didn't work out. Didn't even get to 2nd/3rd base. Anyway, since November we have been hanging out every weekend and enjoy each other's company. Lots of sex too!! but his mind is made up. He still wants a divorce. He says he loves and cares for me as a "friend". My gut feeling is that maybe his confused, and his too proud to admit? I also strongly believe that he will come home soon...am I crazy??????
2006-12-14 05:11:52 · 25 answers · asked by betrayed 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
nah, he might come around.
2006-12-14 05:13:34 · answer #1 · answered by Shocker3:16 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO NO NO NO NO What are you thinking--Do not give him sex!! It seems to me that if he says he still wants out and yet you are giving him a comfort zone why should he commit to this ? The situation he has now is he can still look for someone else while he has you keeping him warm--Cut him off tell him to choose one way or the other--Come home and be a family or go away and let you get on with your life and find some one that will LOVE and cherish you ---A friend---What a load of garbage you don't sleep with your Friends
2006-12-14 05:17:37 · answer #2 · answered by skizzle-d-wizzle 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey , wake up and smell the roses. He is using you for sex. He thinks the grass is greener . Sounds like he will never admit he is wrong. He wants to have his cake and eat it too and you are letting him. Don't do this to yourself. Let him go . You are having sex with him and expecting him to come home. Let him be alone and with out you for a while not being able to come home for the weekend for a bed of fun and games. You are letting him have the candy, but not everything that goes with life. You still love him and need him, but he is using you. Stop and make him grow up and see what happens.
2006-12-14 05:52:15 · answer #3 · answered by springer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no you arent crazy you are "HOPEFUL", &you have every reason in the world to be!! you have been with this man 15yrs. & would love to be with him 15 more & then some & there is nothing wrong or crazy about that, from what i see the problem is that he doesnt want to let you go & iyt would kill him to lose you all together, he is going through this phase that ive seen & heard of so many times as far as men go!! want my cake & eat it to, yeah i know that saying doesnt make much sense b/c everybody that wants a cake quite naturally wants to eat it right, but its not fair if i walk to get the mix, walk back & then mix it, bake it & then prepare & cut it ,only for you to take the whole cake & leave & eat it with someone else & then once its all gone you decide to come back with a sob story about the female you ate it with & how she took over 1/2 of it to share with her "other" male companions ..now he has a few regrets about how he went about the whole cake incident & you willingly listen & console him, now you are constantly continuing the make him cakes & even though he eats them with you, the 2 of u never have a party & he is still saying i love your cakes honey, but i dont want you to be my only baker, i wanna search just to see if perhaps there may be a better baker that you !! so you tekll me if after careful thought of this matter you would continue baking his cakes, putting your "talent" on hold while he enjoys your baking yet still sampling pastries Nationwide, even going to the national bake offs??!!! i went that way about it so that i didnt completely answer your question, but at the same time i did~ by letting you see what i see when i look in the window,..good luck * best wishes
2006-12-14 05:25:57 · answer #4 · answered by kimmiegaddy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-05 07:40:24 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't risk your emotional health. He says he sees you as a friend (with benefits, I guess). The chances of his coming home again are poor if he can have the sex and weekend friendship without the day to day responsibility of being a husband. Give him his divorce; don't give him sex. When he sees you can get along without him...he might change his mind. If he doesn't, then you are best done with him. You deserve better.
2006-12-14 05:16:32 · answer #6 · answered by Wiser1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he isn't confused in any way, he thinks of u as a friend, if after theres alot of sex, and he hangs out on the wekends, and theres still no change of his mind, than it is not likely to happen. he is telling u the truth about how he feels, and how do u know what he is telling u about the other woman is true? he left u for her, and isn't coming back to the marriage. so i would not set myself up fr anymore heartache, if he doesn't want to be married than there is nothing u can do about it.he is using u, and u don't even know it.
2006-12-14 06:57:17 · answer #7 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not crazy, but I wouldn't let him come home. The fact that he says that he "loves you like a friend" means he no longer feels any commitment to you or your marriage. You deserve better. Stop sleeping with him. Why would he come home anyway, when he can have his cake and eat it too? Sorry.
2006-12-14 05:16:21 · answer #8 · answered by justcurious 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So.....here's how I see it. Left you after 15 years for what he thought would be paradise. It didn't pan out so now he's back seeing you and your both getting laid...but he's adamant he isn't going to stick around.
So is it fun? I mean getting laid and all knowing full well that he's going to give you the boot for somethingbetter. Once that "something better" starts spreading her legs for him. Then...that'll sort of leave you out in the cold won't it. Of course until that ends and you both get back together again and prostitute yourselves.
Ah well...to each their own. I guess if it works than bully for you.
2006-12-14 05:20:52 · answer #9 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not crazy, you are in denial. Your husband obviously knows that he has you in a place where things cant get any better for him. He gets to have girlfriends and see how far he can "get" with them and then he still has you, his old companion for 15 years, someone he feels comfortable with and can bang whenever he needs to. He is using you while he hets to go out and play the field and "find himself" thats is total B.S. honey. You need to kick him out forever. Go out, get yourself a new dress, new hair do, make yourself feel beautiful and special and then have a night out on the town. Start living again. Do not be victim to one of those men you keeps a wife/ex wife around dangling on his finger while he has a mid life crisis. you go out and get someone who will appreciate you for the rest of your life!!!!
2006-12-14 05:17:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He might just be in a funk with himself, and since you've always been there, he's taking it out on you. Give him time and space. But don't let him use you. You're not an object for sex when he can't get it anywhere else, but you can still be his friend. Good luck.
2006-12-14 05:15:24 · answer #11 · answered by Jennalove311 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋