My daughter sleeps with me at night and in a swing for naps. She is too old for either of these now so it's time for the crib. She is a very light sleeper so everytime she falls asleep and I set her down she wakes up-wide awake! I cannot just let her cry it out. Help!
2006-12-14 06:08:24 · 17 answers · asked by coolmommy 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
good grief why did you wait so long? I remember my son at 2 wks cried and wondered where I was so I went in picked him up Said "Sweetheart its ok im right in the next room" kissed him and put him back and said go to sleep and he did...He wanted to know I was still around poor baby....be gentle but firm..
2006-12-14 06:12:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My daughter also sleeps in her swing for her daytime naps but in her bassinet for night time and she is 6 months. I would suggest getting an aquarium that shines onto the ceiling with music. Lay her in her crib awake and turn this on while giving her a bedtime bottle or her sucky. If you breastfeed then you may want to pump a bottle for this feeding as this way requires you not having to move her. Lay your head down on her crib while leaning over and watch her get sleepy. It is important to not let her nap 2-3 hours prior to putting her to bed as she may become restless and this can result in taking hours to get her to go to bed. I am doing this with my daughter and she sleeps in my bed then when she falls asleep goes into her bassinet. I am going to put her in her crib within these next few weeks and I feel she will get a better sleep because she wakes at any little noise like yours. Good luck and I hope this helps you :)
2006-12-14 07:07:16 · answer #2 · answered by rkonkin226 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lay her down in the crib when she falls asleep.If she wakes up let her cry but no more than 15 minutes.Pick her up rock her when she falls asleep put her back in crib.You may have to repeat this over and over.You will be so tired and tempted to just let her sleep with you.Please don't,it isn't safe.Also a bad habit
and will be harder to break later.Be persistent and she will eventually get use to the crib.I had the same problem with my son.Around 4 months of age.He is now 13 months sleeps great!
Good luck,be patient it will take up to a few weeks but she will get use to it.just don't let her sleep with you anymore not even at nap time.Always in the crib!
2006-12-14 06:33:31 · answer #3 · answered by brina l 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here's what helped with my son:
At first, I had the crib right next to the bed, so essentially, he was still sleeping "right by momma". Slowly, I moved the crib away from the bed towards the door, out the door, down the hall, and finally into his own room.
It was pretty inconvenient to juggle around a crib in the middle of the hallway and such, I'll admit, but I thought it was much easier than letting him "cry it out" - which I only tried one night, and it broke my heart in two.
By the way, there's nothing saying that your baby HAS to sleep in their own bed - it's all about what YOU feel is right for the both of you. Don't let anyone pressure you into doing what you don't feel either of you is ready for. Good luck, darlin'!
2006-12-14 06:44:55 · answer #4 · answered by jello 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My son is also a very light sleeper. As just about everyone else has stated, you should put her in her crib when she's sleepy but not already asleep. It's almost impossible to transfer a sleeping baby who is a light sleeper.
Make sure she's comfortable when you put her in her crib. Dry diaper, warm enough, full tummy (but not too full or else she'll have bad gas), etc. Try starting out with the daytime naps and then after a week or so, try nighttime sleep in the crib.
Here's the cruel part. When we first tried to sleep train our son, he cried for 10 minutes and then we went and checked on him. Seeing us made it even worse for him. As cruel as it sounds, we realized that going in to see him every 10 minutes was making it so hard for him to sleep. So we decided against checking on him in his room. We just heard and watched the baby monitor to make sure he was ok.
I have friends who say their babies learned in 2 days. After the first 2 weeks, our son would cry for 1-2 minutes before calming down. Our son took 6 weeks to learn to go to his crib without any crying.
Now he's 2 1/2 and hates sleeping anywhere but his crib (well now he's in a toddler bed).
Keep in mind that although your daughter may cry for 2 hours before falling asleep, when she wakes up in the morning, she won't remember any of it and she'll be happy to see you.
If the sound of her crying just rips your heart out (and it will), turn down the volume on her baby monitor and have a glass of wine! Just know in your heart that she's ok.
Good luck!!
mari
2006-12-14 06:29:19 · answer #5 · answered by mari m 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You probably should have put her in a crib from the very beginning.. With both of my children they were in their cribs from 2 wks on and always took naps in their cribs.. I think the only option is to let her cry it out.. I know it hard, but it has to be done... It will probably take no more than a couple nights, and it will be well worth it.. Good luck to you
2006-12-14 06:13:33 · answer #6 · answered by Kat0312 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, looks like you're going to have to let her cry for a few nights. What is suggested and has worked for me 2x is to lay them down in the crib with whatever she likes to sleep with, maybe turn on a radio if she is a light sleeper and let her cry. At first only for a few minutes, go back in and lay her down again. Every time increasing the minutes before you go back in ( 1rst time, 2mins...2nd time 5 mins...3rd time 10 mins and so on). It will be a long night and may take a few nights but it will work. So, start on a Friday so you have all weekend to recuperate and have someone with you for moral support...you will need it.
2006-12-14 06:17:24 · answer #7 · answered by scorpio 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is going to be hard. but your going to have to get her into a crib. it might take a week or two but at night you should read books to her in her room rock her with some slow music and then put her in the crib. IF she crys wait about 15 mins then go back in there and lie her down rub her back or whatever. You might have to do this for a week or two but eventually she will get the hang out it
2006-12-14 06:31:03 · answer #8 · answered by anneanderson85 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've had three kids and have tried each and every technique. At the end I vote AGAINST letting them "cry it out". Maybe it's a coincidence, but the one who slept in bed with us the longest (and still loves to now and then at age 8) is the most confident of the three. We never let him "cry it out". If it breaks your heart as a parent to hear it...listen to your heart!! She'll grow up so fast. What could be wrong in keeping her calm and secure?? Your instincts are right on the money.
If you want to go with the crib now, maybe you'll have to sit in a chair in the room with her til she falls asleep...she'll be a teenager really soon, and will want nothing to do with you. :-)
2006-12-14 08:15:36 · answer #9 · answered by Savvy Sue 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, but letting her cry it out for a bit is the best way. She has to learn. Try putting her down before she's already asleep then let her cry (for a reasonable amount of time, anyway. I'd give my kids about 15 minutes. Usually they'd cry themselves to sleep well before that time). It sounds cold and terrible, I know, but it will work. You established a bad habit now it needs to be broken. Good luck!!
2006-12-14 06:13:22 · answer #10 · answered by Shelley L 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well u cannot reason with your baby. if u want her to sleep in a crib u going to have to let her cry it out. otherwise u will have an even harder time getting her to sleep in her crib or bed when she is older.
2006-12-14 06:12:27 · answer #11 · answered by Miki 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋