Mother of 2 and they are driving me crazy what should i do?

Question

I have a 2 year boy and a 14 month old daughter i love my kids but it ain't easy with the both of them it already hard becuase i was married for 3 years with my children father and he wasn't no support from the start i did everything as far as taking care of kids because to liked to hang the streets play his game all the time and also do more for his mother and brother and sister's then he did for me and the kids he left me and i taking care of my kids it not easy because my son he is bad as hell he don't like to listen he get's about 20 spanking a day from being hardheaded and he talk's back and always into stuff and my daughter she always having fitt's and this is not just a crying baby she screams and be yelling and tell me to stop or sit down and no i'm not saying that i am letting my kids run over me but i don't want to beat them but i want them to understand and listern i tryed time-out and taking there toys away and also ingoring them but that don't work what she i do for them

Answer 1

I totally understand. My kids are 8, 2, and 5 months. wow!! what a hard job it is to raise them alone! But you know what? he calmer you are, the easier it will be. And please don't call them 'his kids', because they are yours too, more yours in fact, if you are raising them. Forget about the ex and focus on the babies. Learn to relax and laugh at them. Pretty soon you'll be wishing they were this small again. This is a crucial time for their development, so find fun things to do with them. I like to read with the kids, or find a fun craft to do. Simple things, like a package of jello powder, a little bit of water, and some papers to paint on make for a fun (easy to clean up), and non-toxic craft. Even pudding works, a little more messy, but lots of fun! Lots an lots of simple things keep them entertained and out of trouble. The more you get mad at them, the more hostility you will get back from them. Stimulation is key--KEEP THEM BUSY!! :)

Answer 2

You need to learn some patience! 2 year olds are exploring and learning their boundaries, and the 14 month old is trying to learn about things,too. They are both at the age where they want to see how much they can get into. Yes it can be a trying time, but as a mother it is your job to teach them. Spend more time reading to them or doing fun activites to keep them occupied...then they won't be into other things. Many women raise children alone. My Mom had 3 young children alone while my Dad was oversea in the military for 2 years. Try to enjoy this time in their lives, because they grow up so fast. Instead of being frustrated all the time, enjoy watching and listening to them and have fun with them while they are little. One day you will wish they were young again.