Well where can I start I was with my ex boyfriend for almost two years. We broke up and he went overseas due him being in the military and I live here in the states. We have remained friends best friends since our break up witch was over a year ago. But thru out that year of us talking..We have still been sexual with each other..tell each other we love one another talked about our future togehter our kids..he supports me with everything that I do.we talk on the phone every single day... only thing is I asked him if we were getting back together he says he dont wanna talk about it until he see's me face to face..then the other day we were on the phone he thought i had fallen asleep on him, and he said to me baby i love you so much im going to marry you I promise. but im still confused because we are not offically boyfriend and girlfriend right now and he said he does not want to talk about it right now..can any one help me do you think he is playing games with me?
2006-12-14 03:24:14 · 17 answers · asked by Life It Is What It Is 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
when you are away from loved ones and in possible danger you really can't hold onto home. you have to live where you are to survive. i think he really does love you but for his own safety and sanity he is waiting to come home to move forward with his plans for a life together with you.
2006-12-14 03:29:30 · answer #1 · answered by BuddhaDaddy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that right now he is under alot of stress...he is in the military and overseas, it's the holidays and he has alot going on. Just be patient with him. It sounds like things are going great between you right now, so why rock the boat? I think he is smart to say he needs to see you face to face to talk about deeper things. He needs to get through his tour of duty, get back home and get settled in to his "new life". To make a big decision about your future while he is away from all of his loved ones and feeling very lonely wouldn't be a good idea. He sounds like a smart, honest good guy who is trying to do the right thing and not jump to any decisions. When he gets back, be there for him, be supportive and most of all patient. I wish you both the best of luck and I'm sure things will work out for you both....just give it time. I was in the Air Force and also spent time in Korea, Iraq and Germany. It takes time to make the transition when you come back home....there are so many emotions you go through....that's why I keep talking about being patient with him. All the best.
2006-12-14 11:37:54 · answer #2 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being in hostile situations like he is in right now can have it's effect on one's emotional and psychological balance. I'm not saying he's crazy. More than the average civilian, the emotional ups and downs are far greater for those in the military, especially serving in a war-zone.
Any decisions and/or conversations have to be taken into context. You don't have to distrust him for what he says or believes. Just be patient if you can.
His telling you how much he loves you and wants to marry you can be an honest realization or could be an emotional response to a strong momentary urge.
You don't want to get into arguments and questioning right now. Hope and pray he returns safely. And you guys can have an open heart-to-heart conversation when he comes back. That's probably my best advice.
2006-12-14 11:31:06 · answer #3 · answered by houstonian352000 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Lady I come from the Military. I am a Navy brat turned Marine. When you are in country like he is right now, you start to realize certain things in your life that you want. Yall's have been close to each other for a while now and I think he is starting to understand that. If he says that he loves you and wants to marry you, then you should start thinking about whether or not you feel the same towards him. If you do then I suggest that you talk to him to find out if that is actually what he is wanting to do. To me it sounds like WEDDING BELLS in yall's future. War puts things into perspective for humans. He probably wants to come home, get with his girl (YOU), settle down and get married, have kids, work a full time job, retire, and die of old age with his soulmate. I know because I did the same thing in 2004. I now am happily married, have a good job, have 4 beautiful children, my own house, and the ability to die of old age with my highschool sweetheart. I was in your man's shoes a couple of years ago, and am talking from experience. Do what I told my wife. Trust your HEART and you can't go wrong. If you are still uncertain, my advice to you is for you to have a serious heart to heart with him. One way or the other you are going to have to cross that bridge with him one day. Good Luck and I hope that you find eternal well being.
SEMPER FI -YANG420
2006-12-14 11:47:52 · answer #4 · answered by Yang420 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first thing is to look at your situation. You are apart. Then you are only seperated by distance not love. It is hard to thnik about marrage with 3000 miles or more between you. That is the reason for the face to face statement. The first thing is to turn off the sex and build the relationship first. You can enjoy the sex more once the love settles in.
2006-12-14 11:29:59 · answer #5 · answered by rustyfan022000 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont think he's playing games but the fact is ure still in a relationship its only obvious. maybe since he's far away he's scared to actually accept it. if he would just use u for sex and nothing else then he would be a dog playing games cuz guys that don't take u seriously dont really talk to u for hours and tell u they love u just like that. most guys that just want sex are allergic to the word "love" or "commitment" or "marriage" sounds like he's a perfectly healthy man in love =)
2006-12-14 11:35:18 · answer #6 · answered by ALEXA 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nobody wants to propose over the phone, so perhaps you best be patient and not over analyze thing.
Wait for the moment and see what he has to say if it is I love you and want to marry you well heck you should be happy.
If it is lets go out for a pizza, dump him on the spot and order some pizza instead.
:)
2006-12-14 11:28:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like he is being honest with you. If he told you while he thought you were asleep it's because he isn't ready to tall you quite yet. Maybe he has a surprise in store for you if he wants to wait til he sees you. I don't think anyone would want you to wait if it was only to break your heart. That would be really low. I think you should give it time. Soon you will know how he truly feels.
Best of luck!
2006-12-14 11:36:39 · answer #8 · answered by I Might Even Be a Rock Star... 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as a mans point of view i can see what his doing his over there fighting this war and he don,t want to get your hopes up and he gets hurt r even killed he seem to be nice but he don't want you to hurt if he doesn't come home his think by what his doing is right and what he see as being right is keeping you as a friend in-till he makes it home that way he has no ties with no one out side of war help him by not pushing the point that way he can worry about the war instead of you
2006-12-14 11:54:59 · answer #9 · answered by killabee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like there's more to the story. Give him his time. It's not like your relationship's losing any ground. Ask him what's up if it's bothering you - but I don't think he's playing games with you. Also he brought up the marriage thing so he obviously wants to be with you.
2006-12-14 11:28:11 · answer #10 · answered by Masta Batang Dollar Billz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋