My ex and I (both guys) had lived in for about a year and a half when I caught him red-handed cheating on me with a girl. I slapped him, asked him to leave, but he cried, apologized , said he loved me and since that day never saw that girl again. I forgave him and rebuilt my trust in him for the next one year. Six months back he started to meet with another girl and called hit casual friendship, but I could see things getting serious. One day, he broke it to me saying he wants to end our relationship to see her since we dont have a future. I begged him not to end it like this with me, while allowing him to see the girl if he wanted, hoping that he will realize I love him a lot more and come back. Instead he broke off with me last month. It ended bitterly, with me slapping him in front of his girl. She doesnt know why I did that. He says he wants to be friends now, but I cant see him as a friend anymore. I said goodbye and he hasnt called since.Will he ever come back? I still love him.
2006-12-14 06:28:53 · 25 answers · asked by Fast C 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
i feel so bad for you. and i know how bad it hurts. i amrecently trying to get over a bad break up myself and it so hard for me not to pick up the phone and call him and beg him to come back even though i was not the one in he wrong he was. the best thing that i can tell you is to remember how hurt you felt when he did that to you and ask yourself if someone that could make you feel like that is really worth your time and energy. you deserve better and deserve to be with someone who wants to be with you and only you. if you get in touch with him he will win knowing that no matter what he does to you you will take him back. you have to draw the line somewhere and you don't want to come across as desperate wither because hat definitely will not work. surround yourself with friends and family and if you need to cry, cry scream in your pillow until you feel better. it's hard no but after a while the pain does get better and after a while you will be happy that you have moved on. and don't worry he will contact you one day when you least expect and don't be angry, or mean be really casual and non chalant like nothing happened and if he asks to see you or wants to come back don't be mean about just casually let him know that you don't think that is such a good idea even if you really want to make sure you're friendly and sweet so that way he will realize that you have moved on and your life does not revolve him. if you feel that you are strong enough to see him then see him but when you do keep it short and sweet. you deserve better than this jerk and i honestly hope one day that you will see that. good luck sweety and don't worry time heals all wounds and everythin will work out.
2006-12-14 06:42:14 · answer #1 · answered by denise7999 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You don't want him back because he's a cheater. If he does come back he'll cheat on you again. In fact, he angered you so much you had to slap him. Now if a man angers you so much that you have to resort to physical violence than the relationship has ended -- especially since he cheated on you twice. Let's face it, he messed up and he does not deserve you. Move on please. If you have a hard time moving on then make some new friends or concentrate on something else like exercising. I'm worried about you girl. Let this loser go before he ruins your life even more.
2006-12-14 06:37:23 · answer #2 · answered by Jo K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, I know it's easier said than done but try to move on. I was in a relationship w/ a girl for 4 1/2 years, I was like your ex though, I was confused. I'm now happily married to a wonderful man and have a beautiful son. You don't need someone like this, who obviously doesn't know what he wants and/or needs. It's only going to make things worse if you are friends with him. As hard as it is, move on, find someone you can trust. You will love again, I promise. Good luck!
2006-12-14 06:33:46 · answer #3 · answered by Nina Lee 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to some serious work on your self esteem and why you would honestly tell a man he could see another woman if he would just stay with you. Would you let him see another man as well?? You have serious co-dependence issues.
This man has treated you like crap and flat out told you he wants to be with someone else. He doesn't love you and for whatever reason you don't think you deserve someone that loves you. I think you should stay away from him and never speak to him again. And don't even date any more until you come to understand that you have value and that you deserve the best someone has to offer..not their scraps. YOU ARE WORTH SOMETHING. Don't ever settle for someone who doesn't see your worth.
2006-12-14 06:35:06 · answer #4 · answered by Farah G 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Seems like your better off without him. You deserve someone who will give you all the love you deserve. Not someone who will mistreat you and then leave you just like that. Don't wait around for him, that will just let him know that he has the upper hand and that he can (and he will) do whatever he wants with you. Letting him think you're in the palm of his had. Don't let him get you like that. I understand you love him and it won't be easy, but you should move on. He's keeping you from enjoying your life and seeing what the world has to offer you. Only time will heal.
Best of Luck.
2006-12-14 06:40:30 · answer #5 · answered by I Might Even Be a Rock Star... 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It might be hard, but you must move on. He not only cheated on you once, but twice, and even if he did come back, it is only a matter of time before it happens again. The relationship will never be the way that you envision, and will be unhealthy for you to be in, both for your mental health and your self-esteem.
You have to hold back your heart for that guy who will respect you and put as much into the relationship as you do if you truly want to be happy in a relationship. But please do yourself a favor and do not let him back into your life. It will just leave lingering feelings and interfere in potential future healthy relationships in which you can truly be happy.
I know it's hard, but it's something that you have to do for yourself. Best of luck.
2006-12-14 06:35:33 · answer #6 · answered by Nick D 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am guessing since he wants to be friends after something like that, you were just a phase for him. If you caught him with a girl and now he is with a girl maybe you were his expeirment to see if he liked guys. I don't approve of him living with you because it seems like he was using you for a place to live. Especially after you caught him in your joint apartment. That really sucks and I am sorry to hear that. Take you time to heal your wounds and focus on other things. Nothing you can do will bring him back if he is into girls now.
2006-12-14 06:34:45 · answer #7 · answered by ting_tang21 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That sounds like you really love him, and that you want him tobe happy, i can see that because you actedreally mature and left things up to fate. Well from my experience if it really was mutual love between you two, then he will realize it was and you will be together again and it will happen sooner then later, but if he realized he wants the girl more, then you there will be someone else that you will meet and fall in love with and he will love you more then this guy did, and you will be happier with him. So it is really up to time to heal your wounds, but hang in there.
2006-12-14 06:50:20 · answer #8 · answered by madeulo0k 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why would you want him back ?if you are gay and he is well likes to ride on both sides of the street .I'd get my self something else to do instead of worring about that loser .It might take a bit of time before someone comes along but it's worth the wait.
2006-12-14 06:35:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats some mess up sh#t.Yeah maybe hell try to come bak again I'd say so.Get over this love S##t it's now on the just careing stage. Move on you won't love him after he gives you an S.T.D
2006-12-14 06:35:33 · answer #10 · answered by tino 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋