What would you think about this, and what would do. Me and my ex broke up about 2 1/2 months ago?

Question

It was not a bitter brake up even, but there was some pain involved. He told me he would be moving out of the state this summer, and my take on that was I will brake it off now so I won't get hurt later. He went away for about 6 months (war) and I stuck by his side. Based on the letters we wrote and the things we shared I placed expectations that he was not able to meet about our relationship once he came home. I did have a "just cause" to place these expectations, trust me but he was not able to come through and that was another reason I broke it off. My gf said that he had just got back and that I did not give him a chance to regroup or maybe there was someone else the bottom line is he contacted me for the first time since then last night, and we talked for a little while, and he ended the conversation by asking me to be open, and I don't know what that means. I am still in love with him, but I don't like the way things went down. Why contact me now. I broke it off to not get hurt

but things could have changed for him. I don't know what to do or think. I have no idea why I was on is mind, and do you think he had to build up the nerve to contact me. Also would you send him an email.

Answer 1

Whichever method (verbal or written) you prefer, let him know where you're coming from and why. "Be open" thus be honest.
I'm inclined to believe he's matured considerably with his war experiences. Thus fully realizes the things in life that are truly important. Depending on where you stand at this point.....You have absolutely nothing to lose, and everything to gain. Put your heart out there. I would expect he will hold it very gently.

Answer 2

If you still love him and he contacted you, evidently you both still have feelings. Maybe with him being away, you got used to being on your own and doing your own thing and you didn't give it time. BUT if you had expectations that you found were not going to be met, is this something you can do without, or maybe he's changed his mind? Sounds like you just need to talk to him about it all if there are still feelings there, if nothing has changed move on, so you don't get hurt.

Answer 3

After reading this I would get a Restraining order too, Dude she Poped your Cherry, She didn't make you Rich, and also after reading this YOU ARE WHIPPED!! Let it go sounds to me the Only thing you two had was a sexual relationship, IF you really Love someone you Don't sit there in arguments and Call them Names, That's Childish BS.

Answer 4

Of course things have changed with him. He's been away in a war! My guess is he's gotten a real hard priority shift. When he's asking you to 'be open' I suspect he suspects you still love him and he wants you to say it first.

Tell him how you feel. There is no benefit in keeping these feelings to yourself. Life is too short not to take a chance on love.

Answer 5

he has contacted u because he loves u and wants to get back together. he wants u to break down the barrier and trust him again. maybe u didn't give it a chance because u were afraid of the hurt involved, but one will never know if they don't try it. he is wanting u to open up to him, and hear him out. sounds as if he really loves u alot.

Answer 6

You have the anser deep down inside and only you can answer this question.

Answer 7

move on.

any guy that comes back will have either killed someone, scene murder, have mental problems or have gotten Depleted Uranium on them and will have deformed babies and serious heath problems. just google Depleted Uranium and heath problems with soldiers.