A long time ago I came out and told my Mom that I was gay(she was hurt but accepting, not really though) well I later got in a bad fight w/ some lesbians and then of course she was pissed well I went into a denial stage(5 years) and said that "Well, you don't have to worry because I was never gay" and she said "Good, that if I ever came out again make sure that she was dead in her grave" Well, about 2 years ago I met a very good lesbian friend of mine and I am lesbian and really always have been. But I just really don't want to tell my mom this because I feel she won't ever talk to me and I'm the only child. She's also been asking when am I going to get married and I straight up say I'm not. I don't understand why she can't figure out that I've been gay all my life. I even showed one of my friends a picture of me back in the day and she said that I clearly look to be gay(all gay attributes) What would you do? keep on living day to day;When I was out, there was a lot of family drama B 4
2006-12-14 06:21:19 · 7 answers · asked by Noclue 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I think you should tell her. It's no use living your life as a lie. Surely she has an inkling if she hasn't seen any guys around. I think she just said what she said because it's an easier way out for her - she doesn't have to worry about any ridicule etc that comes with having a gay child.
The fact you keep saying no to marriage should give her a clue. I know there is a lot of family drama in coming out - I have gone through that. If I was to go back in now it would be bad because now they accept it.
I think even if it screws up your relationship with your mother you are better off if you have someone in your life that takes you for who you are. I know it's easy enough to say but I've been through it and I made it.
2006-12-14 11:53:49 · answer #1 · answered by gretphemelger 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what you want and if she asks, you have two options. You have two options. You can build a web of lies and create a fake relationship with her just to keep things peaceful and hope that web of lies doesn't come crashing down for the rest of your life OR you can be honest with her and let her decide if she wants to continue a relationship with you or freak out and be ignorant and hateful while you go on your merry way. Don't let her stop you from being happy.
2006-12-14 22:31:49 · answer #2 · answered by carora13 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would keep on doing what i do and wouldnt care what my family thinks because if they really love you they would be accepting of the fact that your gay
2006-12-14 08:18:47 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think u need to tell ur mom, if she loves u she'll understand, and if she doesnt understand then tell her that its not up to her whether or not ur gay.
2006-12-14 13:10:10 · answer #4 · answered by monkey luver 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She accepted it once, and if she truly cares about your relationship with her..she will again.
2006-12-14 09:53:35 · answer #5 · answered by Jake 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes tell ur mom
2006-12-14 18:08:32 · answer #6 · answered by john 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
exactlly if she excepted it once and still loved you she will again
2006-12-14 10:19:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋