My heart has turned to stone, it is frigid. I want to feel love inside of it, and be able to love. But if anything all I feel is hate, towards many people around me, and sometimes to myself... I wanna be warm and be able to love... HOW?
2006-12-14 02:59:05 · 9 answers · asked by maneone22 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Do what I do, pretend to care even if you're stone cold inside. Eventually you'll make a habit out of it and you'll seem as normal as everyone else. Though least you can rest assure that you have a little secret for yourself that no one can take away.
2006-12-14 03:08:12 · answer #1 · answered by Craiova 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its easy to have your heart hardened because of the way you feel people have treated you, and so in order not to be hurt again you would rather hate and not allow people to get close to you. You hate yourself because at some level you blame yourself for allowing yourself to get hurt and not being able to have the sense to know better. But life is an experience and everyone experiences these ups and downs, and they learn to deal with those kinds of things.
Love can only come when you feel you are able to trust someone and not let fear get in your way of what you want from life. Get wiser and smarter because of your experiences dont let it make you withdraw from life and reject any opportunities that may come before you,
2006-12-14 11:15:56 · answer #2 · answered by Mini 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lets see..... my husband was like that towards everyone for the longest time, mainly because he watched his best friend that he loved more than anything kill herself in front of him (she ran into traffic). when i met adam (husband) he was never looking to love or have a relationship at all, but i'd just talk to him, and became his best friend. that thawed out his heart to where he was susceptable to loving..... it just took him letting his inhibitions go and letting himself love! now he is more wonderful and loving than anyone i've ever been with (hence the reason we're married) with an occassional cold day! but it is possible to love once you find that person that would give their life for you, that will stay with you when you're on the verge of killing someone (even if you take it out on them a little, like venting not hitting) and is there whenever you need them..... it'll open your eyes! good luck!
2006-12-14 11:11:46 · answer #3 · answered by heaven-sin-t 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Self love is the greatest journey and the most challenging. Congratulations on your first step on this journey. Realise now that it consists of bzillions of baby steps. In retrospect you will see huge advance but be gentle with yourself as you progress. When you learn to crawl your caregivers did not abuse you for falling and crawling they encouraged you to keep practicing. Be your best friend and allow your self to go at the pace that is correct for you. Read Caroline Myss The 7 Archytypes for starters, Greg Braydon Waking between the worlds. You will come across people as you grow that will be your teacher of forgiving and loning self. Our greatestenemies are our greatest teachers because they show us that which we choose not to see about ourselves. When we recognize something in them then we can heal it in ourselves. Due to childhood ....trauma we all need to seek advice from someone in the know. Professional assistance is highly recommended. Seek out their professional organisation and check them out and get personal reccommnedations from hospitals , self help groups etc. before you commit to any one healer. Follow you heart. Your intuition is a direct link to the Creator, not god of the bible who is angry and to be feared. The One True God of unconditional love , the one that created you and that loves you unconditionally. He lives within you. We need to ask for help before it can be given. Read Dorthy Virtue and she has some amazing books that will assist you in getting some very powerfull help.
Enough for now you may explode from information overload an d don't want that. Best of travels on your journey brother. Peace and love all ways is within.
2006-12-14 11:18:17 · answer #4 · answered by iamonetruth 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
since you realize it already, you're on the right track. to love, do you know anyone who really and truly loves you from their heart? if you do, hang out with that person, whoever he or she is? just talk to them, spend time with them. this will help a lot. It will take time, but this is the first step.
2006-12-14 11:12:06 · answer #5 · answered by thayellowmonkey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to live a healthy life .sports etc
turn ur hate into love.try to love people around you.
pets so lovingly
life is very beautiful
2006-12-14 15:58:06 · answer #6 · answered by UnderstandingLife 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you need counselling
2006-12-14 11:07:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
the man above is blunt. but he's right.
2006-12-14 11:07:18 · answer #8 · answered by metabolicx_7 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you're full of s.h.i.t.
if you were those things you wouldn't care enough to ask about it.
2006-12-14 11:06:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋