My ex committed 3 felonies and was put on probation for 18 months sometime last year. He was due to get off in January 2007. A lot has happened between us this year and because of all the horrible things he did to me ( abuse and what not ) and the not helping support his daughter he claims to love so much, I had a bad taste in my mouth about him. I wrote an anonymous e-mail to the county where his probation was stating that he was actually in another county and not the one he claimed to be in which would be a violation of probation. This was not a lie! I also did it because I have watched him for 2 years get away with EVERYTHING and get off scott free. He has hurt so many people and nothing has happened to him. Well his probation officer e-mailed me back and pinpointed that it was me somehow and even told him! He got irate and threatened me and I e-mailed her back very pissed that she would do something like that knowing he was dangerous!
2006-12-14
04:59:57
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I feel guilty and scared now. His family is wealthy and Maroccan, his dad is horrible! Can they use my e-mail in court and use my name? After everything thats happened my ex says he still loves me evern though I am due to get married in 2 weeks. I don't love him and I told him that several times. What do you think will happen? He doesn't pay child support so he would end up in jail anyways.
2006-12-14
05:03:30 ·
update #1
He was arrested today and sent back to the county he is supposed to be in about 45 minutes ago. His mom called me because he asked her to call me and she said his father is IRATE.
2006-12-14
05:07:24 ·
update #2
I used an anonymous e-mail account with yahoo and the probation officer assumed it was me and told my ex which then threatened me. Sorry this is so long but I am freaking out.
2006-12-14
05:09:47 ·
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I was put in the a similiar situation-but it was my nephew. I called his probation officer because he was back on drugs and doing all kinds of crazy things. His parole officer asked me my name and I didn't want to give it, but he said in order to act upon the information, he needed it. I gave it to him then he called my nephew in for a drug test and told him before that I had called and told on him. I didn't like it very much, but what could I do??? My nephew is very dangerous too....( was carrying a gun and clubs)
When they went to court, his probation officer revoked his probation for failing the drug test. He didn't mention that I called and told on him, because, legally, all he needed was the failed test.
Now, when your ex goes to court, his probation officer may or may not use the fact that you called it in. He could say that he received word of his violation and upon investigating it-he found the information to be true. He doesn't have to say, "his ex emailed us and let us know. " But since your ex already knows it was you, therefore, it doesn't really matter if they tell the court that or not.
I would suggest getting a restraining order against him and his family. You can use his own criminal background as reason for it. Also, you can the threat his dad made to you. I am sure once you tell the magistrate what is going on, they will give you one.
Then don't make the mistake others have made. NO MATTER WHAT HE OR HIS FAMILY SAYS< DON"T GIVE THEM THE CHANCE TO HURT YOU> they may come to your home and say that they just want to talk, or that they aren't mad at what you did. CALL THE POLICE as soon as you can if they come to your home, or call you.
Also, if need be, get you a tape recorder and have it by your phone, if they call you, tell them up front you are taping the call (it's illegal to tape a conversation unless all parties are aware of it), then start recording.
2006-12-14 05:31:05
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answered by Hestia 4
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That email was supposed to be anonymous! The probation officer should NEVER have told him where the tip came from. If he is in custody, he should not be threatening you. I am sorry that you are involved with such a corrupt system. The important thing is that you and your child are safe. I would recommend moving or at least changing your number. I don't want to judge anybody but I would be nervous if a convicted felon was threatening me. Don't worry you did NOTHING wrong! It was your ex that violated his probation (and committed those crimes), not you. You will be in my prayers.
2006-12-14 05:14:18
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answered by Summer 5
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You didn't put him in jail, his behavior did. I don't know what will happen now. Are you sure that the probation officer told him that you were the informant, or is that what he or his family told you? I doubt that the P.O. would have the resources to trace an e-mail. I think that it is most likelyl that he just "figured" it was you.
Exes are the main source of such complaints against probationers.
Do not allow him or his family to threaten you, and, if they do, you should report it.
Good luck to you
2006-12-14 05:16:05
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answered by huduuluv 5
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Wow!
First, check with the probation department manager (or HR department) to see if the prob officer was allowed to give out your name. That info is usually kept private, so she may have crossed the line. Don't feel guilty about it, either! Put her cheese in the wind, as she has obviously put your safety in jeopardy.
Also, address the threats you've received with the prob manager/HR from your ex.
Take notes! Each phone call, email, visit, etc you receive from your ex should be documented in detail (date, time, place, and a detail account of comments and actions).
2006-12-14 05:14:45
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answered by boo's mom 6
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I would suggest that you file a complaint with the local District Attorney against the probation officer that informed your ex about your e-mail. She violated a confidence, but more importantly, she put you in fear of your physical safety. Her actions were, at the worse, criminal and at best, unprofessional.
2006-12-14 05:18:01
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answered by PALADIN 4
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Kewl story, Where's the question?
Oh you asked it way at the end.
Legally, I think they can use that email, and present it. You should have just made an account with yahoo or something and emailed the probation officer.
2006-12-14 05:03:55
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answered by Take it from Toby 7
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Whoa! I heard that. Even though people have answered this question, I just wanted to say that I commend you on doing that. Most females are too scared and blinded by love when it actually isn't and let guys take advantage and get over on you. I'm glad you stood up and turned his a** in.
2006-12-14 05:25:21
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answered by cutelashon 3
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Don't let fear guide you. He doesn't know what your new married name will be? Quickly change your name, phone number, email, etc. and disappear for a while. Make absolutely no contact. Begin enjoying your life with your new husband and do not look back!
2006-12-14 05:19:50
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answered by redslippers 4
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You did the right thing by turning him in. I know in a few place they are not to use your email or name unless you get them the right too. So you would have to ask a lawyer in your area what your rights are.
2006-12-14 05:10:11
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answered by Anonymous
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Well just remember that he will pay when judgement day comes! That's the only punishment that really matters because that determines where you spend eternity and burning in hell eternally is punishing enough!!!
2006-12-14 05:21:50
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answered by sweetgurl 1
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