How can i get my wife to go down on me when she says she is not into it?

Answer 1

It's her choice. If she's not interested, she's not interested. Talk to her about why she doesn't want to. But other than that, there's nothing you can do to make her!

Answer 2

My first question to you would be did she do it before you got married? If this is something that has just recently come up, then you should try to get her to open up to you about it. Find out what has changed, why she doesn't feel the same way. She may be going through something that not even she understands or can explain. She may need to seek professional counseling as well. If on the other hand, she has never cared for it, then you knew that before you married her and don't expect her to change. Communication is the key right now. Any relationship that is going to last has to have total communication.

Answer 3

The reason she won't is probably because most women were raaised to think it is nasty or she will be seen differently. Let her Start off Slow, kissing the inner thigh, just brushing the tip with her check. She can then give it a few soft kisses until she can get it in the mouth. Don't expect her to get all the way there the first few times. She will you must be Patient and she should be a little tipszy. And don't push her head down. It might help you but it will make her feel pressured.

Answer 4

First, don't try and force her into doing anything she doesn't want to do. If you keep nagging at her about it, she's going to get defensive and it'll cause even more problems.

Secondly, you need to figure out why she doesn't like doing it. Is it the taste? The smell? Does she feel like she's choking? Does she get bored while she's down there because you take too long to come? Does it do nothing for her since she's not being pleased while she's down there? Do you move your hips too much? Did she have an ex who just demanded them and gave nothing in return? Does she feel like she's not getting anything in return? Does she feel like it's something "nice" women don't do, and that it cheapens her?

I think you need to talk to her and find out WHY. Because once you know why, you can take steps to overcome these problems. You need to reassure her and find a compromise.

Good luck!

Answer 5

Ladies just don't get this one. I will assume for a moment that you are willing to do this for her. She simply is not into it. I am sure she is not into getting gas for her car or using the bathroom but somehow she manages to so these things. If you do not already have children do not start a family until this is resolved, and yes ladies this can in fact be a deal killer. Why would a man or women not wish to give their spouse whatever pleasure they desire (within reason). Yes this is within reason. This is why many men see hookers, cheat or just leave.

Why wives do not understand this is beyond me.

If you do any of the three things above, she (like most wives) would be shocked and appalled. Men and women are not the same. Ladies deny your husbands normal sexual desires and risk your marriage. This is just the way it is like it or not.

Answer 6

Find out why she isn't into it. Is it a hygienic thing? (suggest showers first) Is it that she doesn't want to risk you coming in her mouth? (use condoms- there's even flavoured ones out there) Is it that she's been brought up a "nice girl" and "nice girls" don't do that? (get her into counselling so she can be told by a professional that anything a husband and wife do together in the bedroom is perfectly natural and wonderful) Is it that she doesn't like particular movements while she's doing it? (lots of women don't like the feeling of men grinding in their mouth) There's so many reasons that she may not be into it, and in my opinion they are all fixable. Be patient & understanding and supportive and I'm sure with the two of you working together, it can be resolved.

Answer 7

Are you reciprocating? Are you maintaining good hygiene? Have you tried techniques like drizzling chocolate or spraying whipped cream on each others' body parts?

Talk it through with her or share an instructional video with her. The Better Sex video series can be helpful in your situation. It is not pornography. You can watch it together and learn how to approach the subject from her perspective. By forcing her to do something that she's not comfortable doing will just cause resentment and anger.

You need to cite specifics regarding her reluctance so that they can be addressed by our answers.

I apologize, but I just can't resist saying, "it sucks to be you".

Answer 8

First of all you call your self a man you would not try to force your wife to go down on you. There could be a reason more than what she says she dose not want to. So please be considerate and wait or stop.

Answer 9

don't force her or give her a guilt about it trip because then she will absolutely HATE to do it. Instead try doing it to her more, and if she still isn't inspired to return the favor, then you should have a talk about agreeing that when you two are getting intimate your focus should be pleasing eachother- and make a promise that you both will have eachothers feelings in minds and not be selfish about it.

Answer 10

You can't so get used to it. If your wife satisfies you in every other way then why ruin your relationship with your need to receive oral sex. I would ask my wife why she's not into it and except her explanation.

Answer 11

Do her first