer #4 · answered by Marilyn M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I think there is still hope for this relationship. Stay close with her and hang out and talk like she wants. Give her all the space she needs. Wait a few months and try again. In the meantime do go screwing thigs up like sleeping with any of her friends or anything like that. Be persistant. Good luck!
2006-12-14 14:52:14 · answer #5 · answered by Nicole 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You both should get together and read in the Bible I Corinthians 13 "The Love Chapter" where it explains what love is and isn't. Love is patient and kind and seeks not its own way at the expense of others. Such love would gladly give its life to save the life of the other. If you both have this type of love for each other, then time is meaningless and you can work things out so you can be married to live together for the rest of your lives. This type of love is what has kept my wife and I married for over 28 years. If you don't have this kind of love for each other, then you should search for someone who does have it.
2006-12-14 14:49:26 · answer #6 · answered by Captain Cupcake 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like it's her feeling that's changed though. if you still insist on trying, call her and care for her and be there for her for awhile and see whether she appreciates you. if after awhile, she doesn't, you might get tired of it and are willing to move on while it's clear to you that she may have no interest anymore. good luck!
2006-12-14 14:35:37 · answer #7 · answered by xyz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she sounds like she's used to being in bad relationships and not sure what to do now because you're so nice.
2006-12-14 14:41:47 · answer #8 · answered by missy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
baby let me tell you if she is in to bad boys you can't change her she has to realize that she want a good thing before she explores it.
2006-12-14 14:35:34 · answer #9 · answered by luckycharm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like she's done....sorry.
2006-12-14 14:36:58 · answer #10 · answered by his_scarlett_ohara 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋