He send me an email saying that he will ask my ex to marry him. They have been going out only 6 months and are both 18. I went out with her 10 months. I still love her a lot. She in basic training for the Navy. She'll be back in two weeks. What do I do?
2006-12-14 05:13:53 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sorry, I'm 19. Forgot to mention.
2006-12-14 05:26:49 · update #1
Nothing you can do except tell him to stop texting you. She's a grown woman in the Navy who can make her own decisions, Move on.
2006-12-14 05:16:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Obviously she doesn't feel the same way about you or she wouldn't be seeing someone else.
I don't understand WHY her current boyfriend emailed you. That makes no sense at all.
Look at it this way. You said you and her were together for 10 months. She has been with this guy for 6 months. She is 18 years old. She is many years away from making a major decision like marriage. She has been with you two since she was about 16 years old..........WAY TO YOUNG for a relationship.
She is going to do a lot of growing up in the next four years in the Navy. She will be a totally different person when she is finished. She will have long outgrown you and the other guy. I hope she isn't thinking of marriage. If she had the maturity to enlist in the Navy I doubt if she is going to jump into marriage any time soon.
WHAT DO YOU DO? You back off. DO NOT contact her. If she wants to say hi while she is home, she knows how to call you. The best thing you could do for yourself and her is to ignore the whole situation. Don't put any more pressure on her at this time. You will for sure be the loser if you do..........................
2006-12-14 05:30:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hopefully the Navy has given this girl some brains. She is too young to get married. Your friend is not much of a friend to hurt you like this. If he is really your friend , he would have known how you feel. All he is doing is rubbing salt into the wound. Move on with your life , which is easier said than done. You are young and have a life time to find the perfect mate. Don't let your so call friends cause you pain.
2006-12-14 05:46:20 · answer #3 · answered by springer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is only 18 years old. When you went out with her, she was a child. Many people don't know what they want until they are about 21 years old anyways. She didn't know what she was looking for at the time and was checking out her options. You never mentioned how old you are currently and how many years apart you are from her. But she is still her own person.
Anyways, she has her whole life ahead of her. If they want to become engaged, let them. She is not dating you and she is her own person and an adult. You are going to have to start thinking of her as your friend's girlfriend, not your ex. If you do, it might help with the transition go smoother for you if they were to get married some day. If they decide to get married, it takes BOTH of them to decide and I hope they wait a few years first!
My mother in law was married to this man, and got a divorced. Later she married her ex-husband's brother.
We are NOT compatible with everyone we date. The purpose of dating is to find who we are compatible with and if our lives are heading in the same direction.
2006-12-14 05:20:06 · answer #4 · answered by Erica, AKA Stretch 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He sounds immature. If your exgirlfriend likes that type then let her go. You are young and 10 months seems like a long time but it really isn't. You won't understand until you've aged some. But, believe me when I tell you... everything happens for a reason. You'll look back on this drama and think... "what was I thinking?" We all have moments like that/this. (similar anyway) You'll be fine. You're going to make a woman very happy. It's just not the one you are pining after at the moment. Good luck and God bless!
2006-12-14 05:19:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
From one point of view,it might be because he respects you hence he is telling you that he want to marry the girl.This is good for your ex.From another point of view,this guy is taunting you and want you to hurt because he is getting the girl,not you.This is bad for the girl because I doubt he really loves her.By the way,since they're only 18,chances are he's just taunting you.And what makes him think she'll accept him?And for goodness sake,how old are you?If you are still worried talk face to face with him and her.But I have to remind you that she's your ex,not your girlfriend.Why do you ask what you should do?Her life doesn't even concern you anymore,she has a boyfriend now.
2006-12-14 05:23:19 · answer #6 · answered by Rin 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, unfortunately, she seems to have what she wants planned already. You see, a break up is not always a mutual desicion, and the fact that she seems to be staying away from you means that no matter how much you are opposed to the engagement, she's not going to alter her choice to your feelings, you're really not a part of it anymore. I'm sorry that you still love her, and I'm sorry that the new fiancee` to be is using her to dangle in front of you for his sick teasing pleasures, but there's nothing you can do but move one and love again Good Luck
~*Frenchie*~
2006-12-14 05:22:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your ex's boyfriend knows you have feelings for her and either wants to make you jealous or else whats to give you a chance to talk to her about your feelings. If you still care for her and you think she might still care for you, you should talk to her before he pops the question. Good luck!
To those of you thinking he is gay, you should read his words more closely. He is saying his ex-girlfriend's present boyfriend sent him a message, saying that he (present boyfriend) is going to ask Andy's ex-girlfriend to marry him!
2006-12-14 05:30:19 · answer #8 · answered by Bekka 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Are you bisexual? Otherwise this makes no sense...
I'll base my answer on the assumption that you are...
It sounds like you are all pretty confused about your sexuality and no one should be marrying anyone. There is a big difference between love and sex, therefore, I think you should all take a look at yourselves and decide where your sexuality lies and where your heart lies.
My suggestion would be talk to her and explain that some serious thinking needs to be done!
2006-12-14 05:19:01 · answer #9 · answered by jaynic72 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Your ex boyfriend is going to ask your ex girlfriend to marry him. Sell this story to the Jerry Springer show, make some money off it.
2006-12-14 05:16:53 · answer #10 · answered by mayihelpyou 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋