First of all, this is a real question, so I want real advice.
In a nutshell, me and a pregnant friend of mine's boyfriend slept together. He got me pregnant as well. She knows all this now (it was 5 months ago) and I appologized and we made up.
But just recently I got a call from her sister. Her baby was stillborn. I'm afraid to go and see her because I don't want to make it worse but I feel really terrible about the entire situation. What's a girl to do?
2006-12-14 02:47:31 · 14 answers · asked by Cindarella R 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Thank you all so much for the advice. It's gonna be so hard to choose a best answer.
2006-12-15 00:00:19 · update #1
Send her a sympany card and include a note that you're going to keep your distance because you don't to make things worse for her, but that if she wants to talk or hang out you'd love to see her. Then let her decide if it'll hurt more to have you around or away.
2006-12-14 02:57:38 · answer #1 · answered by tabithap 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you and her made up already, there isn't anything to be afraid of. It's not your fault the baby was stillborn. Instead of going over there, call her. Ask her if she's okay (of course she's not) but as long as she sees you're trying. Ask her if there's anything you could do for her. But if she becomes defiant and/or too harsh.....just step back and let things cool off.
2006-12-14 11:28:20 · answer #2 · answered by apache_lizz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to at least call her, and try to see if she wants to see you. If she let's you, provide all the support you can. And if she resists you at first, give her some space. I hope everything works out for you because friendship is very important.
2006-12-14 11:33:41 · answer #3 · answered by Cocoa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may be very uncomfortable for you but you need to let her know you are there for her. If you don't go see her call her and tell her you are there for her and ask her if she is up for some company. I would definately make contact with her.
2006-12-14 11:07:14 · answer #4 · answered by melissa_anne_maison 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you guys have really made up, go see her and be there for her and not him. And make sure she sees you are there for her. If her sister calledyou, she might have mentioned wanting to see you and needing your friendship.
2006-12-14 10:55:15 · answer #5 · answered by jaws1013 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay away. The last thing she needs right now is to see you pregnant with the father of her dead baby. Stay far away.
2006-12-14 10:50:50 · answer #6 · answered by BAnne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relax and Take good care of yourself. Face the reality
2006-12-14 10:58:41 · answer #7 · answered by Happy : 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should just keep your distance for now.She does'nt need this right now.Maybe a card would be nice though.
2006-12-14 10:53:12 · answer #8 · answered by birdlady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are unsure of her reaction call first...and if she seems ok, go by a see her.
2006-12-14 11:03:19 · answer #9 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no need to be worry since you said you apologized and she accepted your apology...!
However, remember you said you apologized, no more drama!
2006-12-14 10:58:09 · answer #10 · answered by Jhonny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋