We live in Rancho Cordova, Ca. It is a suburb of Sacramento. My neice (she will be 13 on Friday) hangs with several friends. She and her 14 year old friend have been observed smoking cigarettes. She talks about she and her friends taking the bus and light rail several miles away from home. They are seen walking over a mile away from her house, and she tells me that some of her companions are 17 and 21. I'm wodering why 17 and 21 year olds are hanging around with 12 and 14 year olds. She has told me that although she isn't, some of her friends are in gangs. I am concerned. Her mother thinks this is all okay, and doesn't really want to deal with it. Should I not be concerned?
2006-12-14 05:07:48 · 16 answers · asked by Dianna 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I would be very concerned! it sounds like this little girl is going to get herself in a dangerous situation...well she has already actually.Maybe you could try to spend some quality time with her and be a good influence in her life. She needs someone who cares.
2006-12-14 05:15:51 · answer #1 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have every reason to be concerned. This little girl is running with the wrong crowd. Time for intervention before it is too late. Mommy needs to get off her a** and start parenting. This behavior is not ok. She is heading down a dangerous path and will soon pass the point of no return and it seems like you are the one who has to stop her. Talk to her. Show her the error of her ways. Take her to church and get her involved in a youth program to keep her busy. Anything would be better than hanging out with 17 & 21 year olds who only have one thing on their mind. Save her before her impressionable little mind is corrupted forever. Good Luck and God Bless.
2006-12-14 13:16:19 · answer #2 · answered by servant2heaven 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course you should be concerned because if this is true and you have witnessed it, then it's time for you to put your foot down and do something about it. Nowadays, young adolescents are getting so caught up in so many different thing's which may limit their success in the near future. It's best to have a deep conversation with her because the people she hangs out with may already be sexual active and doing other thing's in which someone at 12 and fourteen shouldn't even be involved in.
2006-12-14 13:16:21 · answer #3 · answered by Pink~Panther 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be very concerned! A 12 or 14 year old girl hanging out with drug addicts and gangs is not good! You never know what might happen to her one day. Sit down with her and talk about it. Tell her that drugs are very bad and that gangs will lead them to doing horrible things to themselves and other people as well.
2006-12-14 13:11:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes you should be concerned.. At age 14 they are very impressionable.These older people could possibly get her to do things she wouldn't normally do.. and could get into trouble. I'd have a long talk with the mother, or investigate these people shes hanging around on your own.. they are way too old to be hanging around a 14 yr old.
2006-12-14 13:14:42 · answer #5 · answered by Indymom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi..i am originally from Sacramento, and this kind of stuff would worry me as well. It seems like even though she says her friends are in a gang and not her, you would think they want her to join. Maybe that is why they are hanging around such young girls. Either way it sounds dangerous and her mother needs a wake up call. Good luck, and i would do your best to keep her away from them
2006-12-14 13:13:27 · answer #6 · answered by kristina43 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I think you should have confidence in to your girl if she deserve it of course but maybe you should sit down with her and have a talk and tell her you are concerned about her safety and her well being because you love her your her mother any good mother would be concerned. I think that by making your point to her and telling her that you trust her and act safely with her brain she will want less to disobey because at that gae the only thing we want to do is the thing we CAN"T do .
Good luck
2006-12-14 13:13:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a parent , I indeed would be concerned. Your neice is going to learn some things from the older crowd that isn't suitable for her age. As you already see, she is picking up bad habits. She is in over her head.
Her mother is in denial.
2006-12-14 13:14:24 · answer #8 · answered by honiebyrd 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you should be and you should have a heart-to-heart talk with the mother because she doesn't seem to be concerned for your niece's well-being.
2006-12-14 13:10:02 · answer #9 · answered by chrstnwrtr 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should be concerned.... try to talk to her.... you know psychologists say the reason children hang out with the wrong crowd because they are looking for comfort that they don't have in their own homes
2006-12-14 13:11:11 · answer #10 · answered by rache0116 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋