my girlfriend, just lost our child, miscarriage, after 2 months. The thing is as much as he/she would be a problem to take care of, therefore i wasnt ready for it now... i still feel sad and guilty. why do i feel this way when its for the better...?
2006-12-14 03:34:55 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
The reason you feel this way is probably because deep down inside it has you realizing that a baby you created, a small piece of you will not have a chance to live. You may not have consciously accepted it yet but it the baby had survived longer you would have grown attached, you may not see that right now. You are also feeling remorse for your girlfriend , no one is really ready for a baby, and it may not have been for the better. Maybe that's your problem you really did want the baby you're just too afraid to admit it to yourself. Sorry for your loss! I can only imagine what you 2 are going through.
2006-12-14 03:43:59 · answer #1 · answered by missjewl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry for your loss. I know it is hard to go through even though at the time you think your not ready. even if you had fears of becoming a parent you also had an anticipation of being a parent. this may be something you have feelings about for a long time. I lost my first child about 12 years ago I know have two children. It still doesn't take the pain away of losing a child even an unborn one. you will look at children around the age your baby would be and feel a sadness wondering what they would be doing or what they would look like. It will lessen but may never go away.
2006-12-14 04:01:01 · answer #2 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most people aren't ready for a child when it comes. (Even when they think that they are). Reason tells you that this was for the best, but you are still suffering a loss. Grieve it then make sure you and your girlfriend are using better protection so that you can wait until you are ready. I am sorry for your loss.
2006-12-14 03:55:06 · answer #3 · answered by SexxyPrincess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you're human and that was your child!! It's ok to feel that way! Sorry for your loss! I too have suffered a miscarriage in the past..and it isn't easy at all!
2006-12-14 03:45:57 · answer #4 · answered by mommyof372802 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You were getting used to the idea of having a child...very few people are ever prepared to have a child. Maybe its time for you guys.
2006-12-14 03:39:53 · answer #5 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just cause you weren't ready for it doesn't make it any different. That was your child and you would of loved it regradless. not everyone is ready, but they make it through i t. Theres really nothing you should be confused about. Sorry for your loss.
2006-12-14 03:39:20 · answer #6 · answered by Bens Mommy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
probally because deep down you knew this was your flesh and blood and love dosent stop because your not ready for it
2006-12-14 03:39:19 · answer #7 · answered by katiesducky 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋