ok...me and my boyfriend want to have sex, really bad. it was extremely painful, and we just couldnt do it. so now, we have started using fingers, well one finger, and that doesnt hurt, it actually feels good, very good, but we can only get one finger, and the penis still hurts. so i guess my question is, will my vagina eventually stretch a little so it can accomadate more??? im really worried that we will never have sex.
2006-12-14 04:51:25 · 13 answers · asked by gardner7988 1 in Health ➔ Women's Health
I am 18, and we are in a very commited relationship, looking to marriage.
2006-12-14 04:58:52 · update #1
You may have a condition known as "vaginismus", wher eyou have a narrowed opening.
i would check with your ob-gyn on that
2006-12-14 04:55:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 15⤊ 0⤋
Hi,
So your 18 and in a serious relationship, that's really good.
I had the same problem with my first partner and it took around 3 months to be able too.
My advice would be to move up fingers from 1 to 2 then to 3, once you have reached three slowly over a through months it won't hurt you at all and won't hurt him either.
It might also be that there is so much pressure about sex and you don't even realise it so you may tense up without knowing and you probably dread it going wrong before it even has, so try to chill out a bit and take it really slow.
If you are still having problems than i would suggest contacting a nurse and getting them to have a look at you.
2006-12-14 05:51:20 · answer #2 · answered by JD 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I remember my first time. I was 18 also and I ended uo married to him. You need to relax and use plenty of lubracation. Start off slow only going in a inch at a time and then withdraw . repeat this and go in further each time until you no longer feel any dicomfort. The key is slow and steady and lots of lubracation. Also even though you are in love you should always use a condom. They come lubricated as well. Your first time should be special if it continues to be uncomfortable chances are you are not ready for intercourse and that is ok. there is alot of other fun things you can do until you feel emotionally ready. Good luck.
2006-12-14 06:18:02 · answer #3 · answered by GI 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have you had sex before, because if you still a virgin it's going to hurt at first but then it smooth sailing, but if you have had sex before and it only hurt with your present partner well your partner might be a bit to big for you.
2006-12-14 08:58:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just want to make sure how old are you. You think you have a small vagina I don't think so.
2006-12-14 04:57:37 · answer #5 · answered by Komsat/sad 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you? I don't feel right answering unless I know your age.
2006-12-14 04:53:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
your vagina will stretch....just use lots of lubercant and go slow. u will get there.
2006-12-14 05:39:44 · answer #7 · answered by Mediwizard 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats good ur tight at least your not blown out
2006-12-14 06:02:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't sweat the small stuff
2006-12-14 04:55:59 · answer #9 · answered by Domino's Mom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you are ready to be having sex right now. how old are you btw?
2006-12-14 04:55:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋