I drink for a good reason when i was 10 my brother was killed by my best friend and my father told my mum that he hated me,at 12 my mums boyfriends ,dad, raped me, and i had a **** few years up till i meet my wife and marred at 19 but at 23 my older bother died, 6 years ago my mum died all i have to stop the pain is drink ......
2006-12-14 05:27:45 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
drinking only numbs the pain temporarily you need to get some counciling they have places that do it for free. This could become a night mare my mom is an alcoholic and sometimes she is a different person. She very moody. think positive and try not to focus on your past bad thing happen to good people but we get strong through because we will always have trials. We make our lives what it is we can forgive, love and choose to become happy or dwell on the bad things that has happen to us in the past. God help us to be strong and not weak. Help us to rely on you and not our flesh and emotion. Sometimes people feel good to thing negative because they have been doing it for so long I have a friend that does that ,but she is trying to surround her self with positive people more ,but this is very difficult because she has low self esteem. What you think on all the time will come to past . Be with your wife and be happy. Don't make excuses be responsible for your own action.
2006-12-14 05:40:20 · answer #1 · answered by tellthetruth 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You think that you have a good reason but you dont, you need to stand up and get back yourself respect. contact some or all of the below, but you need to seperate these issues and deal with them 1 at a time, start with the most painful. But Stop Drinking, you have the strength, that is obvious, you went through all of the things you listed and are still here, just try mate, life is so short, dont waste anymore of yours on self pity. you cannot change the past, but you can mould your future into some thing good.
You should really seek out some counselling, I know that the drink may dull the pain but it will never remove it, once your sober again your still the same. This may seem harsh but you need to pull yourself together and leave the drink alone, your destroying your life and anyone around you who cares. Just because your life before today has been bad, thats no reason for "YOU" to make the rest of your life just as bad, do you honestly think that the people you lost would want you to drown yourself in drink. get help, if you don't you'll probably end up losing your wife as well.
Focus on what you HAVE not what you have lost.
I hope that you do get help and sort yourself out, there's light at the end of the tunnel, you just want to have to see it.
2006-12-14 13:54:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
So the love for and from your wife is not enough to stop you from drinking?Think of how painful it is for her to have such a husband.And go join alcoholic anonymous and spend more time with your wife instead of your drink.Not only will you destroy yourself,you'll destroy everybody who cares for you.You should feel lucky that you have a wife.And be a man,you're a husband for goodness sake.Wrap up the past and throw it away as part of your memory.You can't drag the past everywhere or you'll never ever be happy.Memories can be painful but if you learn to cherish what you have now,you won't regret drinking so much in the future.
2006-12-14 13:36:03 · answer #3 · answered by Rin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
surpressing your feelings with alcohol is only temporary. Wouldnt you like to feel "good" and happy naturally and on your own? Go to counseling and let out all your frustrations, sadness and anger. Trust me, with the right therapist and possible meds, you'll be fine. Now is the time to do something about it, not 5 or 10 years down the line when your liver is all shrivled up and your organs start shutting down, and you being unable to be a part of your family. Its not easy, but you know you have a problem, and only you can fix it. Admitting it is the first step and it seems you've already done that. Good luck and stay healthy for the people who are around that truly love and care about you. After all you wouldnt want them to suffer like you, right?
2006-12-14 13:33:04 · answer #4 · answered by ELW 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are no good reasond to drink to the point you do. You drink to avoid your feelings and need to get into some counselling for this. You will learn to accept the things that were beyond your control and learn from them. You need to accept what has happened and relearn how to deal with things like this. Give yourself the chance to overcome the pain. Drinking only hides the pain, it doesn't stop it. When you aren't drinking the feelings come rushing back and you go to the only thing you know to drown them, but they keep coming back. Get to AA and some grief couselling for help on how to do this. You can do it!!
2006-12-14 13:33:31 · answer #5 · answered by mayihelpyou 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A hobby would probably help a lot. Think of all the things you'd like to do. Are there any groups at your local community centre you could join without feeling like a fool? When you're doing something you like you won't experience as much pain so will not need to drink day in, day out.
Good luck. xxx
2006-12-14 13:34:54 · answer #6 · answered by Helen B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry for all of your losses. you have been unfortunate. but I must tell you that you will only continue your losses if you stay stuck in a bottle. Please begin AA or something of that sort. This will help you actually have to deal with the grief rather then to drown it down with alcohol. You need to learn coping skills not denial. Loss is hard, I know I have been there and it still hurts like hell but its life and you have to deal or die. Please dont cause your wife the pain that you have been caused. Show her that you are strong and you can do this.
Take care and be strong through this season. I know you can do this!
2006-12-14 13:34:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well yes you have had a bad time. Me too, and a lot like us.
Thing is though you are prolonging the misery through drink my friend. It is all about having the strength to bounce back and enjoy the rest of your life. You are actually punishing yourself but you can't see it yet. You will one day. We all have it in us to fail or succeed and right now you are on a downward spiral to failure. The drink will kill you and then someone else will be left on earth to mourn over you.
2006-12-14 13:44:51 · answer #8 · answered by JB 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi great simpethy from me and u must remember u r the one who can do any thing in your life no one else wish iwas your frind and close by but u must remember this is your life ahead and u got to live can do on (gonaletmein@yahoo.co.uk) if u want to talk some time i had bad exp as well and do drink now but then agian no heavy just to relaxe me if u can get in touch with me would be good when u get up in the morning think hard and say to your self wot im doing drinking and waisting my life get some one who can comfort u try to have bit fun where ever u can and see how its goes u seems like nice guy talk to me
xx
2006-12-14 22:23:31 · answer #9 · answered by fizz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
o love im so sorry to hear about your problem! drinking only suppresses the pain for a little while..you have a desease called addiction! you need to stop before you hurt yourself! you now have a wife so confide in her she is there for you...you just need to realize what is really improtant in lfe and go with it and dont look back! problems in your life will go away when you face them. also like facing your fears it is very hard..i know ... but just try to learn to look at the blessings that you do have. you need to realixe what has happened in your life will only make you a stronger person !
may god bless you
i hope that you will one day find the hope and strength to get thru this!
2006-12-14 13:57:42 · answer #10 · answered by wifeytype 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋