I have read several questions where people say they started to have feelings for someone they were chatting with. I have not done any chatting online so I might be mistaken but I do not see how that form of communication could lead to strong emotional feelings. Anyone have any experience or opinion?
2006-12-14 03:06:38 · 17 answers · asked by Brian 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If you haven't done any chatting online, I can see how you wouldn't think this possible. But believe me, it is. You can form friendships and relationships online just like you can in person. Sometimes, they can feel (not necessarily be, but FEEL) even stronger b/c people are "braver" online about how they feel. Yes, I know, some people (lots even) lie about themselves online. But, others are brutally honest... because they can hide behind the computer and feel braver about putting themselves out there.
Yes, I had feelings for someone. Ultimately met him, fell in love, and had an affair. My husband found out, but we worked through it. I am not the type you'd expect this from... not in a million. But, it happened to me.
2006-12-14 03:11:53 · answer #1 · answered by Adena P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be surprised if Ben doesn't leave his wife and children. You are chasing after a fantasy, and as you admit, an obsession. It's time for a little reality talk here. Stop being a fool and realize what it is you are feeling, a fantasy and just that. You have a wonderful husband that loves you and a family that needs you. You need to get your head on straight and appreciate what you have, instead of wasting time fixating on what you can't have and what is not real. If you decide to go for it you are going to have a rude shock, as you will lose your husband and family life, the guy won't leave his wife and family for you. And guess what, if he did for some strange reason, could you deal with the guilt to be with a man you don't even really know ?? Wake up.
2016-05-24 02:44:53 · answer #2 · answered by Rilla 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am not married, but have had feelings for someone just by chatting. you are able to connect more, for some even be more yourself then when out on a date or something. you tend to talk more and don't hold back as much when chatting....so the other person can learn more about you.
my last b/f was that way. we chatting online for a couple of weeks. our first phone conversation was 14hrs long...yes 14hrs! on our cell phones no doubt, but luckily we had the same service so the call was free...lmao! anyways...it was a long distance thing and when we finally met it was like we had been together forever...we weren't nervous around each other and everything just felt right! it didn't last long b/c of our kids...neither one of could move to be closer and make things work. everyone fell in love with other....the kids all got along, he loved my kids and i loved his...it was all perfect. i still love him to this day, but have accepted the fact it will never work out between us unless he moved here or i move there...but that won't happen, my life is here in TX...anyways...
so i would say that yes it has.....its very possible...but i am not saying it happens for everyone. my advice, since you are married.....stay off the computer chatting and focus on your marriage!
2006-12-14 03:18:03 · answer #3 · answered by Get_R_Done_n_Dallas 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is true..it happened to me. It happened at a time when my husband and I were having problems. I went to a chat room and met this guy and developed a strong feelings. We started talking on the phone and are good friends too. It has been 3yrs and we havent met yet because he lives in another continent in a town which happens to be my town of origin. So we plan to meet when i go home for a visit. By the way, he is married too. My husband and I are okay now and have been for a while, but i always need this other guy for support and someone to listen to me. Likewise for him.
2006-12-14 03:45:25 · answer #4 · answered by amie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have talked to other guys, but I am happy in my own marrage, so I dont let anyone get close to me so I have no feelings for anyone else. You pretty much set yourself up for divorce if you wanna chat with members of the opposite sex online. Bad idea!!
2006-12-14 03:29:45 · answer #5 · answered by My girls are my life 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
used to be better in the early stages, but I have two good opposite sex friends I have chatted with for 8 years now, we have never met but talk and email and send cards now,
so yes, internet really isnt any different than if you went to another state to visit someone and mades friends with people and used snail mail to send letters back and forth,, you can make friends anywhere
2006-12-14 03:09:08 · answer #6 · answered by rich2481 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can answer that. There are some people on the internet that like to manipluate people. For example they make theirselves out to be people they aren't. Words are stronger than actions. My mother in law has been sucked in. She listens to things they tell her. Like how beautiful she is when she is really ugly and missing her front teeth. I mean it takes a liar to make you want to like someone on the internet. Just be careful.
2006-12-14 03:09:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmmm i don't have that experience although there is this one guy that i got to know for a few weeks and we started writing and chatting and feelings just grew from there...maybe it's possible for some but it really depends
2006-12-14 03:09:23 · answer #8 · answered by labrin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, but if you're commited to your marrige that's when you end the chatting, get off the computer and spend more time with your spouse.
2006-12-14 03:08:37 · answer #9 · answered by tabithap 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've never chatted because with my luck the hot babe i'm talking to would probably be a man.
2006-12-14 03:15:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋