I don't know what to do.?

Question

I've just found out I was six weeks pregnant and I don't know what to do. I am living in a hostel and am disabled. I have no partner and my family disowned me. Help me.

Answer 1

Kill yourself.

Answer 2

What sort of disability do you have? Living in a hostel isn't the end of the world. Speak to the council about getting a flat. Having no partner doesn't matter either, it's not ideal but plenty of women bring kids up alone and the cope ok. It does depend on what disability you have though. There is lots of help out there. Good luck xx

Answer 3

dont panic. if there is a care worker at you hostel talk to them asap.

if you decided to keep the child provisions will be put in place to ensure you are both safe and well. social services will help with this. getting you accomodation and maybe moving you to a more suitable hostel for pregnant women and children.
i asume you have sorted out things like applying for council accomidation, if you have tell them of your new circumstances and take a letter with you from the doctor to confirm this.

may i ask in what way are you disabled? this will help you to determine what has to be done and your options.

why has your family disowned you and can you build bridges with them. if you keep your baby would the childs granparents have nothing to do with it or could this be a way to mend the relaionship.

you probably feel very alone right now but there are hundreds of people out there that can help you to cope with this situation.

samaritans, doctors, councillours, midwife, friends, social workers. all you have to do is ask for help

Answer 4

Its a question only you know the answer to im afraid.
You have a few options you can carry on and keep the baby or give him/her for adoption or you can have an abortion.
Personally i dont agree with abortions as its never the baby at fault however if your situation is that bad you may need to think of the latter option.
You are entitled to help with finances etc and you may find that your local council might be able to help you somewhere better to live so check out all your options.
Although you will be a single mum if you keep your baby, think of the love that you will both share. A childs love is unwavering. They are hard work but very rewarding
I hope you find an option that is best for both you and your baby, good luck.

Answer 5

hi lolly, things must seem really bad at the moment but it will change, you live in a hostel do you have a social worker or someone professional who can help? what is your disability babe, if you dont mind me asking. there are all kinds of things i imagine you're worried about but dont panic, take each day as it comes try and get some advice, try other members of family if ur parents are making things difficult, how far along are you? do you want to keep it? i;m only asking so you can ask yourself, but take my advice babe its not all going to be bad things will seem dreadful but it will be ok.
Ifyou wantto you can e-mail me ill help if i can, i may be a bloke but i have some understanding i may be able to help.

Answer 6

http://www.abortionfacts.com/help/national_help_lines.asp

Hotlines that Refer to Places for Help

Option Line: 1-800-395-HELP - 24 hour phone help routed to a help center in your area. Confidential. You can also email at: [e-mail]
Local Help Listings
Catholic Charities: 1-800-CARE-002
The National Crisis Pregnancy Helpline 1-800-521-5530 (24 Hour)
The Nurturing Network: 1-800-TNN-4MOM (M-F, 9-5)
Counseling

Bethany Christian Services: 1-800-BETHANY (8am-12pm EST, 7 days/week)
Several Sources Foundation: 1-800-662-2678 (Early to Late)

24 Hour Pregnancy Hotlines

National Life Center 1-800-848-LOVE
Birthright: 1-800-550-4900

Adoption Information

Bethany Christian Services: 1-800-BETHANY (8am-12pm EST, 7 days/week)

Answer 7

Go and speak to your GP about ALL the options avaliable to you. the sooner you sort this out the better!

They wont judge you. If you decide to abort, your GP will refer you to a local hospital where you will be told all the pros and cons before they go ahead. If you decide to keep the baby, your doctor will make an appointment for you to see the midwife.

Perhaps you can talk to CAB, they might be able to put you in touch with advice groups.

Good luck whatever you decide.

Answer 8

Are you living is a hotel or a hostile environment?
Please clarify.
Either way, sweetheart the only advice I can give you is to seek professional help. There are many organizations available in your town or city that assist single mothers who need assistance. My concern is for you and your un-born baby's health. You first need to inquire about seeing a doctor in your area. I see you say your family has disowned you ... I'm sorry for that. How old are you? But being that you are 'disabled' there should definitely be help for you. I will pray for your strength during this time.

Answer 9

You should really talk to a social worker or nurse about your options. Logically there's 3: You can have an abortion, you can have the baby and give it up for adoption or you can have your baby and keep it. All choices have pros and cons, and it's a big decision to make. If you decide to keep your baby, make sure you get all the benefits and support available!

Answer 10

Speak to another membert of your family. Speak to your doctor who will be able to put you in touch with people that can help you, you wont be alone, your family will come round in the end you are their child and you are in need of them. Good luck

Answer 11

List all the things you would gain and all the things you would lose look really hard at the lists and then if you need it see a counsellor.