My girlfriend had a couple of abnormal paps, so they had her go for a colposcopy. The results that came back never really told us anything...said they found some "reflective" cells and that was it said get another pap in 6 months so we are going to go to another doctor to get a second opinion. Her health means everything to me.
My question is, since all of this has come up our sex life has kind of died. She usually feels really uncomfortable and self-conscious about everything now thinking that I will or do look at her different or think she is "nasty" since she's had this problem. I keep telling her that I'll never look at her differently and she means everything to me. Have any of you other women felt this way and what more can I do to help reassure her then what I am doing everyday?
Thanks
2006-12-14 03:58:20 · 5 answers · asked by wizsap 2 in Health ➔ Women's Health
Never said she had an STD or thought she did ...we are very informed on what is going on. Just wondering if any other women have felt self-conscious after having these kinds of invasive things done.
2006-12-14 04:25:47 · update #1
I had 2 colposcopies and I found out I have precancerous cells. I'm going to get them surgically removed by doing what's called a LEEP procedure. I'm terrified of the surgery and the results. I hope it will go well and they will get rid of the bad cells.
Anyways, this is all that's on my mind right now. All I could think about is that I have this problem. Sex is the last thing on my mind right not. I just want to be healthy. So I can understand your girlfriend completely. She's worried, although she has no reason to be. Abnormal pap doesn't mean anything yet.
I really admire and respect that you're there for her and how she means a lot to you, instead of leaving her b/c of this. I have a wonderfull husband who's very supportive of me and this means the world to me as well.
Just keep telling her you love her and be ther for her. That's all you can do. Good luck!
2006-12-14 05:16:58 · answer #1 · answered by kisses 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If they found abnormal cells and had to do a colposcopy, the reason is that she has pre-cancerous cells...not an STD or anything, so she needs to chill out! I have had to of those done...they both came back negative and my dr just had me get repeat paps every 3 months to make sure everything was ok...I did that for a while, then they changed it to every 6 months and now I am back to once a year. There is nothing nasty about this! maybe you guys need to do a little bit of research so she can be fully informed on exactly what is going on. Or call the dr. If you go to another dr to get a 2nd opinion, make sure you ask them every question you can think of!!!
2006-12-14 04:20:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've had similar problems. Since I had my son every pap test I have comes back abnormal. They have done one colposcopy so far and the results for that came back and they said I didn't have cervical cancer. I've had 2 surgeries so far to remove "groups of cells" that have grown in my cervix. I know that I worry about having cancer all the time, and I worry that if I can't have more kids maybe my husband will leave me. Maybe some of those things are running through her head.
My husband is the same way you are, he tells me he loves me and I mean everything to him. Sometimes I just don't feel that way. Just keep doing what you're doing, tell her how much she means to you and how much you love her. Hope this helps.
2006-12-14 04:25:19 · answer #3 · answered by elmo3938 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I had my colposcopy (2 of them) the doctor said I couldn't have sex for a month so my cervix could heal. After going a month without it, I got used to not beinbg sexual and it ended up ruining a relationship I was in. It does make a woman feel self conscious, so it could cause her sex drive to go down. It's also scary because if it's cancer they would have to remove it and most likely she wouldn't be able to have children. Just keep reassuring her and being there for her, she will come around.
2006-12-14 04:57:12 · answer #4 · answered by xquis81 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Lol, that's all thoroughly standard. The fluttery feeling is the toddler feeling around with its hands and the soreness is it kicking out right into a nerve. Goodluck with the drawing close of your being pregnant. stable success with the delivery.
2016-10-14 22:40:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋