the woman is 29 years old. she loves her son very much and at times it feels quite disgusting to me.Please advise me whether to continue with the relation or not
2006-12-14 05:01:53 · 18 answers · asked by tantrik 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
if you really love her and if she really loves you, then okay move on with the relationship...continue
2006-12-14 05:03:08 · answer #1 · answered by leazngurl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to clarify what exactly is disgusting here.... That she loves her 12 year old son? That she has a 12 year old son? That she is a whole 3 years older than you? If you love her and you want to merry her then none of that should matter. As a matter of fact, the idea that she loves her son very much (and I'm asuming takes good care of him) when she had him at the age of 17 is a good sign I would think. Most 17 year olds don't have a CLUE how to take care of a child. Sounds like she might be doing a great job. So again I ask....whats your problem here? Either you love her or you don't.... On top of all that, you had better love her child as well. If you don't then your messing with his life as well.
2006-12-14 05:10:29 · answer #2 · answered by Evolving 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have to concur with earlier posts that say that if the relationship must be "secret," then it must not be a good one.
You state no reasons why this relationship is disgusting to you, outside the implication that one of the reasons might be that she loves her son. Would you rather be with a woman that had a son that she didn't love?
Three years age difference surely isn't a May-December romance, it's so small a difference as to be irrelevant.
My suggestion to you would be to ponder the reasons you have for secrecy, and what you are so "disgusted" by in this relationship. Just the fact that you felt the need to ask strangers for help in this rather vague way would seem to suggest that this is not a good relationship for anyone involved...
2006-12-14 06:05:42 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel "quite disgusting" about how she loves her son very much, you need to discontinue this relationship. I sense that there's something you're not including in your question. But this just looks like trouble. Don't compound the error by continuing and marrying this woman. Especially since there is a child involved.
2006-12-14 05:14:16 · answer #4 · answered by SuperAndy dot com 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why is the engagement a secret? And why is the relationship disgusting that she has with her son? It is very hard to be a step parent, and you will have some jealousy issues, but if you love her, and you can love her son as if he were your own, then you should have no problems. If her relationship with her son is disgusting, because there is some sort of abuse there, then I would get her and her son some professional help.
2006-12-14 05:08:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you're not telling us something. Sounds to me like a great situation. (give or take the secret engagement). If she is a widow, then what you have is a very respectable woman who has experienced the loss of someone close to her heart. Letting you in was a big step for her. It's time you took one. In or out!
2006-12-14 05:17:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you want a relationship you have to hide from a 12 year old. Let her finish raising her son until he is 18 and pick up where you guys left off. Just remember, kids should always come first!
2006-12-14 05:04:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may be 26 but you are far too immature if you think that a mother who loves her son is disgusting. 12 is a very impressionable age and obviously you are not father figure material.
2006-12-14 05:32:09 · answer #8 · answered by GrnApl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you like being married? in case you probably did, then there is not any rationalization why you shouldnt remarry sometime. i'm particular your late spouse and little ones opt for you to be happy, and if remarrying might make you happy, then you definately ought to. One situation you would be able to come across is the hot spouse would desire to have little ones. Beings yours are grown and one would be beginning their very own relatives quickly, beginning as quickly as greater won't be something which you would be interested in doing. i'm so sorry to hearken to approximately your late spouse.
2016-10-05 07:39:52 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The age difference is no big deal- sounds like your attitude about it is- it should not feel disgusting- and why secretly engaged- you are grown adults- your thinking shows immaturity- get mature - get over it- or end it - she deserves better if you can't get over it and feel disgusted- that is not right-D
2006-12-14 05:05:39 · answer #10 · answered by Debby B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your engagment has to be a secret then obviously it isn't something she and you are proud of. Open your eyes and look for someone you can be proud of! Marriage is a happy thing; not a secretive thing.
2006-12-14 05:06:38 · answer #11 · answered by HDGranny 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋