My boyfriends is gonna be on probation HELP!?

Question

My boyfriend is now having to spend 16 hours community service having to pay 80 bucks for the court visit all because of his brothers girlfriend. My boyfriends brother punched a kid in the face a million times for calling his gf a whore like 5 months before! My boyfriend got made because that was his friend so he went pretty crazy and wanted to just hit his brother for being so stupid well in the end the brothers girlfriend calls the police and says that my boyfriend tryed hitting her and trust me i have been with my bf for 8 months and he has never even thought of doing that he is so nice! so now the court doesnt believe him and his mom turned against him for something he DIDNT DO and now my bf has to write that stupid whore a letter appologizing im sick of his brothers gf shes ruining his family but no matter what he wont change his mind about her!!! HELPP

Answer 1

Jesica this happened before you arrived so its not even in your jurisdiction.

There are two sides to every story. So many factors point against your boyfriend: mama turned against him, court doesn't believe him - and his brother is still involved with the girlfriend. Too me there's much more to the story that hasn't been told.

You need to step back and let your boyfriend handle it on his own. You have no right to be angry at anyone - and if you have some sense about you; you'll be cautious when dealing with this man - it sounds like he has a horrible temper.

Answer 2

First of all, his sentencing is nothing. Your boyfriend needs to fight his own battles. There is nothing you can do. He could seek legal counsel if he feels his sentence was not appropriate and has evidence.

There are three sides of every story, each of the person's and the truth. It doesn't sound like you were there when it happened, so you really do not know what actually happened and which part of the truth got twisted around. He needs to do his complete his sentencing, stay away from these people and continue on with his life.

My husband has been sentence for 2-7 years from drug possessions when he was a teenager. He was picking up prescriptions for his mother and got pulled over and arrested at age 17 years old. He has been in and out of jail on probation. When he was on probation, he was in the wrong place at the wrong time. He was arrested, but released the same day because the police found he really had nothing to do with the situation. Because he got arrested, he received a probation violation and was sentenced for 2-7 years. Is that fair? No, but it's the law and how things are written.

Answer 3

Something is not right about your story. You don't get arrested or put on probation just because someone said that you "tried" to hit them. There has to be some kind of proof.
I'm guessing that your bf got into trouble over the fight he had with his brother. Not because of anything the gf might have said.
8 months is not a very long time to really know somebody, just the fact that your bf got mad at his brother over something that really wasn't his business, tells me that there are some anger issues there.

Answer 4

Unfortunatly, unless he can prove it he has no case. The only thing he can do is try and find someone else who saw what happened that night and try to clear his name. Also, look back over the police reports of that night and try and see if there are too many glaring discrepencies (unlikely, but it is worth a shot). Other than that he may have to write the letter and take the hit. Sorry. I hope it works out for the btter and not the worse.

Answer 5

It appears as though there is tension in the significant other's family. Physical violence is primal. Personally, I would use the happenstance to distance myself and find a more civilized family to be interested in.

In the small time it took for events to unfold, your past 8 month's investment in your love interest is wasted. He now has a criminal record and a history of violent behavior. If he was unable to convince his own family and a judge, chances are that you may be guilty of letting your affection for him overshadow the possibly that he is actually as capable of violence as his brother is.

As for the "trouble-making" girlfriend, I suggest that you not engage her in any way. She seems adept at creating dubious scenarios and making them stick. It is possible that the brother's being charged for his brother's actions is due to the ... quiet ... that happens whenever someone else pays for the debts of another. As time passes, it will become harder and harder to respect any of them.

There are a good number of restrictions placed on anyone who is on probation. If care is not exercised, he could further his future difficulties in very few modest moves. Ever tried to find a grocery store that does not sell beer? Ever had to find a restaurant that does not have a liquor license? Ever had to screen your friends and or casual acquaintances for previous legal or criminal involvement? Life is usually complicated enough without all the added stress that you have somehow received vicariously through the misunderstanding or rare acts of your current significant other.

If you plan to make a future for yourself that is healthy, consider who to take with you along life's path.

Answer 6

You should get your boyfriend, your boyfriend's brother, his girlfriend, the kid who called her a whore, and a few other assorted family members together and all of you should go on the Jerry Springer TV show. Jerry will help all of you get through this ordeal. Good luck!

Answer 7

first I would start off by minding your own business, it sounds like you are making more of a big deal of it than anyone else. if he is in the process of receiving probation there is simply nothing you can do and quite frankly he should've received jail time. just because someone calls someone else a whore does not justifye physically harming them whether by hitting, pushing, spitting, etc. he should have controlled himself better than that and that should be a warning to you, because if he flies off the handle for a verbal comment, what will happen when you piss him off? think about that. you can't control how people react to you but you can control how you respond back

Answer 8

That hard to deal with but its only 16 hours while he gone hang out with some of your girlfriends go shopping or maybe even a spa to get it off your mind

Answer 9

This sounds like all of you guys should be in clown makeup...drive into the ring in a little car...jump out and start smacking one another with foam ballbats and squirting one another with seltzer water.

This is all too funny. You see...this is why cops hate people more often than not.
What a fiasco....this is too funny to be true.

Answer 10

Write the letter, get it over and stay away from the gf. If she is that bad, they will eventually figure it out. If he is old enough to move out,then he should. Just stay away, the best you and he can do is let it cool off.