A lot of divorces in the world ! what to put the blame on ?Choose,please!?

Question

1- People think that life is a romantic movie .
2- People don't know how to choose .
3- People don't know how to live togethr .

Answer 1

All the above and more. Basically, people know how to manage work better than they do their marriages. I bet most men put more effort in their jobs than they put into their relationships. I think there's really not just one thing to blame, rather it is the fact that people don't understand that marriages take work, effort, and communication and compromise.

Answer 2

I couldn't choose any of your choices because none of them are 100% valid. There is no one thing to put the blame on, but I feel the most common problem that leads to divorce is people not taking marriage seriously. I can't count the number of times I have heard "if this marriage doesn't work out..." which is the complete wrong attitude to have in a marriage. When you marry, it is "this marriage will work out, because my spouse and I have committed to each other to make it work out" People tend to bolt at the first sign of any type of problem, and I'm not talking about the major ones like abuse/neglect. They don't stand behind their spouse when the going gets tough. People no longer hear the part in the wedding vows that says "for better or WORSE" because at the first sign of anything "worse", people leave. So, yes, people do think life is a romantic movie, but at some point they need to wake up and realize what is reality and what is not. As far as choosing, no matter who a person chooses, there is no one in the world that is exactly like you so people must learn how to deal with differences no matter who they marry. As far as living together, people can live together very easily before marriage now, so that isn't even a point anymore. But across the board, taking marriage seriously is a big, big reason people divorce.

Answer 3

I believe it's all three. Alot of people get caught up in the Hollywood glamor of it all and can't see the garbage take out days, socks left on the floor and etc. Alot of people choose their mate because she/he is a good dresser or great dancer or brings in a large paycheck, these are all well and good, but not the whole picture. They need to sit down and really talk with that person and see if they have the same beliefs about home, family, church, and social life. See if they have any interests in common and discuss each others family members also, as this sometimes enters into the whole marriage situation at some time or another. As far as the third one, people can adjust their living habits some, but it needs to be gone over as you may have a very organized person with a slob. This can cause a rubble. There are many little things to discuss here and hash over to see you are compatible.

Answer 4

1. People think that life is a romantic movie. When the fun is over they divorce. No fault divorces make marriage a throw away life style. No body to blame, just move on to the next feature.

Answer 5

The choices you give aren't mutually exclusive. For example People may not know how to live together because they think life is a romantic movie. OR People don't know how to live together because they don't know how to choose who to live with.

By choosing #3 I pick all three.

FYI, you question doesn't shed any light on anything and simply tries to point the blame at something other than people involved. If people took sincere responsiblity for their actions there would be less divorces and over all the world would be a happier place. I don't know who started passing the buck, but everyone seriously needs to stop. If I burn myself with coffee its my own damn fault not McDonalds or the coffee maker or anyone else.

Answer 6

People get married to young with unrealistic thoughts on how difficult it can be to maintain a relationship between two people on their own. Financially, people who are too young that marry, don't realize how very hard it can be to budget a household. Especially, if there are children, or are going to be children involved. Alot of young people get together with very high aspects and the disappointment effects their communication and begins tearing that down. To wait untill you are older gives you time to experience life and find out how to walk in the world. Just like a baby needs to crawl first; so should a young person learn what it takes to be on their own before involving other people. You have to learn to support yourself, financially, and emotionally, before jumping into something as serious as marriage. I always say give it two years, if it works out, give it two more! And don't jump into intimacy right away. Be friends for a few months and really get to know the person. People have always jumped into a sexual relationship too fast (because its natural to do that), and don't give getting to really know eachother a chance. Its actually fun to wait. I learned the hard way. And most people do.

Answer 7

Number three, people have the hardest time cohabit ting, under marriage or just shacking up. It's all about compromise, a lot of people don;t know to give and take. I also thinks it depends on where you are in life. Did you just brake up with someone? Are you just tried of being alone and will settle for the thing that comes down the pipe? Or do you have low self-esteem from your last abusive relationship.
Coming out of a ten year abusive relationship, doesn't mean I want to jump back into something. I just want someone to spend a little time with me. I'm not rushing into anything now!!

Answer 8

1- People think that life is a romantic movie .....

Well...they know how to live that's why they have invented so much of things .......they know how to live as they pretend what and how to apply the invented things..........

People think that life is a romantic movie......As they do not understand the sorrows of a heartfelt feelings....

They undersand life in their way.They understand to choose theri things in earning and livings but they lack the understanding between feelings.They only see they romantic part of their life and they are so busy to invent theri life styles and lack the thoughts within feelings Thus leds to the silly things like DIVORCES......

Answer 9

Not taking vows seriously and not working to make a marriage work. There are reasons for divorce, but not the petty things that you sometimes hear about...ie...she got fat or he's not romantic. Silly things...

Answer 10

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