Well some of you know that my daughter has been having sex since she was 12 years old now almost 14(2 weeks)....
Well i had a long talk with her about this,because this is not appropritte behaviour i told her if she ever has sex before she is 25 again i will get her tubes tied and she will be in so much trouble. well she just informed me she might be pregnant she took a pregnancy test and it came up positive.im flipping out now. She is still a child herself how could she support a child and the boy she had sex with was only 2-3 years older then her and i didnt know she was having sex!
What could i possibly do!!???
Any advice or ideas???
2006-12-14 03:35:20 · 13 answers · asked by That girl 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
Well she took 3 pregnancy test and they all came up positive.so i'm extremely upset that my little girl is having a baby. my son that is 23 years of age had a son that is 8 months old.
How do i go about telling her father/brother/grandmother etc...??
2006-12-14 03:45:35 · update #1
Take your daughter to the doctor. He/she is going to help you out with the decisions you need to make. Your daughter is having sex for attention and it's turned out in a negative way. Couseling is needed for her and you. You will be a grandmother now, but DO NOT let her put the burden of raising this baby on you, she made her bed, make her lie in it. Help her yes, so she can continue with her education but she made an adult decision, so now she is going to have to grow up to raise this child. Or, adoption is also an option. The thought of giving up your flesh and blood isn't easy but you have to think of your child and the baby she is carrying. Good luck. Hugs to you.
2006-12-14 03:40:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
First off not to tell you how to raise your daughter but instead of telling her not to have sex before 25 or you will have her tubes tied was a bad move, you should have taken her to a local clinic or health department and got her on some type of birth control. The scary truth is that kids these days are going to have sex and especially if you demand that they don't. I think you need to now take her to a doctor/clinic get a pregnancy test done and then if it is positive, she needs to tell the father and they need to talk to his parents then I believe that you all need to get together and decide the best choice whether it be to keep the baby, put it up for adoption, or (something I would never do) have an abortion. Good Luck!
2006-12-14 03:42:17 · answer #2 · answered by mdoud01 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a really hard situation to be in im sorry to hear about that. Im 19 and married no kids yet. But when i was 15 i was having sex with my now to be husband my mother found out and cried for a few days she quickly got my on birthcontrol and then she felt better about it. She still didnt like the idea but she realised it was my body and im old enough to handle it. in your case your daughter is young. if i were you i would take her to your ob get a blood test done to see if she is pregnant that would be the best way to find out. the blood test are a lot more accurate then the home test. I dont think that you should get her tubes tied becuase it is her body and you really dont have a right to do that to her for her own future. if she is pregnant be a suportive mother about it. it might take some time but you have realise that once that baby is here if she is pregnant she will know how hard it is and maybe even give it up for adoption you never know. just be a good mom about it talk to her and let her know you care it might be hard at frist but you have to realise shes not alone. and if she isnt pregnant get the girl on some birthcontrol!!!!!
2006-12-14 03:43:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My sister had her first child at 13. My mom could not stop her. My mom ended up supporting her and the baby. The guy was 15 when she had the baby. They struggled for the longest time. It will be hard. If you or her can not keep it there are other options. I recommend Adoption. There are plenty of deserving people out there that can not have kids. If it is a false alarm take her to the OBGYN and depo shot her. I was on the depo shot for a year and my husband and I decided to have a baby. It took me a year to get pregnant after I stopped. However no birthcontrol is 100% affective. Good Luck
2006-12-14 03:42:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could support her, help her through this time. This is not an easy time for her. Yes, she made a huge mistake but thats just it, its already been done. The baby (maybe) is already forming and it deserves to be loved. Your daughter is probably feeling lost and lonely and just really young right now. She knows that she messed up big time. Find out how she plans to support the baby. Find out what role the father plans to have. Be happy that she told you and didnt hide the pregnancy or try to go and do something worse. If raising a baby isnt in you or your daughters plans, considering adopting the baby out. There are millions, yes millions, of women who would love to have babies in America, but they can't. There are tons of families out there looking to adopt, if you don't believe me, check out some TTC (trying to conceive) boards or adoption boards. Read their stories. Mostly, remember that your daughter is 14, and she needs you right now. Maybe you should consider moving to a different neighborhood? It might not have anything to do with you why she's having sex at a young age but rather the environment that she lives in. I am truly sorry that you have to go through this. I wish you the best in your situation and will pray for you....
2006-12-14 03:46:58 · answer #5 · answered by trksh22 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit back..relax..and take a deep breath! I know it's not the best thing in the world but it's better then her wanting an abortion..try talking to her about adoption if that is something that would be good for all of you! it is hard to raise a child when you are a grown adult and married (as you know) but maybe she doesn't think about that point of view!! Just have a long talk with her and see where things will go!! GOOD LUCK
2006-12-14 03:41:02 · answer #6 · answered by mommyof372802 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Holy cow, why is she still allowed to be with boys, and why is she still unsupervised for even 5 minutes at a time? And if you knew she was having sex WHY didnt you get her on some form of birth control since you obviously cant control her and keep her supervised?
You dont have to keep the baby, and neither does she, it can be put up for adoption.
Getting her an abortion only screws with her head, and proves to her that her actions can easily be reversed and have no weight on her life or choices.
2006-12-14 03:41:59 · answer #7 · answered by amosunknown 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i got preg. when i was 16 and i was so scared to tell my mom cause i thought she was going to be very angry, but she was very calm with it and just asked me and my now husband if we were happy to have a baby and we said ya but it felt really good to have her care b/c i knew she would help me out when i needed her. So that's what i think you should do is ask her questions and talk to her like an adult instead of fighting b/c then she may just choose to have the baby to make you angry.
2006-12-14 05:11:50 · answer #8 · answered by smooth65202 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
couseling- both of you- now- go make the call, i'll wait...... ok now sit her down and tell her there is nothing that either of you can do about the past, prepare her for the changes her body is going to go through and tell her that now she has to be a grown up. if her sexual behavior continues you will take custody of the baby and put her on lock down.
2006-12-14 03:40:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can possible help raise the chold. and or when she has the baby you can put the baby up for adoption. take her to see a counselor thats what you need to do.
2006-12-14 03:44:25 · answer #10 · answered by Amy B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋