My husband has one set for himself and another set that he thinks I should follow.
2006-12-14 03:43:39 · 18 answers · asked by bluemoon 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He's the only one allowed to voice an opinion or make decisions
2006-12-14 03:52:37 · update #1
In a marriage everything should be equal. Both of you should have an equal say in every matter of your life. Everything should be a 50-50 thing here.
Both of you should talk to each other and sort this one out. Let him know that you cannot take it anymore and would want to be treated like a WIFE not a slave.
Be very assertive and strong. He should realise that you are extremely angered by this double standard thing and WILL not take it anymore. You should make him realise this
2006-12-14 11:52:41 · answer #1 · answered by Someday 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't Walk in front of me ---I might not follow
Don't walk behind me--I might forget you are there
But Please walk beside me --and always be my true love
This is not the dark ages --we are to respect others to gain respect--he is loosing yours and he will pay for that in the end--you are not a doormat --you are not a child--you are an adult that knows right from wrong and you have the right to voice your opinion
Whats good for the goose is always good for the gander--so if he wants to hang with his friends and doesn't like it when you want to do the same TELL HIM--No you cant go --if I am expected to stay at home where you know what I am doing then you do the same--Or if he likes to buy man toys and doesn't allow you the right for a new outfit every now and again--Tell him No new toys are out of the question --fair is fair--
2006-12-14 11:57:10 · answer #2 · answered by skizzle-d-wizzle 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Most people will probably say "you have to sit down and talk to him"; if you haven't done so - if you haven't voiced your concerns to him yet - then yes, do it promptly; he may simply not be sensitive to your needs. But I trust that the issue lies in the fact that you HAVE talked to him about it, but he's not willing to listen, or take your words into account. The way to deal with this is to choose a spouse whos values and ways of dealing with issues are compatible with your own. You can't expect to marry a person who feels he's the only one entitled to making the rules, and then complain about it. By marrying him, you are in essence saying "I accept you and your ways". If him being himself is unacceptable to you - you DON'T have to marry him, or stay married to him. Not all things can be "worked out"; some either have to be accepted, or avoided.
2006-12-14 12:06:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't let it matter to you. Behave as you wish to behave, within the parameters of what you think is right. If he thinks you are overstepping proper boundaries, that's his problem. When he brings it up, just calmly reply, "Well, I have thought about what you want me to do, but I have decided that I will continue to do what I am doing. I am sorry for you that you dislike it, but that's the way it is." And then walk away, or change the subject. No matter how many times he brings it up, just keep repeating, using different words, "This is how it is. I am not going to change it."
2006-12-14 11:49:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't. She has to!
Sorry just trying to be funny.
Everyone is like that a little bit. Some things are based around practicality (i.e. no my wife doesn't have to haul 60 lb bags of concrete and I do, no I don't have to worry about walking alone at night and she does, etc) but generally speaking people should be fair. If he thinks he should be able to spend freely and you can't - no good.
Confront him on this and grow a spine. You can't be controlled forever.
2006-12-14 11:45:41 · answer #5 · answered by fucose_man 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him. Why is he making all the rules? You have a say in every aspect of your marriage and it's not up to him to dictate your behavior. You will need to learn to communicate if you want the marriage to work, so this is a good place to start.
2006-12-14 11:46:18 · answer #6 · answered by leaptad 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is only one difference between marriage and war because in a marriage you can sleep with the enemy. Why dont u shoot the same demands on him so he knows how u feel
2006-12-14 11:49:44 · answer #7 · answered by Sam 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LOL
You should have both resolved that problem long before you ever agreed to marry each other. Marriage is not a dictatorship. Hubby doesn't get to set the rules. You need to work them out together.
2006-12-14 11:45:40 · answer #8 · answered by kja63 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Ahhh...the old "Master and Slave" relationship. Is it fun? Do you benfit from it. I'll bet not. But that's sure what it sounds like to me.
Let me wager here...you cook, clean, take care of kids, drive 'em everywhere, grocery shop and the list goes on.
Anything involving relaxation and entertainment is the protion of the relationship that is his responsibility. Am I very far off the mark here?
2006-12-14 11:47:31 · answer #9 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋