2006-12-14 04:30:58 · 56 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
if you can support it, have the time for it and can care for it... sure why not.
2006-12-14 04:32:59 · answer #1 · answered by Caitlin 5 · 2⤊ 2⤋
No matter how old you are.. you should want to have a baby because you want to share something special with the man that you love. Share something you and no one else can.
I would suggest being married first.. but that would make me a hypocrit. I am 20 and have a nine month old daughter. I am engaged to be married with her daddy and we are getting married in July. BUT, I wish that we were married first, so does that count?
Only have a baby if you are emotionally and mentally ready. A baby really takes a lot out of you. You are up at all hours of the night. ( Even now, Ady is 9 months old and still wakes up 2-3 times a night for a half an hour or more) Life is not about you anymore, it is all about your child. You are responsible for nurturing another human being. At first all a baby does is poop, sleep, eat, poop, sleep, eat, poop, sleep, and eat. All day and night long... no matter how tired you are.
I am not telling you these things because I don't want you to have a baby. I am just giving you some realism to the fact. I love my daughter with everything that I am. I love her so much that I do all of the above for her. You need to do some real soul searching and make sure that you are indeed selfless enough to provide a stable environment for another, your defenseless baby. If you can answer yes to that... I would have a baby. Being a mother is the most wonderful thing that I have ever done. Every woman should experience it.
Happy Holidays
2006-12-16 19:03:40 · answer #2 · answered by Jeni W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having a baby cannot be a selfish desire for yourself. You need to make sure you have things in place that make that baby's life better and set it up for a good future. You can't predict what may happena nd what hardships you may face, so don't add any unecessary ones. Can you afford a baby? What about the other parent? Will there be one? Do you have a plan for child care? Are you doing this to fulfill some need of yours?
People think children will fill this void they have because they want someone to love them. But children are very selfish creatures (it's just natural) and while you know they love you, the relationship is obviously going to be very one sided for a long time. They take a lot.
2006-12-14 04:37:39 · answer #3 · answered by Farah G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am only 19 and have a 6 month old daughter and I wouldn't trade the feeling of being a mommy for anything! Nobody is ever ready no matter what the age, the financial situation, whether you have everything or not...It doesn't matter. Some people suffer emotionally after having a baby and nothing can prepare you for those feelings. If you think you can do it and you want someone else to share your love with then "yes" go for it...
2006-12-14 07:21:56 · answer #4 · answered by rkonkin226 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only you can determine if this is right for you.
Do you have a partner (or a husband, this would probably be best) that wants to have children with you and is good with children? Do you think that he will help out if you have children and do you have similar parenting views? Discipline views, etc.?
I am 23 and I have two children but my husband is in his late 20's so he was ready to have a family. He helps out a lot! It takes two to parent unless you are superman or superwoman.
If you become a parent than you will need to be completely selfless and focus on your child before yourself. I'm not saying that you are selfish. Just trying to show you want parenting entails.
It is hard to know what parenting is like until you have a child of your own. Watching a child that is not yours or babysitting is a lot easier than parenting.
Are you ready to give up a party life or singles life that you might or might not have right now? You'll need to be with your child when you are not working or are not at a medical appointment for yourself. You can still go out once in a while but will be much different as your child comes first.
Newborns are demanding or take a lot out of you for care but toddlers are demanding in a different way. Just like teenagers are demanding in even a different way.
Good luck!
2006-12-14 04:46:43 · answer #5 · answered by Justme 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No I dont think it is a good idea at your age dont you think you should decide what you want to do and study it or if you are keep on studing travel the world and have some experiances then find a guy that you fall in love with and talk about having a child maby when you are older then 28 but I guess it is your life but I think that it is a good idea to waite hope you do the right thing...and remember that you have to be finacial good as well babies are a lot of hard work and they are not cheap
2006-12-14 04:36:01 · answer #6 · answered by Dreamy Girl 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
only you can make that decision. if you feel that you have everything to offer the child like stability etc, go for it. when you want something bad enough you find ways to make everything work. i know i did. and i've never been happier.
i had a suprise pregnancy when i was 22. im now 23 and the proud mom of a 5 mo old son. i wouldn't say we are financially stable, but i can tell you my son has everything he needs and then some. he is also perfectly healthy and seems to be very happy.
2006-12-14 06:26:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm 22 also. i just had my baby 3 months ago. i love my son with all my heart, and don't regret much. i do wish we would've been more financially stable, i wouldve been done with college, and that my fiance and i wouldve been married. me and my fiance have been together for 5 years. i also love him VERY much. but things just happened to work out for us a certain way and thats ok. don't rush into anything. the pregnancy alone was VERY stressful. and in my line of work, i had to stop working. now i'm a stay at home mom, and i'm about to start ONLINE college classes in the spring. its going to be HARD. and even harder when i'll HAVE to go to school. if you have a loving spouse, and have the funds, well, thats your choice. but having a baby is very expensive, everything from pregnancy, to delivery, to the baby himself. i have insurance, and i have over $600 in hospital bills! not to mention the other costs of HIS doctors, diapers, formula, clothing, toys. i'm not telling you this to discourage you, but to prepare you. ALSO, if you need childcare, in the case you HAVE to work, thats a BIG bill right there. childcare is VERY expensive, which is one of the reasons i am staying home, we just can not afford it. it doesn't feel good when you see something you would LOVE to get your child, and you just can't! it feels awful. having a child is a very long journey and SUCH an experiance. but you have to grow up pretty quick. your child depends on you for everything. do alittle research about what it costs to have a baby. i KNEW in my mind all the things i would have to do to be a good mother, but NOTHING became CLEAR to me until i had him. make an informed descision. nobody knows your life, your situation, more than you do. are you REALLY ready? i could probably go on and on for another hour....its your choice, i just hope i said something to help you make a good descision.
2006-12-14 04:45:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it really depends on how you feel because I'm 22 and 2 years ago I thought I was prego.. and it scared the heck out of me.. I wanted a baby so bad.. at that moment I realized that I wasn't ready, and now it was too late I was thinking all the ways to not have this baby it drove me insane I was upset and crying all the time unsure of what to do.. when I found out I wasn't I sat on my bed just crying for hours.. hating myself for thinking like that.. I never want to go through that again.. when I'm ready I will def. be sure about it.. because I just thought I've got college and work I still want to travel with friends.. and just experinces things before I'm ready to get comfortable...
Once you decided to have a baby you have a whole know set of things to do.. and you have to be prepared because your kid is your life.. your still young.. but you know what you want.. so best of luck girl
2006-12-14 04:55:06 · answer #9 · answered by ♥ Miss Mimzy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only you can decid eif your ready for a baby or not. If you think you can take care of it and raise it properly, then go for it. This is all up to you, no-one else. I really hope that you are married or are at least getting married before you decide to have a child though because i know how hard it is growing up without a father.
2006-12-14 04:38:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
as long as you're mentally and financially able to care for a child and it's what you really want go for it. But pls just think it through for the sake of the child. And make sure you are at a point in your life that you're able to be a responsible parent and be there 24/7 for that child.
2006-12-14 04:34:53 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋