am 39 and marred to a graet woman for 19 years but am a dick with the drink and the wife has had anuff no more **** she said but its hard to stop all together and at this time of year its murder so what do i do HELP...
2006-12-14 05:00:51 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You have a GREAT WIFE?? Want to take a chance of loosing 19 years?? If so then drink--If not then DON"T We all have crosses to bear in life and this one is yours --Tell her its hard she after all is the other half of what makes you whole so why not lean on her when you need to?? Did you ever go to AA? And did you stop??? If maybe you never did why not start heck ask your wife to go too Then she can see for herself how hard this problem is not just for you but for others that fight the battle
God Bless you in this walk of sobriety
2006-12-14 05:07:00 · answer #1 · answered by skizzle-d-wizzle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just stay occupied with other things. don't go near the stuff so you won't be tempted. If that means your wife has to do all the grocery shopping, so be it. let her know. and talk about your problems with her. it will help to voice this to close friends and family. Tell them you really need their support and you're having a hard time keeping of the booze. Start exercising also. And eating well. You won't want to throw away all the effort you're putting into your body for some stupid drink. focus on getting back into shape ( I assume with the drink you may be out of shape or even have a beer belly). This could be the best holiday season yet! You're starting a new life. Congratulations!!!
2006-12-14 13:06:09 · answer #2 · answered by -- 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try asking your wife for some support and help. Ask her to help you stop drinking. Drinking at any time of year is difficult. It's an addiction just like drugs are, you cant' just stop at the drop of a hat! And if she won't help you, then find a rehab center, and tell them you want to turn yourself in(sorry, I can't think of the right words). Don't worry about your job, because they can take care of it, and it will be on your record that YOU wanted to go there. So it won't look bad, not like a court order rehabilitation.
If your wife won't support you, in either decision, you might want to rethink about how great a woman she is. She's the one that complains about you drinking in the first place, so I doubt she'll have a problem with it. But I can tell you this.....without support of loved ones, getting sober is one of the most difficult things to do!!
2006-12-14 13:06:51 · answer #3 · answered by Pluto 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound as if you in need of allot of support form your family and friends,
If your finding it hard, ask your wife to respect you and support you this Xmas by not drinking as-well
Seek advice from your doctor who can arrange for you to meet up with other people with the same addiction.
If you are an alcoholic you can't just give it up, you need to come of the drink gradually and in a medicated way.
excessive drink does kill and it seems as if your aware of that as your trying to do something about it.
I hope that you strong enough to come off the drink, not for your wife or anyone else, but for yourself.
I wish you a Happy Xmas and New Year. Best of luck Buddy xx
2006-12-14 13:20:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off nice 1 mate for doin so well!!!
Try keeping occupied,try helping with things that need doing around the house like peeling veg anything really that uses your hands.Look on the net for some non alcoholic drinks that taste better than the boring coke,lemonade or orange. If all else fails go out walk somewhere(not near pubs) cause stress will make you want a drink more so try not to get into stressful situations
2006-12-14 13:05:14 · answer #5 · answered by snikleback 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My dad is an alcoholic. I am 37 and I can tell you Christmas and the new year will always be the hardest time of the year. You just need to be strong and remember why you are giving it up. Alchohol will destroy your life and the lives of your children. You can try AA but that never worked for my father. I hope your wife is trying to be supportive. Because you need it more than ever. My prayers will go out to you this holiday and every holiday. My dad now has been dry for tweny five years. I congratulate him and you. But, he will tell you it is always a struggle. Good luck and God bless.
2006-12-14 13:09:02 · answer #6 · answered by janine b 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop into an AA meeting a couple of times a week. My husband is a recovering alcoholic and the meetings really help him. Remember when you think of taking a drink it's only a thought. Be strong and just say No! Losing your family over alcohol is something you'll regret for the rest of your life. Stay strong and really, get yourself into a program. Good Luck and stay strong!!!
2006-12-14 13:09:21 · answer #7 · answered by autumn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i am 44 years old and i dont drink anymore.
i havent drank in over 15 years now.
i drank myself blind once after drinking about a gallon of vodka, and was having a good time doing it
but when i went blind and then got in the car a drove i knew that i was either going to kill myself or someone else and i havent touch any since. just lay it down and get it all out of the houe and just think what is more important to you your wife or your drinking?
2006-12-14 13:30:45 · answer #8 · answered by danielp1962 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Spend time with people who don't drink.
Spend time at places where drinking is not allowed.
Go to AA meetings.
Ask your wife for support.
Good luck!!
2006-12-14 13:04:09 · answer #9 · answered by bewitching_green_fairy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to AA meeting and get some support from others going through the same thing. It's best when you have someone who understands your situation first hand.
As for this time of year...stick to non-alcoholic eggnog.
2006-12-14 13:14:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋