am i wrong??? Now why do men think you are suppose to support them??? what is going on???
2006-12-14 05:09:11 · 22 answers · asked by sweet 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No woman should be supporting a man(financially). Real men support themselves and their families. Im not saying that women can't take care of themselves because I am a woman with a child and can care for me and my child just fine but I don't like guys who refuse to work and want their women to do for them...that is just pathetic.
2006-12-14 05:12:10 · answer #1 · answered by Kokolicious06 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I can't believe you wrote that. Women have demanded, and rightfully so, the same opportunities, wages, and rights that a man has. This extends to and includes the right of access to a men's only club, or men's locker rooms. (not rightfully so)
Now, you want all that and to still be taken care of?
There are trade offs. If one spouse takes care of the home or the children, the other spouse should be the main wage earner.
That can go either way.
Just because you're a female, there is no built in consideration to be taken care of, or supported.
That's what society has called "progress."
If the male is in school, then there is no reason the female can't be the main financial support, especially if he is on the road to better jobs, higher earnings. Same for a female in school and the male working to support her, however, both are obligated (in my opinion) to utilize that education for the benefit of the family.
2006-12-14 13:23:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yup, you got that right. Actually there is evidence that at least in the US, a smaller proportion of the adult male population is working than 20 years ago. With the loss of a lot of better paying industrial jobs, a lot of guys concluded they just weren't interested in work if it involved retraining, going to college, or settling for a lower-paying service job. So they figure they'll just mooch off of women. Unfortunately, if you are married to one, they are hard to get rid of. They will claim they are the "stay-at-home" parent (even if they don't do diddly squat). Then they'll want child support and alimony. Some of this is the fault of gender-neutral feminists (as opposed to other feminists who have a more realisitic appraisal based on sociology and reality, rather than wishful thinking and knee-jerk "equal" ideology.) Some is also the fault of the Men's Rights or Father's Rights movement.
2006-12-14 13:41:32 · answer #3 · answered by silverside 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your generalizing. Who is the bread winner and who stays home with the kids is an agreement between the two adults involved. Period. Old society is the one who said "The man makes the money and the woman stays home barefoot and pregnant" , cooking and cleaning etc...bla bla bla. I know couples who work both ways. The wife has a higher paying job, so the dad stays home with the kids. It works for them. Now ask yourself. What do YOU want. Once you have the answer, go out and find someone that agrees with you. Don't forget to be upfront about it in the beginning. There are plenty of "traditional" people left in this world.
2006-12-14 13:17:25 · answer #4 · answered by Evolving 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since women have become more independent and are having great careers and making as much money as men, some men ( like some women) decide to find a someone to take care of them. There are people of both sexes whose main goal in life is to find someone with money to take care of them. Personally I believe the man should take care of the woman and in a marriage should support each other and share in all of the responsibilities.
2006-12-14 13:24:00 · answer #5 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It used to be that the man supported the woman--a long time ago. But, we've evolved (for the most part) and both sexes are considered equal. No one is "supposed" to support the other. I think independence is essential these days, and if people co-habitate, things should be divided equally, financial and everything else.
2006-12-14 13:13:34 · answer #6 · answered by Maybalee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its really supposed to be the higher earner who supports the lower one- its just everyone thinks its the woman because previously women were usually in the position of lesser income - nowadays its getting more common for women to make more than some of their husbands.
2006-12-14 13:11:52 · answer #7 · answered by radiancia 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is suppose to be Man is the provider to bring home the bacon and woman stays home and takecare of the home, kids. Unfortunately thats back in Grandparents time. The good thing is that there are still couples these days see the important of Mom staying to care for the children when they come home from school. so they dont get involved with gangs or trouble.
But I have also seeing the living cost going up-its getting expensive. So its always nice to have both incomes-I think there's that love for each other. I think there are husband/fathers out there who works hard to provide. But if you find guys who are EXPECTING to stay home. I think you need to move on!!!They need to get a life!!! Dont settle for that!! Than if you two have children he will passed that idea to your sons! come on!! let them be man! stop being a cry baby!!!
I am the provider for my mother, brothers, my Dad passed away! I push my brothers to get good education-job so they can provide for their future family!! No slackers!!!
Good luck!!! Teach them responsibility!!
2006-12-14 13:18:27 · answer #8 · answered by smiley710 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Call me old fashioned but I like being supported by my husband. His mum makes him feel like a little boy and is NEVER satisfied so I feel happy that I am the type that respects her husband and in turn my husband supports me as a woman.
The man is the head of the household, the woman is the heart of the home! (Atleast in my home it is..lol)
2006-12-14 13:39:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ummmmmmm the man IS supposed to support the women
2006-12-14 13:12:16 · answer #10 · answered by Bubblez707 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋