This doesn't include everybody, but it seems that a vast majority of people don't take wedding vows seriously
2006-12-14 06:25:27 · 17 answers · asked by Nik-Nak 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Because people rush into getting married before actually knowing their partner, they take each other for granted once they are married, they sometimes cheat or abuse each other. Lots of reasons...but it all comes down to rushing into marriage or ignoring the red flags when dating.
2006-12-14 06:34:14 · answer #1 · answered by Royalhinney 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think people mistakes love with infatuation or lust nowadays. No one takes marriage seriously as it once was. As they say-back in the day-people had sex after marriage and it was a good way to show comittment. How many guys/girls today will wait years to marry someone so they can have sex? Not many. And with this comes the issue of having children out of wedlock. Then people feel like they have to get married for the baby's sake. When people got married young years ago it was because their loved-one was going to war and they may never see them again. Now, teens are getting married at the first sight of love. I think getting married young is a cause too, because you don't really know who you are when you marry so young and you end up changing once you get married. A lot of times you and your partner change so much that you end up two completely different people than when you first got married. but oh well, we can't change how people think.
2006-12-14 14:47:16 · answer #2 · answered by angelicasongs 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The sancitiy of marriage, so harped upon by folks that are opposed to gays getting married, is basically dead.
When your grandparents got married - they got friggin' married. There was no doubt that they would stay married. I know there was divorce back then but not like today.
So now, people get married to 'try it out'. You don't try out marriage - you get married. People expect marriage to be this magical solution to all of their problems. That is not what marriage is. Marriage is tough, challenging, and frustrating. It is also rewarding and a spiritually fulfilling venture, if you're willing to stick with it. You aren't going to get benefits from marriage after a few years. It took me 11.
Also, the revolving door marriages of most celebrities isn't exactly making marriage look like something serious. It's been cheapened.
My two cents worth.
FP
2006-12-14 14:34:53 · answer #3 · answered by F. Perdurabo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the reason for this is
1) people don't take the time to know a person
2) some women look at marriage as a way to take half of a mans worth
3) people get married for the wrong reasons ( ie a baby on the way, or cuz they think they love them but it ends in lust )
2006-12-14 14:35:46 · answer #4 · answered by romello20000 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No denying that. But everyone's situation is different. And in the last 30yrs or so, women have discovered their own strength, power, and desire for pleasurable sex--it's not just for men, anymore. It used to be that you stayed married regardless of happiness or enjoyment and you married young.
It's just not that way anymore. When you marry young, you aren't necessarily the person you will be 10yrs later. Why stay in a marriage that's unfulfilling and unhappy?
Then again, there are also alot more couples co-habitating and not marrying.
2006-12-14 14:34:00 · answer #5 · answered by moniquebell 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Before you get married, you should have both eyes wide open. After you get married, close one eye. Then both must keep working at a strong marriage. It takes two people working hard to make it work well.
People should carefully investigate the character/lifestyle of the person they want to marry. It's THE biggest decision you ever make, and I agree that most people take it very lightly.
2006-12-14 14:41:01 · answer #6 · answered by Claire 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately it has been accepted as the norm now to just divorce someone if you aren't happy. I wish people would realized that they made a vow and you are to stick with that vow, come what may. Till death do you part!!!
2006-12-14 14:39:06 · answer #7 · answered by afriendofGod 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because many people get married for the wrong reasons. Some of them being:
1. It's easier than breaking up, especially when they live together
2. They accidentally get pregnant
3. They're afraid of being alone
4. They think they'll never meet anyone else, so they "settle"
They also think that:
1. He/She will party less after we're married
2. He/She will stop cheating after we're married
3. A baby will bring us closer together
2006-12-14 14:30:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Because the people who are divorcing today were raised in homes where their dads cheated on their moms and just left her for another woman. The boys learned this was acceptable behavior and the girls learned to think how sex will get you what you want in life and have very low self esteem because their dad moved out on them too.
2006-12-14 14:38:08 · answer #9 · answered by Raven 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Women are more economically independent - back in the day, they had to get a husband and keep him, or they would starve. Now, most women have jobs, so if a man is cheating on them, or beats them, or is abusing the kids or is just incompatible with them, they don't have to stay and suffer they are free to leave.
And, honestly, I think the world is a better place because women don't have to stay in abusive relationships.
2006-12-14 14:37:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋