does this mean i'm fat?

Question

Ok so i am a dancer and have been doing it for 10 years, you get the picture. Now there is this "new girl" in our dance class who isn't all that great but she comments about my dancing all the time saying stuff like oh you are really good! So one time we were talking about the stage we were going to be dancing on and i said that it sucked. Just then she says "Well some of us are too big to get one stage." My dance teacher didn't think anything of it she just thought she ment "Too Big" as in i dance big on stage cause everyone who knows me as a dancer will say yes i dance "BIG" and i do! So now i'm thinking what did she mean? Am i fat? I dance five days a week i'm in front of a mirror almost all the time i think i would know if i'm fat but i'm second guessing this. I haven't eatin since she said that to me.I feel hurt! Anyone know what she ment or what i should say to her? I'm thinking that she is jelous. Tell me what you have to say!! Please! Thanks, *Dancer*

Answer 1

Dear dancer -
As a dance teacher myself, I must first give you the warning: don't not eat. As a growing young woman, and as an athletic dancer especially, you have to have sufficient food intake to compete with the metabolic rate of calorie burning or you will seriouisly hurt yourself.
If you research professional dance companys, you will learn not all prioncipal ballerinas are stick figures. I danced with a girl in college who weighed 160lbs. And contrary to the director of the program telling her to give it up, she was one of the most graceful dancers I have ever seen. She went on to dance with Joffery Ballet for awhile.
But if you really are concerned with the comment your fellow student made, I would recommend simply confronting her about it. Be polite and nice as always, but simply ask, 'Suzie, you remember the other day when we talking about stages? Well, this might sound funny, but it's really been bugging me... what exactly did you mean by the comment you made... yada yada yada.' You may be surprised.. she may have been referring to something totally different. If you really have concern on if you are gaining unhealthy weight, speak to a teacher at your studio. Keep in mind there are certain studios that starve their dancers to an unhealthy point, so if you attend one of those, it may be better to visit a neighboring dance studio and speak with an instructor there. THey will understand and be more willing to talk than you may think. :) Good luck and remember the advice: Never starve yourself or binge and purge. It's unsightly an d dangerous to your body. The size of your body means nothing, just the grace and poise you carry yourself with.

Answer 2

Dear Dancer, some people really manage to hurt our feelings, this is just how it is. I really don't undertand how it happens, like you said, she isn't that great of a dancer. So by all logic, what she says shouldn't matter. But I know that somehow it still happens that ordinary people hurt us like that. I suggest you turn to yourself for the answers. Take a good look at yourself. You are the same good dancer as before this girl ever showed up. You are the same good dancer no matter who else shows up. You will have a dancing career ahead of you. It might happen that someone says something unthoughful along the way. Nevertheless, it doesn't change what you are and who you are.

You really shouldn't be messing up your diet. You need good nutrition to be able to dance. Poor nutrition is bad for all your muscles, including your heart muscle. OK? You should eat.

Answer 3

Well dancer, from what I know about women, they are very competative. Especially dancers and models. It sounds to me she sees you as a threat, and is trying to "derail" your self confidence anyway she can. once your self confidence is shattered you cannot get up on stage or get in front of a camera without doubting yourself, and once you start doubting yourself you will hesetate a moment too long, and this WILL make an impact on your performance (usually not a good impact either).
The best thing you can do is take her back handed expressions as a compliment. you know you are a good dancer, and deep down she knows it too. She knows it well enough to try to sabotage you, and that must mean she thinks you are one HELL of a dancer. So, in answer to your question, I would say no, you are NOT fat.

Answer 4

I hate to say it but some dancers are just mean, she could've been saying it out of spite because she knows that you're better than she is. She also may have been referring to your state of mind instead of your body... you've heard the term big headed right? I'm not saying that you are but that is how she could have meant it. I wouldn't worry about it, go get something to eat and forget about it. She's probably an insecure b*tch who was just trying to shake you a little bit in hopes that you would mess up and then she might be able to shine.

Answer 5

Why does ANYBODY consider curvy approach fats? Curvy approach you will have hips and boobs with a small waist. Or a first-rate form. It doesn't suggest fats in any respect due to the fact that thin humans may also be curvy too.

Answer 6

Um... be the dancer you want to be, dance big, and forget about her. Where did she come from anyway?! Have some yogurt, nuts, eggs, and veggies. You'll have a healthy body. Don't let her control how you feel and act. Really.

Answer 7

yes she is just jelous ...the meaning u dance big means thet u put fun,attiude, and ect. it to ur dance ... if u dance 5 days a week ur really not fat u most be really beuatiful and nice but not fat..

well goodluck

nelly

Answer 8

well obviously you're not all too fat so you won't fit on the stage, since stages are really big, and it's not like you guys are packed on there like sardines. So maybe she is talking about having a big dancing style, or maybe being too famous (like "oh she's big time!")

I dunno. Dancers are kinda competitive and snotty sometimes. And they all think they have to be stick thin. I dunno why.

Answer 9

you are looking too much into this, who cares what some dancer come lately thinks! you are not fat and i would just be nice to her because more than likely she feels inferior to you

Answer 10

oh no!! you not fat... it's doesn't matter what you look.. only matter is WHO are you.. that is matter.. and you probably love to dance.. it's good for your body. have fun.. and please stop thinking about your fat! i always think i'm fat. and my boyfriend gets mad at me if i keeps saying "i'm fat" so please stop worrying.